Very shy and very sad and lonely

[v8powerage]

I'm a very shy guy and I feel I'm sentenced to life alone. I'm going to the city to public places everyday spend lots of time by the lake with many females there but I'm too shy to do anything, and wouldn't even know what to say anyway cause I read that guy supposed to be funny and joke to get any attention, well I'm not jay leno, what am I to do... Wish I could stop being shy but it's not possible, unless maybe if I had brain transplant.. and sadly women never make first move so guys like me are doomed.

[d0nnivain]

Try an experiment.

 

Every day for a week smile at at least one new woman per day. Note how many smile back at you. If you can manage to smile at 2-3 all the better. You don't have to do more than smile.

 

The next week say hi. Nothing more. Just hi. One syllable 2 letters. Hopefully it will be to some of the same women you saw the week before. Some may actually start a conversation with you. Talk to them.

 

Also tell friends & family that you are open to being set up.

[smackie9]

Make some friends first and get a social life. When you have people to go out and do activities with, you increase your chances of meeting someone. Girls are social creatures, they like parties, dancing, etc. Being attracted to a loner 99% of the time is not on their list.

If your anxiety is real bad I recommend you getting some therapy or take assertive training classes.

[40 Fonzarelli]

Donn hit the nail on the head. You need to take baby steps and work your way up. You need to improve your social skills in general. Talk to anyone and everyone, guys, girls, old people, etc. You can't expect to go from being really quiet to all of a sudden having social skills when you are put in front of an attractive woman. Once you realize nothing bad is going to happen, it gets easier and easier. Yes you will feel nervous, awkward and uncomfortable. You will get used to those feelings and eventually will learn to take action in spite of them. Good luck.

[fortyninethousand322]

If you don't have friends, you need them. For you and your own sake, not to get women. Because in my experience, having friends does very little in terms of helping you meet girls or get into relationships or have sex or whatever it is one is going for.

 

What having friends does though is keep you grounded. Keep you from forming bizarre and unhealthy views of the world and of other people. If you have friends you understand what people go through better, and can relate to others. All of which are important regardless of whether or not you ever get a girlfriend.

[Gloria25]

On top of the great advice everyone already gave, I just wonder why you believe that having the ability to tell jokes is the key to getting girls to like you?

[HappyLove]

A great way to get comfortable with introducing yourself and meeting people is to join a meetup group. You'll see it's very easy to shake hands and state your name then work your way up to approaching women.