Breakthewallsdown Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 I am worrying that my GF does not find me as funny as she find some other guys. I mean I make her laugh a lot, but there are 2 other guys that seem to just be the bees knees of comedy to her. I may be able to get some good chuckles and an occasional good laugh out of her but she consistently laughs out loud with these two. Now the laughing is fine and all. I mean if something is funny its funny. However, she works with one of them and is close to the other and even when I'm not around them she still must feel the need to tell me how funny they are. And she tells me thinks like "so and so did the funniest thing ever" and "so and so said the funniest thing ever." And the one she works with says perverted things and all this just makes me feel uncomfy. and it is starting to make me a little bitter when I say something I think is rather funny and don't get much of a reaction its starting to annoy me. Shes one of the funniest people Ive ever met and when we first started dating she use to find me hilarious but now i seem to have fallen way behind. So just how important is humor in person to person relationships? and how should I deal with these guys who must be funny as all hell that its starting to make me feel insecure?
mammasita Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Who does she spend the majority of her time with? If the answer is you, then I think you're letting your insecurity get the best of you. If you have no reason to suspect that there is anything going on (is there something you're leaving out?) then accept the fact that she chooses you for you and simply finds the other guys funny.
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 It depends on the person; many people don't care about it at all. Part of the reason I knew my last boyfriend wasn't right for me was because he never made me laugh. He didn't get some of my jokes, either. He was book-smart, but lacking in wit, and it needled at me. I need someone who has me in stitches. If it really upsets you you should talk to your girlfriend about it. We can't be all things to anyone, and she may not mind that you aren't as funny as her friends. But I guarantee she will notice you being bitter about it and that could sour your relationship.
Author Breakthewallsdown Posted October 20, 2014 Author Posted October 20, 2014 Who does she spend the majority of her time with? If the answer is you, then I think you're letting your insecurity get the best of you. If you have no reason to suspect that there is anything going on (is there something you're leaving out?) then accept the fact that she chooses you for you and simply finds the other guys funny. I hope you're right
Author Breakthewallsdown Posted October 20, 2014 Author Posted October 20, 2014 It depends on the person; many people don't care about it at all. Part of the reason I knew my last boyfriend wasn't right for me was because he never made me laugh. He didn't get some of my jokes, either. He was book-smart, but lacking in wit, and it needled at me. I need someone who has me in stitches. If it really upsets you you should talk to your girlfriend about it. We can't be all things to anyone, and she may not mind that you aren't as funny as her friends. But I guarantee she will notice you being bitter about it and that could sour your relationship. I'm afraid that its very important to her too. I consider myself witty but now I feel like I'm trying to hard now that I feel like I'm in some kind of competition.
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