quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 (edited) An OLD prospect had said two days ago that 'it would be lovely' when I asked her is she wanted to go on a date. Next day I offered up some dates that I am free The following day (today) she messages me asking what I was up to yesterday but doesn't mention anything about the dates I said I was free. I haven't mentioned it either as I don't want to appear needy or too pushy. However I have thought about this an it could be that she is trying to put me on the back burner or perhaps something less sinister that she doesn't yet know when she is free, but she has paved straight over what I asked. I don't want to be left hanging. Should I ask again? Or would that be too much as if I'm chasing or should I leave it a week, as she said she would be without a car for a week. I don't want to be too 'much' but I hate leaving things hanging Whats the way of handling when someone paves over a date set up attempt? Edited October 22, 2014 by quidproquo89 added more
Toodaloo Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 I think that she may be backing away. Still sort of interested but backing off. Ask again, make it a specific day/ time etc. If she doesn't respond to that then move on or she will be playing silly beggars with you for months.
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 I think that she may be backing away. Still sort of interested but backing off. Ask again, make it a specific day/ time etc. If she doesn't respond to that then move on or she will be playing silly beggars with you for months. cheers, just sent a light text asking. That sort of thing winds me up - either lets go out or just go. If she wiggles out of this one or ignores it I delete her. Thanks
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 another OLD prospect sent me this in response to asking for a specific date 'erm, could I let you know nearer the time? I don't want to say yes to a day and then have to cancel' This was asking about next week. Another case of flaking/backing off or literally not sure when free? What should I do about this one. I said okay last night and we can sort it out next week. She is very busy with three jobs soo.. dunno
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 first OLD prospect said she hadn't seen the text as she hasn't signal at her house - we are arranging a date now 1
Andy_K Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 Good luck. Just out of curiosity, where abouts in the uk are you from? You seem to be doing pretty well on the online dating front.
Toodaloo Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 'erm, could I let you know nearer the time? I don't want to say yes to a day and then have to cancel' Don't bother with her anymore. She is flaky and while she may have 3 jobs she will know roughly when she is working and be able to plan around them...
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 Good luck. Just out of curiosity, where abouts in the uk are you from? You seem to be doing pretty well on the online dating front. I'm in the South West England. I've had people message me saying that my approach is different to other who are so obviously pervy and after sex. I send decent messages based on profiles, I don't tend to send a message to somebody unless they have put effort into there profile. Do you do OLD?
Toodaloo Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 first OLD prospect said she hadn't seen the text as she hasn't signal at her house - we are arranging a date now Good Luck! 1
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 Don't bother with her anymore. She is flaky and while she may have 3 jobs she will know roughly when she is working and be able to plan around them... She told me she would love to meet me, but is very nervous. I will send a message in the week and that will be the final attempt
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 Good Luck! hot date on Thursday ;P 1
Andy_K Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 I'm in the South West England. I've had people message me saying that my approach is different to other who are so obviously pervy and after sex. I send decent messages based on profiles, I don't tend to send a message to somebody unless they have put effort into there profile. Do you do OLD? I might have to pick up some tips from you! Have taken this to pm to avoid clogging your thread up
Toodaloo Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 She told me she would love to meet me, but is very nervous. I will send a message in the week and that will be the final attempt Flakey. She is pulling the "little girl" one on you. You will have trouble with that one... Good to hear about your date on Thursday. I shall look forward to your report on Friday!
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 Flakey. She is pulling the "little girl" one on you. You will have trouble with that one... Good to hear about your date on Thursday. I shall look forward to your report on Friday! cheers dude, she was my favourite anyway. Same age, very interesting travelling life, same surname lol. And seriously beautiful eyes and big boobies ha ha. (i'm not a perv lol). I'll let you know. 1
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 Flakey. She is pulling the "little girl" one on you. You will have trouble with that one... Good to hear about your date on Thursday. I shall look forward to your report on Friday! time will tell. I wont move on completely till I know for sure
Toodaloo Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 I might have to pick up some tips from you! Have taken this to pm to avoid clogging your thread up I was thinking about doing it in a few months so may also be asking for a few tips!
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 forgot to say the date is next thursday lol
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 I was thinking about doing it in a few months so may also be asking for a few tips! a few tips from me or Andy? I'm here to help as always
gaius Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 I just wouldn't reply until she answers your question, it's probably a test. One girl changed the topic when I asked for her number so I changed the topic again to how it's been nice talking to her and she spit it right out.
Author quidproquo89 Posted October 22, 2014 Author Posted October 22, 2014 I just wouldn't reply until she answers your question, it's probably a test. One girl changed the topic when I asked for her number so I changed the topic again to how it's been nice talking to her and she spit it right out. cheers dude, we have resolved that now. She had no signal and missed my text. We are going out next Thursday 1
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