Toodaloo Posted October 24, 2014 Posted October 24, 2014 We began to play a game of asking three questions to each other about anything and everything! She thought long and hard and her first question was how I like sex and things that I enjoy done to me. She really enjoyed my response. I then asked her for my first question about what a guy would do to make her wet... Her response was very detailed and left my mind going crazy. She is a freak! It was the first time we had any conversation about an intimate subject. We are going out on Saturday and I don't know how it will go, but I will continue to be physical with her, she allowed me to kiss her cheek throughout the night last time, hold and kiss her hand, and kissed her neck a few times... Will I attempt a kiss at the end of the night, probably not. I suppose I will let her make the move but this conversation we had last night makes it very hard for me not to! Oh dear... RUN... for your own sanity RUN...!
Author ctorres626 Posted October 24, 2014 Author Posted October 24, 2014 Why do you say that? Please elaborate
Certhoc Posted October 24, 2014 Posted October 24, 2014 Going from a never been kissed virgin to a sex freak, that's why you should run if you are looking for a healthy relationship. If you're looking for nothing serious, than stay and play her games. It seems to be this woman is pretty smart. She's behaving and sharing things with you to put her in a position where you can supply whatever it is she wants. There is nothing wrong with that, since that is something people do in relationships. The bad thing is that it will be one sided. She will satisfy her emotional and phsyical needs with you but everything will be at her time. If one day you feel like having a marathonic make out session with her but she doesnt have that need, she will not do it and she will excuse herself or act in a certain way so you dont get upset, and most likely, she'll make you feel bad for pressuring her. This shouldnt be about her behavior, age, maturity, culture, past relationships, etc. This should be about what you want at this particular moment in your life. From my perspective I see three options: Be her boy toy. You dont have to do much here, just do whatever she tells you to do. She'll let you know what she wants and when she wants it. Be her boyfriend. This will require a whole bunch of energy, and at the end of the day it might not even end well. Be drama free. Dont play her games. Funny thing is that when you stop playing her games and you do your own thing, she might start doing things to get your attention back cause you'll be the one that she couldnt subdue. Basically, what is it you want from her? Something formal or something casual?
Gaeta Posted October 24, 2014 Posted October 24, 2014 She is all talk and no actions. She talked like this to keep your attention, she has no intention of acting on her words. Also, don't do the fade away just tell her you and her have different dating views and you will go on searching for someone better suited for you. If she asks what is better suited then tell her the truth. You want to meet a woman that is confident in who she is, does not play games, is ready for a relationship, and is not afraid of being hurt.
Author ctorres626 Posted October 24, 2014 Author Posted October 24, 2014 (edited) I want a formal relationship with her, we are very compatible and I would like to have something serious with her. Since I began to know her I definitely started out wrong... I began to pursue her, do little things for her when I went to her job and left something on her desk and she would be surprised the next day. I somehow along the way got friend zoned. I left the friendzone after i disappeared on her and also took a picture at a bar with a girl she kinda knows. She became very jealous and got angry! After this occurred the relationship shifted and we started to go out one on one and physical contact increased, flirting, and we are becoming closer. If I don't talk to her she panics, she worries a lot about me. She shows a lot of care for me which I enjoy. Heck even last Saturday I lifted my fork once because we were close to each other and she was feeding me our "soup" we were sharing. Brazilians are known to be very affectionate and very aggressive. When I go out to clubs "kissing" is very normal here. You make out with multiple women in a night and that is normal here. I asked her why she is hurt and feels she doesn't want a relationship, doesn't want to risk. In her previous relationship the guy would disappear for days and show up later apologizing, then eventually he texted her that he never wanted to see her again and the relationship ended. He showed up months later but it was too late to fix. She must have been really in love with this guy and feels hurt that people will leave again. I joked with her the idea of me leaving to Chicago again, and she panics and gets scared. I learned not too joke like that anymore but that idea of me "leaving" could be blocking her mind. I don't want to play games with her, I feel she does spend a lot of her time with me, investing, and little by little putting her heart out. The last thing I would ever want to do is break it. I could do some serious damage where she would never want to get close to anyone again! I have been married already, military veteran, I am mature but still a kid at heart, most importantly I know what I want... Hope can kill a man but the "signs" show movement in the right direction just very slowly! Edited October 24, 2014 by ctorres626
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