Following my heart in conjunction with my rational mind

[Darren2013]

When it comes to love relationships should one follow their heart or their rational mind? I think it is important to follow both and it is possible to follow both. If there is disagreement between the feelings of the heart and the rational mind there must be a reason for it and that needs to be addressed.

 

There's a reason The Lord gave us both the rational mind and the heart. They can work together in harmony and there needs to be a balance between taking risks without getting reckless.

 

One need not follow one at the expense of the other. To go to one extreme of following the heart and letting passion and feelings rule decisions without getting input from the rational mind can lead to alot of pain and trouble long term. On the other hand going to the other extreme of never following your heart and never taking risks even after taking a considerable amount of time weighing risks with rewards can mean you are not really living your life.

 

There's always an element of risk of getting your heart broken when entering a relationship. You can't protect yourself all the time and expect intimacy to develop. If one is hellbent on protecting themselves all the way then they might as well forget about relationships and never talk to anybody and see how long they can live like that. Humans are social animals and human interaction is part of what makes this life worth living. If it wasn't so then God would have left the first man on earth by himself and not given him the ability to reproduce.

 

Entering into a relationship is just like driving. We won't avoid driving a car just because of accident risks but there are certain rules of the road to follow and pay attention to for our safety and the safety of others. Without the rules of the road the risk of accidents would certainly be alot higher. With relationships it is good to have guidelines and boundaries but not too many to the point where you are not living and not enjoying life.