SawtoothMars Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 What is there not to get? A woman doesn't have to have no options to date a man shorter than her. There is nothing wrong with shorter men. I just don't see this often expressed in real life. OKC =/= real life. Although when I was a member of it for a week a few years back, I conversed with many men who were shorter than me. I quit OKC not because of shorter men, but because I don't like that style of dating. Too artificial. You're basing your facts on one friend and OKC. Okay... Yep, me neither. I also don't get his statement of how the short men he's seen were dating fat and ugly women. I am not sure where this is coming from, because I'm not fat or ugly (actually I'm borderline underweight, and like I said, every guy I've ever dated complimented me on my looks), and I see tall women with short men in my city often, and the woman is neither fat nor ugly either. But maybe you and I, Phoe, live on a different planet. I would say it's more "real life" than in person dating. Women are free to post their true preferences and generally be more honest about what they want. Where do you live? I'm not saying I don't believe you, I know there are women who have requirements, I'm just saying im not one, and I don't know of any in my social circle. It happens, yes, but not at a rate of 90%! It may be that a handful of women are willing to set aside height as a personal preference for dating... but that doesn't mean it isn't something she would prefer. Expressed something like "I love my husband, and I would be more attracted to him if he were taller". What Makes You Click? Mate Preferences and Matching Outcomes in Online Dating by Guenter J. Hitsch, Ali Hortacsu, Dan Ariely :: SSRN.
SawtoothMars Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 That's funny that this shorter guy is attracted to taller women who apparently won't give him the time of day. What's his problem with shorter (i.e. average) women? Maybe he has the same problem with shorter women that these taller women he's attracted to have with him. What it is, I'm not sure, but they're height obsessed. My guy is 5'6", I'm about 5'6" too, and I'm not unattractive. I've been out with guys up to 6'4" - it doesn't matter. He doesn't have a problem with shorter women. He dated a girl 4'10" once... and recently married a nice girl who is 5'6". He did have a one nighter with a 5'10" lady... and she was really pretty. I actually spent more time hitting on her, but she was really turned on by the pilot thing and my friends warm confidence. I tend to be a bit more of a jerk and less bubbly. We were early thirties at the time and he really thought they had something, but she never returned any phonecalls or texts. He was so butthurt about the whole thing we told him he needed to play hard to get and stop being such a slut.
Author Tik Posted October 19, 2014 Author Posted October 19, 2014 Oh wow, loving the furor and in depth discussion this has caused. Don't worry guys, when I go to kiss her I'll make sure to be on my tippy toes and kick my heel up as in the movies
GravityMan Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 OP, you don't need a damn "tip" on dating that taller woman; you need to stop worrying so much about her height and just date her. You're making this harder than it needs to be. 1
CrystalCastles Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Where do you live? Can't tell you exactly where, but the country is beautiful Canada, in one of the biggest and busiest cities this country has. 2.4 million people, according to wikipedia. I find that the people I have met in this city are very liberal and open-minded about their views of dating. Its not common to have such narrow and specific constraints on what you'd be ok with dating. GravityMan said it right. Tall women are people too. There isn't any trick to dating them. Date them as you would any other woman.
SawtoothMars Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Can't tell you exactly where, but the country is beautiful Canada, in one of the biggest and busiest cities this country has. 2.4 million people, according to wikipedia. I find that the people I have met in this city are very liberal and open-minded about their views of dating. Its not common to have such narrow and specific constraints on what you'd be ok with dating. GravityMan said it right. Tall women are people too. There isn't any trick to dating them. Date them as you would any other woman. Canadian.... that pretty much explains it.
Ursa Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 I'm a six foot tall woman who has dated men from 5'7"-6'7". In my personal experience, it was only awkward dating the shorter men if they made it so by behaving awkwardly, continually referencing our heights, giving a **** about what shoes I was wearing, etc. OP, this girl is already into you, you seem to have ample evidence of that and should be feeling confident right now. I don't think you have anything to worry about other than you overthinking things and shooting yourself in the foot out of anxiety. Just try to have a good time.
CrystalCastles Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Canadian.... that pretty much explains it. I hope you're not implying anything offensive at my being Canadian...?
SawtoothMars Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 I hope you're not implying anything offensive at my being Canadian...? Not really... just a different culture. I've dated Canadians before... the standards and expectations are often not the same. You are a very defensive lady!
CrystalCastles Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Not really... just a different culture. I've dated Canadians before... the standards and expectations are often not the same. You are a very defensive lady! Sorry. I just have some strong opinions, especially when I've said the same thing in many similar threads. I don't understand why men think height is such a huge catastrophe. I'm not actually a Canadian, btw. I'm a Russian Jew. I don't think I'd be so open minded if it weren't for the lovely people here though.
SawtoothMars Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Sorry. I just have some strong opinions, especially when I've said the same thing in many similar threads. I don't understand why men think height is such a huge catastrophe. I'm not actually a Canadian, btw. I'm a Russian Jew. I don't think I'd be so open minded if it weren't for the lovely people here though. Funny. One of the two Canadian girls I dated was a Russian Jew... name was something like Sarra up in Vancouver. The other was Hong Kongese. Lovely girls, but both completely nuts.
quidproquo89 Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 she'd have to be about 7 ft tall to be taller than me, so no idea lol
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