headhunter22 Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 Here I am at 70 yrs old getting divorce, and getting dumped by girlfriend: I met this charming women on line, we met had coffee and hit it off instantly. Only one problem on my side, I didn't tell her I was married, both separated. We continue are dating, it was heavy after 3 months she wanted to get married, (who husband had died 5 yrs previous). Since I worked for the Gov't I was called overseas prior to Christmas, on my way home, I called her from Germany and told her I should be home by then. She informed me that her daughter had found out I was married. But she wanted to see me, to find out why I didn't tell her. We met, I told her and her son, what the situation was about my job, my name, and my marriage. We talked all weekend, she knew I was getting a divorce, and she still wanted to stay in the relationship.(we should of ended it then). She said I would have to earn my trust back to her, for the last 2 yrs I had. Now my divorce is coming up,, and now this girlfriend wants out.....First she started saying she wanted a break, then within 2 days she wanted out She called back and said come down for the weekend and talk so I did, had gone out the dinner it was like nothing had happen between us, Fri night same thing,, dinner dancing, came back and made love, again like nothing had happen. Sat morning I asked her, how she felt, she still wanted out. I got dressed she was making breaksfast, and I said are you serious, she said yes. We started talking, she said she didn't love me anymore, and probably never did. I said what about all the emails and texts stating how much she loved me, her answer was it didn't matter, she lied. I had just returned from overseas from one of the most horrible missions I have ever been on. I was devasted, depress, I grab my clothes and stormed out of the house. I do have a temper and it show, we have since met for coffee and stated that she could stay with me because of my actions, She knows how to push my buttons, and does it very well......so here I am, depress,, wanting to call her, but wont, and she wont. The other problem is that we have a business together, I cant not remain friends will her,never mind business partner, HELP
Frank2thepoint Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 She called back and said come down for the weekend and talk so I did, had gone out the dinner it was like nothing had happen between us, Fri night same thing,, dinner dancing, came back and made love, again like nothing had happen. Sat morning I asked her, how she felt, she still wanted out. I got dressed she was making breaksfast, and I said are you serious, she said yes. We started talking, she said she didn't love me anymore, and probably never did. I said what about all the emails and texts stating how much she loved me, her answer was it didn't matter, she lied. I had just returned from overseas from one of the most horrible missions I have ever been on. I was devasted, depress, I grab my clothes and stormed out of the house. Ouch. That's a really painful sting to receive. Some people can be very cold and dismissive, such as your girlfriend/ex-girlfriend. I've been through such incidents in two past relationships. I can understand your anger/temper in such a situation. Anyone would be very hurt and angry at being stung with the message that the other person was never in love. It seems both of you are very stubborn and have lot of pride. Someone will have to break the no contact since you are both in a business together. If you can't remain friends with her, then your business will suffer. Maybe you could talk with her and just agree on having a professional relationship, laying down rules that both of you will make an effort to not have your personal relationship spill into the business.
stillafool Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 You are in a very difficult situation because she is your business partner. I am glad you had the courage to divorce rather than continue to cheat on your wife. I would normally recommend no contact in order to heal from this breakup but since you are business partners that doesn't seem possible. Do you plan to continue on with the business or sell it? If you continue you will have to sit down with her and decide how to go forward. Please do not start begging her to come back to you as this will surely push her further away. You have to show her that you are strong and moving on because women like strong men. This is not to get her back but to strenthen you to go forward with the breakup. Only time will tell if she changes her mind but don't make the mistake of being too hopeful.
preraph Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 I'm sorry this is going so badly for you. Were you in business before you got involved, or is that something she talked you into? I am being nosy in case she is using you to make money off of. She certainly does seem to change her mind a lot.
Author headhunter22 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 we got into after we started dating
Recommended Posts