Iris17 Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 I have been seeing this guy for a month. But we have known each other for a while longer and nothing happened eventhough I knew he liked me because I had a bf. After I broke up with my ex this guy got in touch and we hung out and the chemistry was definitely there. Whenever I'm with him I feel loved 100%. I can easily say that I fell in love with him already but I never actually said that to him yet. Problem is we have different plans, I'm going travelling soon and he can't come with me eventhough he wants to due to work commitment which I understand. I know the work he is doing and We just got in touch after we have made these plans already. He said he will come and see wherever I am once work is done which is in a few months times. I feel gutted about this but at the same time I'm grateful for the wonderful 1 month that we spent together. I feel like telling him I want to be with him. But I think i need to stick to my travel plans. However, he said he will see me again because we have a good connection. He feels that he connects with me so no doubt we will see each other again. When someone says they connect with you does it mean they are in love with you? Or is it just a connection like you can have with friends etc? I wanted to ask him myself how he feels about me but I'm scared that I will chase him away. I'm not very good at expressing myself and neither is he but his actions just makes me feel so loved.
GemmaUK Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Actions speak louder than words. I would not cancel my trip...sounds like it is something you have wanted to do for a while..then you should do it! If it was meant to be he will be there when you return. Take a risk. Go on your trip, see what happens with him. You would kick yourself if you cancelled the trip and you and he broke up in 2 weeks...
Kamila Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 You should always have a life next to your relationship life. In case things don't work out with your 'to be bf', you'll still have your family/friends.
d0nnivain Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Saying they connect with you does not mean they love you. You also have no meaningful idea of what true love is if you think you are in love with some guy you have known for a month & haven't dated this soon after you recently ended another relationship. Perhaps you are infatuated. Perhaps it's lust but it's not love. Go on your trip. Keep in touch with this person -- casually -- maybe once per week. See what happens when you get back. 1
Author Iris17 Posted October 18, 2014 Author Posted October 18, 2014 Saying they connect with you does not mean they love you. You also have no meaningful idea of what true love is if you think you are in love with some guy you have known for a month & haven't dated this soon after you recently ended another relationship. Perhaps you are infatuated. Perhaps it's lust but it's not love. Go on your trip. Keep in touch with this person -- casually -- maybe once per week. See what happens when you get back. I did not fall for him in just a month, when I first knew him which is 2 years ago I felt that him and I have a lot more in common than my ex. But I chose my ex because I wanted to try and make it work. Then As as relationship with my ex progressed we were not compatible and had problems that caused us to break up and also I broke up with my ex partly because I find myself thinking about this current guy from time to time eventhough we were not In touch. When I broke it off with my ex but I did not expect anything from this current guy cos we we're not in touch then. I broke up for myself and also for my ex to meet someone else. Then I was like okay I'm gonna travel and then the current guy got in touch and hung out and it has proven to me that my gut feelings for him was right. We are more compatible. I will still go travelling, I agree with everyone's suggestions. Yes it could be just lust but I'm Just feeling a little gutted that I have to let this wonderful connection go. I been thinking as well that if we are meant to be then we will meet again. It s just that I let him go once before when I found out he liked me, I don't wanna let him ago again. Sounds cheesy I know.
Stumble Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Definitely go travelling. I have done it and never regretted it. You may even meet someone else while you are travelling and you might not even be thinking about this guy. If you guys are meant to be he will be there when you are back. Or try and stay in touch while travelling and see how it goes.
smackie9 Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Also keep your options open, you never know who you will meet in your travels.
Author Iris17 Posted October 18, 2014 Author Posted October 18, 2014 Shall I just ask him if he likes me, or feels the same? Or is a month too soon to ask such thing?
Stumble Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Personally I would wait and see as it has been just a month but that's just me.
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