Chasin Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 So my gf of 6 months (been pretty much together for 8) has left to intern for 2 months. Of course, I'm a family guy, I don't not want to see her family for 2 months. I just started finding my relationship with God, so I'll be going to church with them. Also I'd like to pursue in Law Enforcement, and her dad happens to be. We're going shooting together, of course I like to talk to him and pick his brain. So I tell my gf this and she tells me how it's weird to do that because she's not here. We're pretty serious with eachother so I personally think it's weird of her. Am I in the right? The wrong?
Art_Critic Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 (edited) It would only be weird if you were talking about her, but if you're are guying it up with him shooting and all there is nothing wrong with that.. and honestly his Dad probably appreciates you spending time with him.. score on Dad points. Just don't start spending gobs of time with her Mom and going over there without her unless it was a guying up thing with her Dad. Edited October 18, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
veggirl Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 for *me* its weird just because I've never developed close relationships w/ a boyfriends parents/family to the point that we hang out w/o him, but I know others do so...no I don't think it's super abnormal in the general sense. Your gf probably thinks its weird just because SHE wouldn't do that w/ your family.
veggirl Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 It would only be weird if you were talking about her, but if your are guying it up with her shooting and all there is nothing wrong with that.. and honestly his Dad probably appreciates you spending time with him.. score on Dad points. Just don't start spending gobs of time with her Mom and going over there without her unless it was a guying up thing with her Dad. Or her sisters
Author Chasin Posted October 18, 2014 Author Posted October 18, 2014 for *me* its weird just because I've never developed close relationships w/ a boyfriends parents/family to the point that we hang out w/o him, but I know others do so...no I don't think it's super abnormal in the general sense. Your gf probably thinks its weird just because SHE wouldn't do that w/ your family. That is exactly what she said. "She wouldn't hang out with my family without me". But then I thought of it, I'm muxh more closer to her family than she is mine. She's got a busy schedule so we often will hang out at her house. I mean, I took a road trip with them for about 8 hours to meet my girlfriend up in Cali lol. she's just not as close to my family as I am hers.
Haerts Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 I can't see anything wrong there. Actually, she should be happy that you're spending time with her family; that's a way to show her that you love her, her family and that you want to stay close when though she's not near. It's a bit weird, but I honestly don't think it's a bad thing.
Author Chasin Posted October 18, 2014 Author Posted October 18, 2014 I can't see anything wrong there. Actually, she should be happy that you're spending time with her family; that's a way to show her that you love her, her family and that you want to stay close when though she's not near. It's a bit weird, but I honestly don't think it's a bad thing. I love her, a lot. I do want to stay close. I mean it's not 2 weeks, it's 2 months lol. Is feel weird just not seeing or talking to them for 2 months. Idk. This little situation kinda sucks lol.
d0nnivain Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 It's unusual because most people don't have the maturity to be friendly with their SOs family. I found it a bit awkward right after DH & I got married. That doesn't make it bad. If you all like each other's company, keep doing what you are doing. DH spent time with my dad without me because they had a lot in common. Everybody remarked about how great it was for my dad to finally have a son.
veggirl Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 I love her, a lot. I do want to stay close. I mean it's not 2 weeks, it's 2 months lol. Is feel weird just not seeing or talking to them for 2 months. Idk. This little situation kinda sucks lol. Don't worry about it, just because she thinks it's "weird" isn't the end of the world, she didn't forbid you from doing it or anything.
ExpatInItaly Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 I personally see nothing wrong with it, and would welcome the opportunity for a boyfriend to get to know my family. However, she's apparently not entirely comfortable with this. I would pay attention to that. Perhaps she feels she isn't ready to integrate you as fully into her family life yet.
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