Ex Wants Me Back, I Still Do Love Her ...Long Read but I Am So .

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Bit of a long post but here goes, gonna get everything off my chest;

 

2 years ago i met a girl, through mates, we clicked straight away and from meeting the whole relationship was like a whirlwind. Within a month we were going on holidays, seeing each other everyday, experimenting living together etc while her family were away for a few weeks. It was perfect, like we were into each other big time.

 

I got a new job which meant me moving 100 miles away, she was a hairdresser which meant working saturdays so i would come back on friday night see her, then saturday night she would then come back to my work house for al sunday and monday. That way we had 4 days together so it was working well. But work pressure got me stressed, her work closed down so she moved salons, which then went on to close down also, so she was facing unemployment. Her parents were in a messed up relatinship, the dad cheated and lived between his two houses, one with his gf and one with his wife. He also had a 3rd girl that the others didnt know about. The mom wasnt allowed to meet anybody or the dad would cut off all funding to her.

 

Going through all those issues between the two of us just caused us to do nothing but fight and argue all the time. That is when a guy that she had worked with before (he is 18, she is 20, i am 22) started speaking to her. He had just broke up with a long term girl too and me and her were arguing constantly. In June i was sent to work in South Korea for a month and then i came home and had went away again with family. So me and her became distant and no spark and when we did talk it was a fight.

 

Late July we would argue and i would say i hate her and never want to see her again and its over, when id say that she would start talking to this other guy and they ended up meeting a handful of times, started off as friends but then they started getting together and supporting each other (they never slept, it was only kissing). Around mid-august, so this had been going on for about 3 weeks of them two meeting once or twice a week, i found out about them and kicked her out my house and told her to never speak again.

 

After all the love that i had given her, the stuff that we had done and how she was identical to me in every way her meeting another guy, even though looking back i had forced her into it and her mom didnt help, telling her to get with different guys all the time. I was so destroyed that i felt over her in a second. The next day i started talking to a girl, she was a hairdresser next door to the store i used to work at, my mate thought she was amazing but she wasnt my type, she was a nice girl and we met up went on a few dates and rushed into a relationship within 2 weeks.

 

This girl though when i look back was just a rebound, with her we didnt click, she had no interests really. We both liked the same stuff but she didnt have anything she was passionate about and we could talk for hours about, like i could with my ex. I saw about 2 weeks after me and this girl became exclusive on FB that my ex and the other guy had become official. This guy though was not her type, he was a cokehead 18 year old that worked at McDonalds.

 

I broke up with my rebound on thursday and went out with my mates to a club because all the feelings of breaking up with the first girl just hit me hard. Then, out of nowhere their she is in the club with her guy mate. After the club we both ended up in the same chicken shop and she was telling my mate (mutual friend) that she is still in love with me. I just don't feel right when im not with her, i still love her too i think.

 

After hanging out with them till about 5am all of us, i got home and she phoned me. She told me she had broke up with her bf because it just wasn't working. We spoke for 2 hours and she was telling me all about how much she loved me etc and how she cries most of the time thinking about us. I was speaking to her the day after when i got a little suspicious so asked the other guy if they were broken up, he said they broke it off that morning (after she bumped into me and then called me telling me she was single).

 

Ive been talking to her quite a lot now and its as if it was so nice having a girl to talk to, the rebound just had no conversational spark at all. We met this morning for 40 minutes to talk about everything and we just chatted and laughed and chilled and reminisced like old times and it was comforting.

 

 

I don't know how im feeling right now, i broke up with a rebound that i did like but it just wasn't working and then i see an ex who was amazing with me but then she lied about having a bf but she did but then broke it off the day after and came to me. Then all my mates and family say not to go back cause when i bitched to them about what happened after we broke up she obviously come out as a lot worse and they hate her.

 

I dont know what to do anymore, opinions?

[AieshaR]

Hey!

 

Okay yeah that sounds like a crazy confusion going on! Honestly what I think you should do is move on. As hurtful as that is. It ended for a reason, and I can honestly say that going back to an ex is never a good idea. I'm all for reading the "signs" and what not, it's a coincidence that you guys bumped into each other but I think you need to be rational about your decisions. Maybe this is just a good way to end it on good terms? You need to ask yourself what changes can be made to fix the relationship? I just think you both have too much going on in your seperate lives to hang on to something that is toxic. Usually getting back with your ex is all sunshine and rainbows for the first few weeks but then it just goes back to the old ways. Really think about your future instead of temporary pain relief. Yes you love her, but sometimes love alone isn't enough. It's everything that comes with it.

 

Good luck!

[CarrieT]

Late July we would argue and i would say i hate her and never want to see her again and its over, when id say that she would start talking to this other guy and they ended up meeting a handful of times, started off as friends but then they started getting together and supporting each other (they never slept, it was only kissing). Around mid-august, so this had been going on for about 3 weeks of them two meeting once or twice a week, i found out about them and kicked her out my house and told her to never speak again.

 

I have bolded all the reasons why you should move on and go No Contact. This is a toxic relationship (if you can call it that) and she has already proven herself by making out with someone else.

 

Do you want to get back to arguments, statements of hatred, infidelity and deception?

[Lingo1]

Trust me u love her but deep down in heart is telling u yes and your mind is telling u no trust me man i was in this type of thing few months ago my ex hurt me while i was trying to get her back and after a while i just gave up and said to myself why should i be unhappy while shes over their happy? U have to think about yourself instead of her .. When u do stuff based on ur ex u will fall flat on your face i took my ex back 2 times and she still dumped me ? Even when she broke up with me for a final time i was in the hospital and she never offered to visit me but she could hang out with the other guy ex's dont ,but everyone different so i cant compare trust me their way better girls out their that will treat u better you think shes the one and u want her back but ones u move on and start no contact u will see and feel her as a normal person , trust me now my ex calls me every week talking about getting back together she just recently stopped calling so much after i told her that i accept the friendship and everything that u done and i cant date u because u really hurt me when i was in the hospital and u never offered to even come see me but u could see a next guy u claimed was ur "friend" everything takes time to move on try my friend because dating her will be a step back.. dont make her step all over u .Some girls like like my ex for example think that when u break up with someone u can just leave and comeback after u finish messing around with the whole bunch of guys and we are just suppose to take them back no life doesnt work like that my friend

[msms21]

 

First of all, i gotta say that sentence was hilarious. I didnt stoped laugh haha

 

Look dude, in my opinion it really depends of what kind of a person is she.

I mean, you need to ask yourself if she can do it again ? Is she really that kind of a type or she just made a mistake. I think some of the people here forget we all humans. We all make mistakes. And if you love her, i mean truely love her you can be able to forgive her.

Only you knows if she really mean all those stuff and really loves you. You need to remmber you said hard things to her too, and im not saying she was fine at all she did a bad thing, but every body wrong sometimes.

 

Just think about it.