Nubianangel Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 Well yesterday was my birthday and who should happen to call? The ex I haven't heard from since early January. I don't want to bore anyone with my story once again but here goes for those who aren't familiar: -After 5.5 months of being in a relationship, he needed space because of work, family issues and just not being happy with himself. -We continued the "relationship benefits" without the actual "relationship" title and one day after a nasty argument, I slept with a former ex. -Current ex breaks up with me and immediately we have NC but I break it by calling twice. The conversation is pleasant but detached for us both and we haven't spoken since (yesterday would've made 2 months NC). So, as I was saying, he called and all the feelings I tried to suppress came to the surface. We had a great conversation. We discussed the breakup and the possibility of being friends. I let him know that though the breakup has been hard, it's been fun rediscovering myself and I'm happily single. He admitted he'd dated a bit but was not looking for anything serious. He also told me he missed me and that a friendship is something he's considering but is afraid that being around me will re-ignite his feelings as well. I suggested we talk now and again on the phone and move on to the next step of "hanging out" when we both feel ready. He agreed and we exchanged numbers. And maybe I'm over analyzing but he seemed VERY interested in my love life and whether I had thought of rekindling what we had. Words can't express how I feel. Elated. Confused. Vulnerable. I love him very much and its always hurt to know he was no longer a part of my life because my own actions. I could never forgive myself for that and I only prayed that he'd return and atleast be a friend. It looks like that might be happening. My question is this, am I jumping the gun or does this look promising?
HokeyReligions Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 Go slow. Keep communications open and honest. It may work out and if it doesn't perhaps you will both find some closure that you need to permanently end the relationship. It does sound promising though!
Author Nubianangel Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 Thanks Hokey... I'll control my emotions and take it very slow. Our initial mistake in the beginning of our relationship was that we didn't take the time to become friends. It began quickly and intensely and pretty much ended the same. It'll be nice getting reacquainted and hopefully building a solid foundation on friendship.
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