fandan Posted October 21, 2014 Posted October 21, 2014 I met a really great guy and we hit things off extremely well in what felt like a fairytale romance. After 4 dates, he asked me to be exclusive and the next few days he spent planning out our future dates and things escalated very quickly into what felt like a relationship. I wasn’t used to moving so quickly, but we seemed to be so compatible that I allowed myself to follow his lead. A few dates later he confessed that he had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship 3 months ago, it was over for good but he was having a hard time moving on. He told me he was scared because he wasn't expecting to meet someone like me so soon and he wanted to start taking things slower. He told me he could see a future with me, he really wanted it to work out and that he was afraid of messing things up. He said he thought he was ready to start something new, but he also realized it was too soon. He was still talking to his ex as friends, and he felt it wasn’t fair to me. He also said that once he is completely ready, I’m the girl he wants to be with. I said, I understood and I reciprocated his feelings, so I would be willing to take things at his pace. A week went by and I gave him space, I didn’t contact him for a few days. When we spoke again he told me he still felt he wasn’t ready, although we had strong chemistry, he didn’t think we could go any further and he hopes that I find someone else. I said I accepted his decision and we haven’t spoken since (it's been a few days). I’m gutted by his decision not to move forward and frustrated that the timing was so off. I’m not going to contact him and date other people, but I want to know if there is still a chance here? Should I contact him again in a couple of weeks/months? Is it possible he could come back to me? Or was I just a type of rebound that will have no lasting effect?
SoThatHappened Posted October 21, 2014 Posted October 21, 2014 Should I contact him again in a couple of weeks/months? Is it possible he could come back to me? Or was I just a type of rebound that will have no lasting effect? Don't contact him. The ball is in his court. You may have been a rebound, unfortunately. This screams of him trying to work things out with his ex. My take is that he has his ex still in his life, possibly trying to work things out while you're a backup plan. It sucks to think or realize that, but that's my take. Either way, the ball is in his court. Let him come to you. Or, write this off and find someone without that baggage.
SoThatHappened Posted October 21, 2014 Posted October 21, 2014 Also, I don't care if I was still emotionally a wreck from another woman; if I found a girl who I "could see a future with"... any other baggage of mine would be dropped immediately.
David87 Posted October 22, 2014 Posted October 22, 2014 Unfortunately you were a rebound for him, maybe he thought he was ready for a new relationship....Either way the ball is in his court as the person above me said, but I'd suggest to move on and forget about this dude.
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