marioyobro Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 (edited) Hello, everyone. You've all heard this story before. I met a girl, she liked me a lot, we kicked it off, and then she randomly loses interest. Happens to all of us, right? I think I can still succeed if I play the right cards. Let me explain the situation. Met a girl named Nicole about 5 weeks ago, she found me on a social media website and we started messaging, then she sent me her number without me asking, then we started texting and eventually hung out a few times, she came to see my band play live, then a few days later we went out to eat, then the following week we hung out at my place, then yet another week later we hung out again in my house and we made out for a long time, maybe an hour. That was the last time I saw her, nearly 2 weeks ago. Everything was going perfect, for nearly a week after we last hungout we kept texting, she can't hang much because she's always busy but she kept telling me that she liked me a lot and that she was gonna invite me over soon and all that. I think where I went wrong is that I kept asking her to hang out like every other day, it must've got annoying. Anyway, earlier this week she had started texting a little less often, but she was still sending selfies and calling me cute when I sent mine and shiz, and then just a few days ago is when it got worse, she takes hours to respond, we send each other maybe 5-7 texts a day now, and she seems uninterested in the texts. God dammit, how did I mess this up?! I realized that I was sounding needy and I backed off, and now she still texts me first, like yesterday she sent me just "Heeyyy" out of nowhere and I respond with a normal "hey there what's up!" and she doesn't respond anymore! Why the heck is she texting me first if she isn't going to respond to my text..... Girls make literally no sense to me. I'm a 20 year old dude and I still don't understand you females. Anyway, is there anyway I can fix this? Every time we hang out in person it goes super well, so I think if I can land another hangout I can turn this around. I go to school and she just works so I can't ever see her in person unless we set something up, which is where the problem lies, she is a really independent and busy woman and... I don't know. I can't get her off of my mind, which I know is a bad thing and means I'm too interested. A lot of people online say to talk to other girls and care less about this one but I've tried it and it doesn't work, I'm still thinking about Nicole as I talk to other women. There is something wrong with me. I need to win her over and I still think I can, just this week she was still sending me selfies and telling me she likes me a lot, there hasn't been any "I think we should just be friends" texts or anything like that. I've backed off, like I don't double-text and I wait a little to respond when we do text. I just don't know what to do. It is taking everything in me to not text her right now haha, she hasn't texted me today yet and I was last to text her yesterday so I don't think I should text her first today. I hate that this whole getting into a relationship thing is a game nowadays, what with texting and social media, you have to plan out what you say and when you say it and there is tons of implications and BS that tags along with it. I hate it! I like you a lot, you like me a lot, what the heck else is there to it. I don't know why I'm so romantically incompetent, I could've sworn I was doing it right just a week or two ago. I need some help, y'all. Edited October 19, 2014 by marioyobro
smackie9 Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 It's true women like a little challenge, and mystery. Be distant, aloof, stop texting her, give her one word answers....then when you see her pushing, you give her a little attention, then pull back. And yes let her be aware other women are in the background. I know it's games, but some women need this to feel attraction, and this lady is one of those. If you want to go for it, these are the tools you need. 1
smackie9 Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Oh and you should have got her in the sack that night. Man you were making out for an hour....she was wanting it. What the hell happened?
Author marioyobro Posted October 19, 2014 Author Posted October 19, 2014 Oh and you should have got her in the sack that night. Man you were making out for an hour....she was wanting it. What the hell happened? I'm an ignorant imbecile and didn't think of taking that way and having sex with her, I don't know why, the making out was really intimate and I'm a dumbass. Plus I'm a virgin and don't know how to take it that way easily, forgot to mention that. Yep.
smackie9 Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 I'm an ignorant imbecile and didn't think of taking that way and having sex with her, I don't know why, the making out was really intimate and I'm a dumbass. Plus I'm a virgin and don't know how to take it that way easily, forgot to mention that. Yep. Well she probably has figured it out that you are and is now becoming flaky. I don't think this girl is for you...I think her expectations is to be with a non virgin. Sorry some girls are just like that. You need to find someone who doesn't care about that, but really cares for you.
Author marioyobro Posted October 20, 2014 Author Posted October 20, 2014 Can anyone else help me out?
Redhead14 Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 Hello, everyone. You've all heard this story before. I met a girl, she liked me a lot, we kicked it off, and then she randomly loses interest. Happens to all of us, right? I think I can still succeed if I play the right cards. Let me explain the situation. Met a girl named Nicole about 5 weeks ago, she found me on a social media website and we started messaging, then she sent me her number without me asking, then we started texting and eventually hung out a few times, she came to see my band play live, then a few days later we went out to eat, then the following week we hung out at my place, then yet another week later we hung out again in my house and we made out for a long time, maybe an hour. That was the last time I saw her, nearly 2 weeks ago. Everything was going perfect, for nearly a week after we last hungout we kept texting, she can't hang much because she's always busy but she kept telling me that she liked me a lot and that she was gonna invite me over soon and all that. I think where I went wrong is that I kept asking her to hang out like every other day, it must've got annoying. Anyway, earlier this week she had started texting a little less often, but she was still sending selfies and calling me cute when I sent mine and shiz, and then just a few days ago is when it got worse, she takes hours to respond, we send each other maybe 5-7 texts a day now, and she seems uninterested in the texts. God dammit, how did I mess this up?! I realized that I was sounding needy and I backed off, and now she still texts me first, like yesterday she sent me just "Heeyyy" out of nowhere and I respond with a normal "hey there what's up!" and she doesn't respond anymore! Why the heck is she texting me first if she isn't going to respond to my text..... Girls make literally no sense to me. I'm a 20 year old dude and I still don't understand you females. Anyway, is there anyway I can fix this? Every time we hang out in person it goes super well, so I think if I can land another hangout I can turn this around. I go to school and she just works so I can't ever see her in person unless we set something up, which is where the problem lies, she is a really independent and busy woman and... I don't know. I can't get her off of my mind, which I know is a bad thing and means I'm too interested. A lot of people online say to talk to other girls and care less about this one but I've tried it and it doesn't work, I'm still thinking about Nicole as I talk to other women. There is something wrong with me. I need to win her over and I still think I can, just this week she was still sending me selfies and telling me she likes me a lot, there hasn't been any "I think we should just be friends" texts or anything like that. I've backed off, like I don't double-text and I wait a little to respond when we do text. I just don't know what to do. It is taking everything in me to not text her right now haha, she hasn't texted me today yet and I was last to text her yesterday so I don't think I should text her first today. I hate that this whole getting into a relationship thing is a game nowadays, what with texting and social media, you have to plan out what you say and when you say it and there is tons of implications and BS that tags along with it. I hate it! I like you a lot, you like me a lot, what the heck else is there to it. I don't know why I'm so romantically incompetent, I could've sworn I was doing it right just a week or two ago. I need some help, y'all. Just pick up the phone and call her. Tell her how you feel and see what she says. Plain and simple. If she doesn't answer, leave a voicemail, not too detailed, light and casual and ask her to return the call. If she doesn't return the call or just texts you, do not contact her again. She's moved on. 1
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