What is he doing???

March 11, 2005

Hey everyone. I am just wondering what is up with my guy. Ok. He doesn't think we should see each other EVERY single day. Last night, he finally talked to me plainly about it. He asked me if I am worried or something, and not to be, cause he isn't going anywhere, and that he cares about me. THen he said that time apart makes the heart grow fonder.

Also, he said he doesn't want anyone's feeling's to get hurt(mine or his).

I asked him what he meant by that, that he didn't want me to get more attached to him or somethings? He said no, that's not what he means. He said we should take it slow right now.

THen he said he would call me tomorrow(which would be today)

So out of all this, what do you think is going on? Before we had this long talk last night, he had told me he loved me(lol) and asked if I loved him.

It gets on my nerves how he says crap like do you love me and stuff and then says what he said last night(although it wasn't bad, it isj ust confusing)

I know what he is saying, I just wonder if there is something holding him back that

could possibly be my fault or even if it's not my fault, do you think the way he is doing is healthy? Cause he is the one who first acted like he wanted me around everyday and all. Then, oneday he acted different after I told him something. I basically was telling him I wanted to slow down, but not like he is doing!

I think he is just trying to make sure I have real feelings for him.?????????? But last night, I remember him saying"I think you like me enough..." and then he didn't finish. So he knows I like him. Maybe he thinks he made a mistake by jumping in and w as afraid he would scare me away. Anyways, I know it has nothing to do with him not liking me or anything like that.

I just wish he would stop asking me if I love him. ****. It is confusing enough. What the hell does he want? I can't tell hardly right now.

March 11, 2005

well have you told him you love him, i mean if you? cause if you haven't he just wants reassurance he told you he loves you and if you haven't said the same back then he might be freaking out cause he jumped the gun.........

March 11, 2005

Yeah, that's what I was thinking BUT he said last noght we should take it slow. Like, it feels as though one minute he is wanting me to say I love him, and then he is wondering why I want to see him all the time. I mean, what does he want? Like I said, I think it may be because he is trying to make me decide by spending more time away from him? Or is it he can't make up his own mind? But when we talk, he assures me he is not going anywhere.

March 11, 2005

I don't think it's cause he can't make up his own mind, it is something else. More than likely, he may just be trying to keep himself from being hurt, but what's the deal with not seeing each other every day? He wants me to say I loveh im but doesn't wanna see me every day? It's just the whole point of it. I think he is trying to play games to see how I feel.

March 11, 2005

Holding back??? On the contrary he's wanting the relationship to last longer...My bf use to live 5 min from me and now he lives 30 min from me...we only see each other Tues. and Thurs and now he sleeps over on the weekends...the space gives you time to do your own things...spend time with yourself...get your nails done, hair, even go shopping, which some men hate to do...

Since I don't see my bf like I use to, now when I do see him the excitement is so much better and our relationship has built a lot of trust (he lives in the dorms)...

The beginning of a relationship everything is new so of course you want to spend more time than usual but just see it as your relationship will get stronger and if let say the space brings you guys apart...then you wonder if what he's up too is no good

March 11, 2005

I know what you are saying, I guess that's why he said he thinks I like him enough. I guess he meant enough to be apart without it making us grow apart. So obviously now I know that he knows I really like him. Ok, so I don't feel guilty anymore. I think it would be good too if we don't stay up each other's butt, it's just that I was wondering if there was more to it.

March 11, 2005

And I would like to think he is doing this for the better. I'm sure he is. I won't play games unless he does. Actually, I won't play period. I ain't got the time or energy for it.

March 11, 2005

i still think he is freaking out............... he told you he loves you which in itself is a big deal for a guy i mean you just don't tell a girl you love her. well at least i have never met a guy who has just let that cat out of the bag like that. of course he wants the reply of "i love you too" i mean when a girl tells a guy she loves him and he doesn't respond the girl starts freaking.

so with that i mean do you love him? like him? just getting to know him to see where this relationship leads? whatever it is just lay the cards out for him that way he knows how you feel for real if your not ready to tell him you love then tell him that......and ask the same in return that he tells the deal no games......

March 11, 2005

A guy knows how you feel about him just by the comments you make or the fact that you got upset because of the little distance he put in your relationship...he knows you like him he just doesn't want you to not like him anymore...and the same goes for him...he probably likes you so much that he doesn't want to get bored of you and think differently of you...

