winnerwinnerchicken Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 TLDR at bottom if you don't feel like reading Its been 4 months since my girlfriend of 5 years packed up and left while I was at work without a word. No talking about any issues we had( she was a very vocal women, there really weren't many) , no fighting, no kicking, no screaming..she just walked out of my life. For the first month I didn't know she was dating a guy so I tried to talk to her, but she had no interest in even talking to me about anything. After I found they were dating I broke all contact, its been about 2.5 months since we talked in any form. I hate the fact that we never got to talk about our breakup, any feelings we had, or tried anything....ANYTHing to solve any of these issues. I am doing all the normal things one can do to cope. I can tolerate thinking about her and another man, and I can even tolerate her leaving me as a boyfriend. Something that still haunts my mind and no amount of telling me to quit can fix is how someone she once found so dear she just pushed out of her life. Like even up until the end, we were the very best of friends, I could still make her laugh. We had no issues, she just found another man and decided he was all she ever needed and that I was some broken toy who could be thrown away. Even up until the end the love she had for me, to know that she just gave up, just walked away. Our relationship wasn't perfect but it was great. We were similar, we had tons of fun. Do I think we needed to look from the outside in and re evaluate where we are in life and what we needed to do to continue this relationship..yes.. but to just give up because we got too comfortable with one another is a terrible terrible thing. Anyway, I was at my parents house last monday. They live an hour from the town I live in. She is going to school in another community and was home for the long weekend. I drove home from my parents house, going a certain speed, I had forgotten something so I had to go back.. its almost like the time was pre destined. When I was driving home. I met her car turning to drive by my house. I'm certain this was her car, its very unique. I just found this so very very odd. I am looking for no deep meaning as to why she was driving by, but I just find it odd that we both chose the exact same second to drive my way. Its odd. I just made an hour journey and she had a 1.5 hour ahead of her. Its almost like some divine power was punishing me. I know what people will say , " who cares." Its hard not to care. This person just pushed me from her life like I was cancer and treated me like I was a monster when I basically just watched her walk away because I didn't know what the hell was going on until I found out about her and him boinking a month later. Who cares if I had women laying naked on my lawn, she pushed me out of her life. She doesn't have that right to check up on me. TLDR: Been 3 months NC with ex who left me. Drove 1.5 hours home, and out of 86400 seconds in a day, we just so happened to meet up. Seeing her ****ed up my week because it bothered me that she was driving by.
AieshaR Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Hmm it sucks that it messed your week up but remember it's a small world. Don't do anything by it. She left you. If it's anyone who should be apologising for not saying anything, it's her. My ex used to do $h!t like that as well, don't go chasing or anything like that! Almost pretend as if it never happened. I know that sounds near to impossible but what she did is sad and she doesn't even deserve your time of day! Good luck x
lauri Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 I'm sorry that happened to you. Do you mean you met her in person or you just saw her driving by your house? Trust me, having that closure talk would have been pointless anyways. Chances are, you would have appeared weak and said things you may have regretted. She flaked on you once, probability is she will flake on you again. She knew meeting with you would have had her lying or you eventually finding out the truth. Loyality to me is the most important aspect of a woman and its clear that this one doesn't have it.
Author winnerwinnerchicken Posted October 19, 2014 Author Posted October 19, 2014 Thank god I did not meet her in person, I just saw her car going out of its way to drive by my place. We did get to talk a few times after she left me and it was lies lies lies the whole time we talked. Since i didn't know she was wit him, she blamed me for everything. She re wrote our relationship. Her new boyfriends mother is a co worker of hers, i'm pretty sure this mother is someone my ex confided in and helped my ex make her decision because she wanted her to date her son. Either way I got screwed royally. I am trying to move on and let go, I really am. Just in a lot of breakups, you hear about people getting second chances, people getting the problems of the relationship brought forward and the guy or the girl choses to do nothing and their spouse leaves them because one wasn't willing to work on anything. I never got this chance. There is nothing I would not have done for this girl and it kills me that someone could just flip like a switch and turn against me. Not only did she not want to be with me, she intact hated my guts, blamed me.. and I didn't get mad because i was confused, I never stalked her. I tried to talk to her, just asking her how she was, and all that jazz... but she just wanted nothing to do with me. Probably better.. just hope she doesn't drive by again.
Author winnerwinnerchicken Posted October 19, 2014 Author Posted October 19, 2014 I did appear like a weak spineless person during our 2 talks after she left, because as far as I knew, she left because I messed up, was not with someone else. I just asked for a chance to make it right, to try again. But she declined, this was because she was with someone else. Even after 4 months its still hard to accept that her and I will likely never talk again and certainly never be close again.
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