d0nnivain Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 My 30th HS reunion was this weekend. DH & I didn't go to the organized events partly because I thought it was waaaayyyy overpriced for dinner in the school's old gym. Anyway through a series of text messages & few FB pictures, I was convinced to go to the after party at a local bar. DH was a sweetheart & agreed to be my designated driver. What I thought was odd was that of about 40 classmates who showed up, including people who flew in for the occasion and people who drove several hours, only about 5-6 people brought their spouses / SOs. Nobody was behaved inappropriately. I just thought it was bizarre that spouses / SOs would not attend. What's the norm in your social circle?
ASG Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 Maybe due to the cost, most people decided not to take their SOs? I am assuming the high price was per person attending, so, it could be a big expense for 2 people to attend, when one of them has no relation to the cause, so to speak... Does this make sense?? Other than that, I have no idea, since high school reunions are not really a thing on this side of the pond..
Author d0nnivain Posted October 20, 2014 Author Posted October 20, 2014 I guess cost may have been a factor. It just seemed odd to me.
serial muse Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 That would be odd to me too - I could see that with maybe a five-year reunion, but 10 years and beyond, seems like you'd bring your spouse if you have one (assuming they wanted to go). Although that is a point - this sort of thing can be pretty boring for a spouse if they don't know any of your friends. My H has come to a high school and a college reunion of mine (and there were lots of spouses there) and I've been to one of his, but I can't say that I had a rocking good time at his (even though I did happen to know a number of other people there). They're all just caught up in "do you remember" and old college stories that aren't really that funny to an outsider and this and that and the other, yadda. But what the hey, mostly it's about moral support.
kjohn Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 I went to my 20th reunion a couple of years ago. I live in a different state but happened to be going back for Thanksgiving so conveniently I would be there anyway. I was worried because my SO could not make the trip with me. I thought I would be the only one there solo. Much to my surprise NOBODY brought their SO/Spouse with them. I thought it was a bit strange, but at least I wasn't the only one there alone!
beatcuff Posted October 21, 2014 Posted October 21, 2014 Much to my surprise NOBODY brought their SO/Spouse with them. I thought it was a bit strange i'm surprised this thread is. so your bring your SO then spend the night responding to: 'who's that?'; 'what did that mean?'; 'why are you....' or worse the SO is bored out their skull listening to X tell about Z that has no meaning to them. so you spend the night ---- and not enjoying it for what it is: a PERSONAL trip down memory lane. 1
rester Posted October 21, 2014 Posted October 21, 2014 We don't have formal reunions, but for the last 20 years, a group of about 15-20 of us get together for a night of drinks around the new year, men and women. None of us bring our significant others and I feel it's better that way. A lot of the conversation is reminiscing and reliving old jokes and experiences and they're all inclusive to the group. SOs would end up sitting on the sidelines having to have everything explained to them, and who wants that? We all have our new lives and have moved far away. We don't want to have to make small talk all night with people (the SOs) that we have no history with and would only see once a year. All we need to know is that our old friends are happy and living the life they want. It gives us all a chance to talk freely without judgement.
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