princessjulieanne Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 I've been dating this guy for 2 and 1/2 months now and things are going really well. Followed all the rules and we didn't have sex until about the 10th date or so. Up until now though because of both of our jobs and his daughter which he gets every weekend there has never been the opportunity for him to stay over which I completely understand. This weekend his daughter is flying to visit her sister for the March Break and he will be coming here Saturday night for dinner and a movie and neither of us work on Sunday. When I mentioned "breakfast" the next morning, he didn't say anything just seems a bit tense. So I asked him about it. He is still a bit nervous about sleeping over because the only women he had spent nights with is his ex-wife who burned him really badly and cheated on him. I know we are making progress very slowly and he is very old fashioned in many ways, ie asked if he could kiss me the first time and waited until he cared for me before getting intimate so should I be concerned that he's not ready for a "sleep over" or am I just being a bit over-sensitive.
WhereSpiritsRoam Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 It is certainly normal to be sensitive about his feelings. If the only person he had spend nights with was his ex-wife, and if things were bad between them, he is going to feel a little awkward. Have you talked to him about his feelings on this "sleep over"? I think he might feel a little better if you sat him down to get his thoughts. More than likely, he just needs a little encouragement - something it sounds like you are very capable of providing him. Just continue to take things at their own speed. It sounds like you two are progressing nicely. Good luck. Spirits
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