Just take it slow and see how it goes..you never know this just might be what the doc ordered

March 11, 2005

NTB< you're right. That's what I was thinking. So this is why he is taking this slow now, because I basically told him I wanted that/ I told him yesterday that I like him being honest, and i think him and i both are doing a good job of being honest with each other. Now I have to figure out what I want to tell him. I mean, I would like to love him, and I do care about what happens to him, but I am not gonna sit there and tell him I love him when I haven't really spent over 3 weeks with him. I mean, I told him that everytime I have said it too soon, it goes away. That's why he is acting like this I guess. it's true though, I am tired of the bull****. I am ready to spend my energy on someone who is honest and means what they say and isn't into playing games, that's why I asked him in my own way to slow down/ I think he took it even more seriously than I thought he would. I just hope he doesn't dip out. I hope he understands that I just want him to actually mean he loves me if he says it, not just say it. I am tired of being hurt. I think he might be too.

March 11, 2005

((((NeverSayNever)))) You're right! lol

March 11, 2005

You know what though? Like, ever since he started acting like this, I feel like I am not into him as much sometimes, or maybe it's just cause I thought he was trying to bull****. That will turn me off SO fast these days it ain't even funny. It's just that since everything with us is fairly new, I would like to spend time with him and not hear how we shouldn't or something. It is kinda turning me off. Then again, it is kinda turning me on! lol

Ok, that's crazy. I just wish I could know for sure where in the hell we are heading. I think it is forward, and then again, I feel like we need to have some fun. I;m sorry, but I can't just fall head over heels and all this other **** he might be wanting me to do without effort from him. Maybe what he is doing right now IS his effort, I know, but Gosh, can't he just try to make things a little happier instead of making me wonder what the f*** is going on? I really don't know how I am gonna feel if he don't stop. That's just what guys do though, this is how he plans on making me crazy for him. lol It must be. (I have a brother, you know. haha) I will give it a few days and see what happens. I know he will call me tonight, but since I saw him last night for like an hour, he probably won't plan on seeing me today. I think he was gonna not see me yesterday so that we could do something today. I think it would be just fine though if we still did something fun today! lol Is that bad? No! What he should do is take me somewhere and us have fun instead of trying to make me miss him tonight, for real.

March 11, 2005

you guys have only been seeing each other for 3 weeks right?

i dunno this is to serious for me too fast but that is just me

hope all works out for you

March 11, 2005

An Hour??? That's what he calls spending quality time with you...oh no!!! The only way he's going to know how you feel is if you tell him..

Be like ...I understand what you're saying about not seeing each other but what about my wishes??? I want this , this and this...and let him know...if he cares for you like he says he does, he would take into consideration what you've told him...if he acts stupid about it maybe you should consider dating other guys and not making this relationship exclusive...

Being in a relationship goes both ways not only one...he needs to respect your wishes as well as make you happy and if he doesn't what's the point of being together...

March 11, 2005

That's what I tried to tell him yesterday afternoon on the phone, that what I want matters too. He got ill eventually and let me go. THen I went over there lastn ight and he actedl ike nothing was wrong, played the guitar for a minute, then I told him I am tired of him making me mad, and the only reason I cam over was to tell him that if he doesn't stop, I am gonna completely not talk to him again. He said he never tries to make me mad. He is totally just confusing me, and last night before I left, I told ya;; what he said. He said he is not going anywhere, thatI shouldn't worry, that he cares for me, that we just need to cool off and take it slower, that's all. Yeah, but next time he asks me if I love him, Ia m gonna be so ****ing pissed. Even if I don't even worry about him, I have started liking him, and I just don't know what to do anymore. He is so confusing. And the main reason I am so ill about this, is because I want my feelings considered too! I tried to him that yesterday. I will have my feelings considered or I won't speak to him anymore. Like I said I am just gonna wait a LITTLE and see. I can't really say for sure thatI know what to think about this. I just figured if he wasn't sincere, he would have just told me after what I said. And I think he knows he hasn't been spending quality time with me, yet he says we have seen each otehr almost everyday. Whoah! LIke 30 minutes! lol

I don't wanna just back off and quit talking to him though if he is sincere and really just trying to make this work. I am tired of not knowing what to think about this.

March 11, 2005

Although sometimes he doesn't act this way, I am wondering if maybe all he really gives a **** about IS himself right now. I mean, maybe I need to chill and not worry if he doesn't want to see me everyday. Maybe I am taking this overboard, but I hope he is not thinking that I am gonna be trained or something into doing everything his way. I am not like that, especially now. I am not one of those girls who is gonna sit there and wonder where the hell he is or who he is screwing or why he won't talk to me or this and that. I have seen girls do that for guys, and I can't believe how retarded they are! Their guys will sit there and cheat on them and they'll still go buy him clothes and ****. lol

That's crazy as hell.

Maybe this will all work out, he is really starting to get on my nerves... BAd. It's not a good thing, either. I just feel like saying F*** it!

