heartshaped Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 So this past weekend I went out with a guy I met through mutual friends. Date went well and we have a ton in common. We had talked only about a week or so before the actual date so things are still very much in the early days. I would say my interest level is a six or a seven. I'm not actively pursuing any other dating prospects and just declined a date yesterday actually since I'm positive I'll be seeing this gentleman again. This is rare for me though because I don't typically decline other dates after just one date with someone. Only thing has me a bit confused is I'm not all over the moon about this guy. I like him and I would even say I like him a good deal for someone I just met as I'm already thinking about us going to a particular event a few weeks away. But I'm not all butterflies and starry eyed. It's been so long since I really ran across someone new I genuinely liked I'm not sure if my interest level is normal or if I should be all butterflies yet. I mean it's only been one date or meetup or whatever you want to call it. So LS, what do you think?
BluEyeL Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 I think being over the moon immediately is a highly unrealistic expectation. Moreover, it's not even good, because you do not actually know the person so what are you going to be over the moon about?? You'll just make up a fantasy and then you'll wake up. Better to take things slow and become over the moon after you build up feelings and connection in time. 1
Author heartshaped Posted October 21, 2014 Author Posted October 21, 2014 I think being over the moon immediately is a highly unrealistic expectation. Moreover, it's not even good, because you do not actually know the person so what are you going to be over the moon about?? You'll just make up a fantasy and then you'll wake up. Better to take things slow and become over the moon after you build up feelings and connection in time. I think overall that's been a problem of mine in the past. I get infatuated with men early on and then usually at some point become disinterested as that fantasy ends. But on the opposite end I have also had the problem of dating guys I weren't really into in hopes that something would develop on my side of things and then nothing ever does. I wouldn't say this guy is here or there. I'm not infatuated with him nor am I dating him in hopes of my feelings changing. I like him. He's attractive, honest, funny, and attentive. I'm just not all gaga over him yet and I think that threw me. I think I have trouble realistically gauging what my feelings and responses should be especially since I do have this tendency to mistake infatuation and lust for liking.
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