Xerxes1986 Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 GUYS!!! I NEED SOME ADVICE!!! You all know my story, you have all told me to get rid of her...i havn't. The only reason is because she keeps giving me signals. Like today we were txt'ing and she wanted to know why i was acting so weird and i said it was because I am confused and a little jelous. She told me that she would rathar have a boyfriend cheat on her than be jelous....i don't know what that means but it isn't that important. Anyways what should i do??????? Don't tell me to drop her like a hot rock because i know deep down i cannot do that. I am just going to "forget" to call her for a day or two and then call her... DO you think this is the right course of action? I don't know what to do...i guess i just need some reassurance. I don't know...i sound really stupid so im gonna shut up now.
WhereSpiritsRoam Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 If you can't drop her cold, then at least take a few days off. The fact that she is texting you is good, but you need to question her motive for doing so. Does she perhaps feel guilty over anything? It seems like you care about this girl, so I know forgetting about her may not be an option. How do you feel about going this entire weekend without talking to her? Give her some time to think about things and maybe next week you both can start anew. Spirits
LucreziaBorgia Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 She told me that she would rathar have a boyfriend cheat on her than be jelous.... i don't know what that means but it isn't that important. It is crucially important. She is telling you that your jealousy is worse to her than being cheated on. Think how angry, hurt and betrayed being cheated on makes a person feel - well, she said that your jealousy is worse that that. You are lower than a cheater in her eyes, because you are jealous of her. The reason why? Because she knows that you know she is "dating" other guys, and the last thing a girl wants or needs when she is playing the field is for one of those guys to pull a 'jealous' act on her. The reason cheating isn't as bad as jealousy, is because she isn't emotionally involved enough with any of the guys she's with to care if they cheat on her. As long as they don't pull some 'jealous act', she'll be fine with them. So, even under these circumstances, if you don't want to drop her, and you want her in your life, and if you want to stay with her, just don't mention being jealous that she has other boyfriends. If you stay quiet, do whatever she asks, don't expect anything from her, and allow her to keep seeing other guys with no fuss about it then she probably will allow you to keep "dating" her. I am just going to "forget" to call her for a day or two and then call her... DO you think this is the right course of action? Sure. No one likes to lose a backup plan. I expect if you don't call, she'll call you. Don't expect her to change anything though. As soon as she sees that you really aren't going anywhere, she'll continue to keep doing what she's doing with you and whichever other guy(s) she's involved with.
Illusion24 Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 LucreziaBorgia...once again is right If you want her to respond to you show her your confidence don't sound so desperate to be with her...a confident man sure about himself and what he wants in life is hot...show her that you don't' need her that what she's doing isn't fazing you...sure date other guys and you should go and date other girls... nothings official so play her game and you'll see she'll come running back...you know why?? CAUSE SHE'LL BE JEALOUS (THAT'S IF SHE REALLY CARES FOR YOU!!)
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