March 11, 2005

Actions speak louder than words...instead of threatening him and telling him just do it...if he doesn't respond to your needs and your wishes...just make other plans...ignore him like he ignores your wishes...you can't force him to do something that doesn't come naturally to him...all you can do is wait and see ...time will tell all..

Have you told him you loved him or like him??? why does he keep asking you???

March 11, 2005

LIke you said, he should know I like him by me getting upset over the distance he set in the relationship. BUT, I remember the first time he asked me if I loved him, I was like"What?" I didn't say it real mean or anythintg, I was just kinda surprised cause he just said it like that and I didn't even think he really meant it. I didn't know what to say, really. Ever since then, he has acted like this. That is why I am thinking it was my fault. But I don't think I did anything wrong, I think I might have just made him think he made a mistake by saying that. Maybe i made him feel dumb, hell I don't know. I just know that he backed off a good bit, and it is almost to the point to where I don't even feel like we have anything going on right now. So if that's him doing this, and that's what he wants, why is he asking me at the same time if I love him? Maybe I should just come out and say"Oh I love you and want to s[end every second of the day with you!" lol

That's what he acts like he wants, but yet he said last night how we need to take it slower. So he is contradicting himself. I thought it might be cause he is unsure of how I feel about him or is trying to make me miss him to make me want him more, which is basically whatI think he said last night, but now I don't know. I just don't. I know I can't keep feeling like this everyday for days and days. If you only knew how confused I am. I don't even know how I feel right now. He is making me feel so many different ways.

Woudn't it seem like if he told me he loved me yesterday and is always asking if I love him, that he is sincere and is just trying to make this work? Did I tell you how he said last night that he doesn't want anyone's feelings to be hurt, that he can be sensitive sometimes. THen a few night ago, he also said that he cares about me in a different way than he does most girls. He was trying to tell me. He tells me like every day I talk to him that he cares about me. Like if he pisses me off or confuses me, he will sit there and say"I still care about you," and I am like WTF?????

I am starting to wondre if he has different motives. I don't want to think that wat about him. I just don't know. I guess I will see what happens between now and the next few days. That's all I can really do.

I just go on about my business and ignore him, I will never talk to him. He doesn't get hime from work til 4:00 and it's like we hardly talk it feels like, or not as much as I want to. And I think we should spend more time together right now since we have just started this thing, ya know? But since he happened to say"I think you like me enough" it makes me think he is doing this to make me want him even more. ?????

Is it obvious how confused I am? lol

March 11, 2005

Oops, typo in the last paragraph. I meant to say "If I don't talk to him"

I am making all these typing errors cause I am irritated...

March 11, 2005

this is too much for a 3 week dating thing.........or is it just me??

see other people........see him only if you want too or if weants to see you and your willing.

i dunno i mean it just seems like to much to go thru for just 3 weeks

i think there might be some game playing here

hell he is starting to confuse me

March 11, 2005

You know, everytime I do something logical, like trying to tell him now how I feel or what I want, it just seems like it brings more issues up?

I don't think I like how he is handling this. It is too shady for me. He is acting honest in some ways, but it still seems like there is something he is not telling me. Or maybe I am just not getting it. Maybe I need to accept the fact he wants to take this slow. But if I do like that, we won't have ****. We already hardly talk it seems like. I don'tt know. I am getting to the point where I wanna say **** it, and when I do that, it's O-V! Sorry, but I just can't handle being all upset over another guy. I have to many other things to deal with in my life.

March 11, 2005

For real, NTB!!!!

March 11, 2005

Don't say you love him just to spend more time with him...Love is not a word you just throw around and hope someone believes you...if what he's trying to do is make you fall in love with him...he's going about it in the wrong way...don't bring up the love issue and if he does it again that's your time to tell him that you can't just say something like that without meaning it...

Yes woman you are very confused but that's his fault...or maybe you're dissecting every little word he says...just go with the flow...if he wants to see you great if he doesn't oh well go shopping or eat ice cream...

If he wants you to fall for him tell him he needs to wine and dine you not ask you 24/7 if you love him...he needs to show you not tell you

March 11, 2005

it looks like your getting all upset over this guy as it is

date other people.........just let this one go

March 11, 2005

EIther it is that he thinks I am not for real, and is trying to see how I feel, or he just is trying to mainpulate me into being what he wants when he wants it type thing, like some girls play.

Who knows anymore. He should know now that I like him and he can trust me. Well, then again I don't know how much I can trust him, so I don't blame him if he is just trying to see what happens without getting hurt. I understand that, if that's what he is honestly trying to do. I would like the same thing, but we should still spend time togheter more I think.

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