Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 3 WEEKS!!!!! TO LITTLE TIME TO KNOW IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE...MHO
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 I guess that's what I will do. I will just not be available to him. I was making myself available, now I won't. I will leave and not worry about if he is trying to call or wants to see me. Before I thought I would in the wrong if I did this, but he is forcing me to do this, so I will. That's fine with me. When he can't get in touch with me or something, he better not act like it's my fault we aren't together. He did this, not me. I am not gonna stress myself out to make him happy. What kind of relationship is he trying to form between us if he is diong this? That's what Ic an't figure out!
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 NeverSayNever, I have been trying to tell him that he needs to spend more time with me/wine and dine me/etc etc.. If he is trying to make me fall in love with him, he is DEFINITELY giong about it he wrong way. I am about to say **** him unless he starts acting different real quick. I am not giong to allow myself to feel this way much longer, and i have tried to tell him. He shold be investing time in me, not staying away from me, trying to make me fall for him. That's why I don't wanna tell him I love him, cause neither one of us has really had time to really love each other, and not spending any time together hardly doesn't help matters. This is what I have tried to say. Why did he said for me not to worry, that he cares bout me and is not going anywhere? See, I am getting two different things here. And if I go shopping or something, I will still have to deal with this the next time I talk to him. I don't know what the hell even wants to hear or anything anyways now, so what the hell. **** him and the horse he rode in on.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 Honestly, I am not trying to dessect every word he says, but there is a point where you have to know where things are heading and stuff. Ya know? I can go with the flow, but it is to the point it has just gotten plum confusing, and making me feel worse instead of better. Ok, like I keep saying, I will wait a little. See what happens. I know I sound like I need to chill, it's just that if you only knew how he makes me feel. He is aggravating me. I have tried to chill and stuff, then he says something else. Don't you agree with me that he needs to stop making me upset if he is trying to bring me closer to him? He just contradicts himself sometimes, I can't help but be confused...
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 I am afraid the whole reason he is doing this is BECAUSE I haven't thrown that word aorund lightly. My God, what does he expect> He should understand that neither one of us have had the time to really love each other, not get upset about it and act like I am totally uninterested in him! So I wanted to slow down he must have thought, so if he wants to slow down like he said, he needs to stop asking me if I love him and he needs to stop saying he loves me! Cause I think even if I do tell him, he will still act weird. cause sometimes he acts like he is the one trying to give me time, then at the same time he acts liek he needs time, then he acts like I am supposed to tell him I love him. Oh my Gosh!
Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 Don't let him get the worst of you...You know what bottom line is...You want to be loved, touched, wine and dined, you want to feel like a woman...and theirs nothing wrong with that...if you telling him and showing too doesn't get through his big head well you know what to do...let him go...he'll come back and if he doesn't he was never yours... Just don't bring it up anymore...even though your dyeing if he doesn't want to see you act like it doesn't faze you...and then when he does want to see rock his world..when you see him...don't be shy or act mad..pretend nothings wrong and give him kisses here and there, flirt with him, give him hints about sexual encounters but really not doing it....basically drive him crazy when your together and trust me he'll want to spend more time with you...if suducing him doesn't work hunny sorry to tell you he's gay :lmao: ...sorry had to put it out!!!
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 Hahaha! I know what you're saying, and I will do that. I do want to be treated like a woman, no doubt. I don't expect too much, I do expect my feelings and needs and wants to be considered if he expects me to do the same. He is for sure into sex. He was so sweet too when I saw him last night. He took his time and stuff and wanted me to get off, he kept telling me. He was so so sweet. lol I also told him that I am getting more attached to him the more we have sex, it's the way he does it! lol Girl!!!!! Anyways, I just need to know what he wants, if he really wants to slow down or is just saying that to try to make me want to be with him really bad, and whatever else. Anyways, I will do just that though, what you stated in you last post and see what happens. Just not sure if anything will work right now, I mean, the way he is acting. Like you do what you think he wants, then it's like it was wrong again. It is turning into that, and I refuse to worry thatm uch about it. I will just see what happens. I don't think I can put up with this contradicting mess much longer though.
Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 You had sex already?? Not that it's bad but maybe that's what he means...he wants to move slow with that part of the relationship not YOU!!!!
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 Yeah, we did. I mean, if that's what he is trying to take slow, then why did he initiate the sex last night? Does that make sense? I mean, he did say onetime that we shouldn't have sex all the time, then all the sudden he wants to do it all the time. And I am just like...what???
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 So you're saying that he might want to take the emotional attachment part slower? That would be kinda good, really. I just wish he would stop asking me if I love him and him stop telling me he loves me then if that's what he wants. That's why I am sitting here just trying to figure out what he is trying to tell me he wants.
Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 Wow that changes the whole story..!! You don't always have to have sex when you see him..play around tease oral sex is good too...make him wait sometimes to "get you" The less you put out the (for the most part) the more he's going to wonder why?? why doesn't she want me?? what am I doing wrong??? what does she want??? you make him wonder...make him doubt himself and turn the tables around so you can have control!!!
Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 Make the catch that much greater when he does get you...challenge his mind not his motives...of course he might want to slow down the part...he's probably falling to fast for him to realize what hit him...girl!! You're probably rocking his world and you're not showing any signs to him that you're falling for him the way he's falling for you...
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 Sounds good to me......!!!! Ok, so what can I do without him telling me we need to slow down? I don't know whether to run away or come closer sometimes, and I do think it may have to do with insecurities on his part. I want to tell him I genuinely interested in him though without him telling me we need to slow down. It's like he wants me to act interested in all, and sometimes when I do he acts like we need to slow down. I just don't like that, it makes me feel bad. So I will do like you said though. Good idea, I iwll just do that and act like nothing is wrong and try not to even worry about it.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 I want to let him know I really like him alot now.
Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 Exactly...but you can't hold in your feeling either for to long...it's only the beginning so yeah why not take it slow...if you have the urge to kiss him, kiss him...if you want to simply hug him hug him...do whatever comes natural to you...if he pushes you away and tells you to slow down (if you are) tell him your a caring person and you like affection and also like to give it...you need to get to know each other so you know when enough is enough for both of you... Go with the flow...do what comes from your heart...don't try to make yourself fall in love ...let it just happen!!
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 I think the biggest part aobut him right now is not kissing, although he did say several days ago that we should cut back on the sex, yet wants to have it everytime I see him(men...) but yeah, he makes the biggest issue about spending time together, saying we shouldn't spend every day togehter, but wants to know if I love him. Ok, so I will chill and act like nothing's wrong no matter what.... unless he really just crosses the line or something, of course!!! So you really thnk it mostly has to do with him falling for me and him thinking I may not feel the same way??
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 Oops, didn't mean that like I typed it. I mean, to him, kissing and hgging whatever is fine, but he was btiching aobut sex the otehr day, but yet he always wants to have it now.
Author blue_eyes18 Posted March 11, 2005 Author Posted March 11, 2005 Do you think that amybe he is scared he is falling too fast and that I don't feel the same way, so that by staying apart, he thinks I will miss him more and make me want him more? MAybe that's why he said last night that absence makes the heart grow fonder. I just don't want to show I am into him then him tell me to slow down, lol. I can't handle the contradiction.
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