Saul_Rosenburg Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 Hi Everyone: First id like to say that this is a cool forum, wish i would have found this place like 10 years ago but oh well... Anyways, i would just like some short advice on a proper course of action because i find myself in a position ive never been in before. My boring background is this: Im 30 yr old male and im back in college for an upgrade. Ive spent the last 10 yrs since i graduated college last time just living my life and working around the world, and the school put me in 2nd year. Ive had only 4 girlfriends that ive been super serious with in my past, and i would consider myself a shy guy but i do extremely well in social settings with all the sexes. I take care of myself very well and i try and just be a normal guy doing his thing. I like to fly under the radar. Now the situation. Yea im 30 yrs old and back in college so i get alot of girls checking me out (not to be conceited) that are 20-21 yrs old. This doesnt bother me, its usually just eye contact a smile and moving on. The girls in my class are the same, except for one..... I get these weird mixed signals from her expressing some kind of interest in me: 1) I notice she looks at me and sneaks in a bunch of glances of me (when she thinks im not noticing ) .... 2) I even seen here once tilt her black phone screen to get a reflection of me on it because i was sitting behind her. 3) When she knows i see her in her line of sight she plays with her hair furiously. 4) When i walk past her in the halls and shes with a group of people she will stare at me. 5) When i wait outside of a classroom for entrance, i stand by myself and not with the younger people. She will leave that group subtly and stand nearer to me, waiting also. She only does this with me, everyone else shes social with. On top of that i found out she listens to all the same music as me... Now i know what your thinking, "Go for it Homie!!"... Normally i would..... But i dont understand her intentions because of these reason: 1) she has a boyfriend 2) the youngest girl i have had sex with is 5 years younger than me. I just feel weirded out because im starting to get interested in her now and shes 10 yrs younger than me with a boyfriend. Nothing screams mid life crisis, lol.... Up until this point ive been ignoring her stares and other obvious things and it seems to drive her nuts, because her body language hasnt changed. I dont even know why she would be interested in me, because she can have any guy her age. I would like to get to know her but 10 years sounds really intense, and kinda sick in a way because like 4 years ago she was illegal..... Im thinking of: 1) continuing to ignore her and only talk to her when school work requires us to do. Im thinking this route because honestly i dont want to feel embarressed over someone that young. 2)start sending her signals to see what happens. and my final question: 3) Do i sound like a freak for starting to like on someone that much younger than me? Im also thinking its just her acting her age and that she doesnt really know what she wants. Any advice would be great Thanks in Advance -Saul
Chemist Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 Hi Everyone: First id like to say that this is a cool forum, wish i would have found this place like 10 years ago but oh well... Anyways, i would just like some short advice on a proper course of action because i find myself in a position ive never been in before. My boring background is this: Im 30 yr old male and im back in college for an upgrade. Ive spent the last 10 yrs since i graduated college last time just living my life and working around the world, and the school put me in 2nd year. Ive had only 4 girlfriends that ive been super serious with in my past, and i would consider myself a shy guy but i do extremely well in social settings with all the sexes. I take care of myself very well and i try and just be a normal guy doing his thing. I like to fly under the radar. Now the situation. Yea im 30 yrs old and back in college so i get alot of girls checking me out (not to be conceited) that are 20-21 yrs old. This doesnt bother me, its usually just eye contact a smile and moving on. The girls in my class are the same, except for one..... I get these weird mixed signals from her expressing some kind of interest in me: 1) I notice she looks at me and sneaks in a bunch of glances of me (when she thinks im not noticing ) .... 2) I even seen here once tilt her black phone screen to get a reflection of me on it because i was sitting behind her. 3) When she knows i see her in her line of sight she plays with her hair furiously. 4) When i walk past her in the halls and shes with a group of people she will stare at me. 5) When i wait outside of a classroom for entrance, i stand by myself and not with the younger people. She will leave that group subtly and stand nearer to me, waiting also. She only does this with me, everyone else shes social with. On top of that i found out she listens to all the same music as me... Now i know what your thinking, "Go for it Homie!!"... Normally i would..... But i dont understand her intentions because of these reason: 1) she has a boyfriend 2) the youngest girl i have had sex with is 5 years younger than me. I just feel weirded out because im starting to get interested in her now and shes 10 yrs younger than me with a boyfriend. Nothing screams mid life crisis, lol.... Up until this point ive been ignoring her stares and other obvious things and it seems to drive her nuts, because her body language hasnt changed. I dont even know why she would be interested in me, because she can have any guy her age. I would like to get to know her but 10 years sounds really intense, and kinda sick in a way because like 4 years ago she was illegal..... Im thinking of: 1) continuing to ignore her and only talk to her when school work requires us to do. Im thinking this route because honestly i dont want to feel embarressed over someone that young. 2)start sending her signals to see what happens. and my final question: 3) Do i sound like a freak for starting to like on someone that much younger than me? Im also thinking its just her acting her age and that she doesnt really know what she wants. Any advice would be great Thanks in Advance -Saul 1. My first grade teacher once told us (we were older at this time, her son was in my grade) that boyfriends are just details. Mark zuckerberg or whatever can eat it, creating all these 1/2 titles. When you sign most things, like taxes, there are three options. Married, Single, Widowed. That's it. 2. Age is a bull**** thing. Okay, I can get behind 1/2 your age + 7, but that is still horses ass. If she is 18, she is an adult. Now, before the white knights and silly girls get all uppity on this one, what I think matters is the ability to make an emotional connection (that means you two are equally mature) and you have things in common. 21 and 30 is 80 and 89 down the road.... 3. With a name like Saul, you're already dirty. Better call Saul (breaking bad if you haven't seen it, so you know I am joking)
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