JonClark Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 I asked her out, she said: "I'm really busy this week but I should be able to find some time. We'll see, okay?" I'm confused because usually the busy parts are always a sign of rejection, however she did say she would be able to find time. When she asks me how I am when we text, I'm often honest and say I have a lot of things to do, having a busy day and so on. Maybe she's busy because I'm busy too? I don't know, I would have preferred if she said "Yes, let's do Monday" instead of this, but maybe I'm overanalyzing?
GuskeGee Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Hmmm... have you ever thought that she might be genuinely busy? The "I should be able to find some time" indicates that she does want to meet with you. If she wasn't interested at all, she would have just said "I'm very busy this week, but we'll see okay?" "I should be able to find some time" doesn't quite sound like a rejection.
fortyninethousand322 Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Anything that's not an unqualified "yes", is a no. People in general do not like to reject people so they say little white lies to get out of uncomfortable situations. So whenever someone says "we'll see", whether for a date or in response to some other invitation, it's usually a way for them to let you down easy. 4
Maleficent Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 She is rejecting you. Sorry. If she was interested, she would have said yes and made time for you.
GuskeGee Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Anything that's not an unqualified "yes", is a no. People in general do not like to reject people so they say little white lies to get out of uncomfortable situations. So whenever someone says "we'll see", whether for a date or in response to some other invitation, it's usually a way for them to let you down easy. Not true. She told him she would probably find time, so how is that a rejection? The "we'll see" is means she'll let him know which day she has time. Think logically please. Why would she say that? Basically, she was saying "I'm very busy, but I'll find time for you"
Author JonClark Posted October 19, 2014 Author Posted October 19, 2014 She is rejecting you. Sorry. If she was interested, she would have said yes and made time for you. It was over text, and the exact response was: "Hi <3 (big RED heart emoticon). I'm very busy this week, but I should be able to find time ! We'll see, cool? (face-blowing-a-kiss emoticon)" 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Not true. She told him she would probably find time, so how is that a rejection? The "we'll see" is means she'll let him know which day she has time. Think logically please. Why would she say that? Basically, she was saying "I'm very busy, but I'll find time for you" I've been on these rodeos before. I have never ever had a girl tell me "we'll see" and have it mean anything good. If she follow through and makes time, I will be very surprised.
GuskeGee Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 It was over text, and the exact response was: "Hi <3 (big RED heart emoticon). I'm very busy this week, but I should be able to find time ! We'll see, cool? (face-blowing-a-kiss emoticon)" That changes everything. To me, it doesn't sound like she's blowing you off, but that she genuinely didn't know when she had time and that she would let you know. A girl that doesn't like you doesn't blow you off with a big red heart and a kiss-face smiley. Not to mention the "!" after writing she would find time. Some users on this board are soooo pessimistic! 2
JuneJulySeptember Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 I asked her out, she said: "I'm really busy this week but I should be able to find some time. We'll see, okay?" I'm confused because usually the busy parts are always a sign of rejection, however she did say she would be able to find time. When she asks me how I am when we text, I'm often honest and say I have a lot of things to do, having a busy day and so on. Maybe she's busy because I'm busy too? I don't know, I would have preferred if she said "Yes, let's do Monday" instead of this, but maybe I'm overanalyzing? There comes a point where a guy has to decide when to give up on pursuing a woman. Some women tell guys they only see them as a friend, and even date other men and those guys still chase those women, and get them to turn around sometimes (though rarely). I'm not suggesting you do this. I'm just illustrating a point. Give up whenever you see fit. Nobody here can read your friend's mind and even if we could, we still might not have the answer. Me, I personally cut my losses very early. I would consider taking what she said as a rejection, perhaps. Depends on how much potential I saw in her for us to turn into something significant.
preraph Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 I think he has to just wait and see. She will contact him if she can go out. If she can't go out, she should contact himthen as well unless she truly is avoiding him and not planning to go out with him. But her response sounds like she's really just busy. So wait a week and see what happens.
smackie9 Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 ya I say wait, and if it never pans out, just drop out.
cif Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 It was over text, and the exact response was: "Hi <3 (big RED heart emoticon). I'm very busy this week, but I should be able to find time ! We'll see, cool? (face-blowing-a-kiss emoticon)" Doesn't sound like a rejection. And yes you're over-analyzing!
IronZ Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 My last relationship was with a girl who was constantly "busy." And that's fine, you know? Except for when you make excuses because of it. I don't care how busy you are, you can find time to make for a S.O. At the very least she should be able to pick a day or suggest a weekend she might not be busy. When she uses the line "we'll see" (which my last gf loved to use) then it shows she's not even trying in the least bit. If someone asked me to make plans with them the conversation would usually go like this: "Oh, sorry I'm busy that day, how about next Friday instead?" You see what I did there? Instead of making an excuse, I rescheduled. If I had said "we'll see" then that's a cop out answer. It would be me trying to buy some time until I could come up with a better excuse.
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