jadeddd Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 Hello friends, I am 3 months post break up. The unimaginable pain I once felt now feels just like a dull pain. I still think about the whole situation, but not as much as usual and I don't cry anymore. I do not look at my ex or his new gf social media anymore. I don't know anything going on or look for anything at all. No pictures, no updates, just nothing. I have to say not knowing anything looking for anything has helped me greatly. However an odd thing has happened. For almost 7 days straight I have had dreams involving my ex. They can be anything from him telling me what a mistake he has made, how much he misses me and how it isn't working out with his new gf. The first couple days I chalked it up to dreams and no big deal, just went about my day. Then by day 4,5,6... I started to get annoyed and started to feel really sad. By day 7 I cried. What is this? Are these subconsious supressed feelings? Is this a sign or message? Why the hell... When I am finally living my life and feeling okay, am I having to deal with these dreams that are resurfacing so many feelings and memories? Anyone have some advice or any thoughts on this? It is starting to get frustrating and really disruptive to my sleep.
Priv Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 No advice. Just thoughts. It is your mind processing the breakup. Happens to us all. Try not to give the dreams more attention than necessary by giving meaning to them. There is no more meaning to it than your brain rearranging your past and the emotions that go with it, which is painful for sure but also healthy.
me85 Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 Ya, the dream thing. It's no fun. 2 or 3 weeks ago I dreamt of my ex (BU 15 months ago) every night for a week. Not just of him but him with his new gf and it was just weird. Didn't wake up feeling good that's for sure. But I soon forgot about them and didn't let them ruin my day by any means. You dream about what's going on in your subconscious. Try not to look at it as signs or hidden messages. We all want to know "why this" or "why that" but for some things there is no reason at all. It just is what it is.
H245 Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 You're brain is still processing the breakup. I have them as well and it's been 5 months post BU. For a while I questioned what the heck was wrong with me. Between people here and my therapist, they all said the same thing about my mind still processing the breakup and letting go. Keep living your life and the dreams will eventually subside in time. I rarely get them myself but they pop in there to say hi every once in a while.
loversquarrel Posted October 23, 2014 Posted October 23, 2014 I've been having a ton of dreams lately about an ex. Completely normal. They suck and often times leave us waking up with a dull depressed feeling in our guts. It's part of the grieving process and is understandable as you are going through experiencing the death of a relationship.
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