Grevensteiner Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 I know a girl for 3 months, she's 19, I'm 21. Right now we meet like every second day, kissing, etc. She calls me everyday, texts me all the time. We also agreed to be exclusive. Ok, there's just one problem...she doesn't really want to have sex. I mean, she's really open minded, talking about sex is not a problem for her at all, it's just that she says she will have sex in a relationship only. She doesn't even wanna come to my house. And that's where the problem is, cause sex is a way to a relationship. Well I just feel like I can't move it on. It's like that for about 3 weeks already. What should I do? And by the way, she was in a couple of relationships already, she has experience, confidence, etc.
KFuPanda Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 I know a girl for 3 months, she's 19, I'm 21. Right now we meet like every second day, kissing, etc. She calls me everyday, texts me all the time. We also agreed to be exclusive. Ok, there's just one problem...she doesn't really want to have sex. I mean, she's really open minded, talking about sex is not a problem for her at all, it's just that she says she will have sex in a relationship only. She doesn't even wanna come to my house. And that's where the problem is, cause sex is a way to a relationship. Well I just feel like I can't move it on. It's like that for about 3 weeks already. What should I do? And by the way, she was in a couple of relationships already, she has experience, confidence, etc. Dude, what are you after? Do you want a relationship with her? If you're making out and ****. Ask her if she wants to be exclusive and start a relationship if that is what you want. It's not marriage, if the sex is bad and things go sour, you can break up. If you don't want that, then move on and let her find what she is looking for. 1
Gaeta Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 So, are you in a relationship or not? You can't blame her for wanting an official relationship with a man before being intimate. You have to respect her wish. 1
Chasin Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Agreed with everyone here. Be glad your woman is doing that! It's rare. My girlfriend made me wait 2 months, basically until we were dating and even then it was worked for, but it was amazing! The tension is incredible and it'll make it that much better. You need to know if you just want to be intimate without feelings or be in a relationship. If you just want to be intimate, I think you should look elsewhere and let her find someone who wants the same. If you want a relationship, EMBRACE that. 2
Author Grevensteiner Posted October 18, 2014 Author Posted October 18, 2014 Huh, you got me wrong here It's me who wants to be in a relationship. She tells me she's not ready YET, I do know why and understand it, but she behaves like she really commits and tells me we'll see where it gets us. I just want to know how to play that...what should I do next...because I feel like making out every 2nd day and her refusals to come over to my house isn't going to anything more.
d0nnivain Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 She's 19. At that age, she may feel that you are pressing her too fast. Certain younger women need you to invest a LONG time before they believe you are worthy & will still be there after intimacy. Romance her & stop whining or break up with her & find a woman who will fall into be more quickly.
Chemist Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Huh, you got me wrong here It's me who wants to be in a relationship. She tells me she's not ready YET, I do know why and understand it, but she behaves like she really commits and tells me we'll see where it gets us. I just want to know how to play that...what should I do next...because I feel like making out every 2nd day and her refusals to come over to my house isn't going to anything more. My mistake, but it is clear that she wants to go slow. If she is worth it, take it slow. Get to know her. Just lay off asking her to come over and don't push for sex right now. Give it a month or two. 1
Haerts Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Sorry, that sounds so weird! You both agreed to be exclusive. Doesn't that automatically put both of you in a relationship? I mean, if you're not allowed to see anyone else, nor is she, there's already a commitment, right? Maybe you should just give her some time. She's not ready to have sex with you yet and that's very clear here. If you're liking her and you want her, be patient and wait for her.
Gaeta Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 About asking her how it worked for her in her past relationships. If she says she waited 6 months then you decide if you can wait or not that amount of time.
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