purplesoccer34 Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 I met this guy through a friend and we went on a few dates. On the third date, he started to make physical contact and kissed me at the end of the date. He's really open, and so I feel like I can talk to him very easily. However, every now and then he says things that sort of catch me off guard. On one of our dates I said, "Oh I know that girl. We went to high school together." He said, "I hope you're not embarrassed to be seen with me." This happened another time, when I ended up running into another friend. He said something about me being embarrassed to be seen with him. I reassured him both times that this was definitely not the case. I have no idea where he would get such an idea from lol. Why would he say that? We also don't really talk at all, unless we see each other in person. We don't text or call or anything. I try to initiate some conversations through text, but he ends it after like 2 messages. I hope that's not a red flag? I'm just not used to this I guess, because my ex and I used to talk all day and everyday, even when we weren't together in person. Our texting and phone conversations would go on forever but I do realize that not everyone is like this. Other than this, this guy very kind and considerate, and he always makes plans to see me.
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 He sounds very insecure. Even though I am shy, I never had a relationship that when on the phone or email, would make things short. In fact some of my replies here can be lengthy. It may be too soon to say if there is a connex yet. Some peeps need more time than others. If things seem slow by turkey day, then dump him for turkey at home with family. 1
smackie9 Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 He has a bit of social anxiety, delusions of self image, which would explain the self doubt. This can't be cured by reassurance. Sorry but this guy needs therapy. 1
Toodaloo Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 He has a bit of social anxiety, delusions of self image, which would explain the self doubt. This can't be cured by reassurance. Sorry but this guy needs therapy. ^^^^^^ this and/ or a bit of confidence ^^^^^ 1
andytownsend Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 He may be unsure of himself and needs assurance from you that you want to be with him. I think you both need to talk it out, so you'd understand each other and what to expect in your relationship.
Gaeta Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 I would ask him: Is there any reasons I should be embarrassed being seen with you? I doubt he says it again after that. 2
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