thelonewolflegend Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Im out of town for a week i want to know what i message girls on old to meetup with them quickly or meet them being out and approach. Advice appreciated
KFuPanda Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Im out of town for a week i want to know what i message girls on old to meetup with them quickly or meet them being out and approach. Advice appreciated Well man, considering most girls on OLD claim to be looking for relationships, I get a fair sense that many of them are also looking for hook ups. You have to consider that many men in the area are trying to do the same, constantly. I would guess honesty is the best policy. I wouldn't comment on their looks too much. Say something about their profile, and how you think you two could have a connection and that you find her attractive and would like to meet up. Say it all in the first message. Rinse, repeat. Do this a lot, it's a numbers game. My opinion though is that you'd have better luck going out to a busy club or bar. ****, just ask attractive girls you see on the street if they'd like to get a coffee/have lunch/etc... Good luck gettin your stones off.
michellew Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 (edited) I have met a few men through Tinder that were only in town for work. They usually start with something like, "hey there! In town for a few days and could use some good restaurant suggestions". I give them a few and then they ask if I'd like to join them for dinner. No pressure, no cheesy compliments, just be upfront that you're only in town temporarily and could use the company. No mention of hooking up either. It's pretty much a given that you aren't looking for anything serious if you're only there for a few days. Edited October 18, 2014 by michellew 1
GemmaUK Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Online just go for women looking for casual hook ups/one off meets. I've had lots of messages on OLD from American and Canadian guys saying they will be here for 2/3 weeks and want me to show them around London...and...have a holiday fling basically. One guy actually wanted a house to live in while here..eg..mine..*cough* If I OLD I am looking for a relationship and my profile says so. I wouldn't meet a guy here on holiday right off the bat like that and most definitely would not let him stay in my house!
FitChick Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 When I've gone to the UK on several trips in the past, I stated in my profile my interests and asked if they knew of anything happening at that time, what I should see and do. I met a few guys, two are still good friends, who showed me around, took me to the theatre, comedy club, dinner, stately homes, etc. We always had a good time. Most singles are in a rut and are happy to have an excuse to go out. I am doing something similar now since I will be travelling in the US but to another state. I've been emailing one guy for the past week, picking his brain for ideas. We plan to meet in his town where there are a lot of historic sights. He wants to see one of the other places I plan to visit but I am waiting for him to ask to go with me. Of course, he may be waiting for me to ask so as not to intrude or perhaps he thinks I am meeting someone else there as well. I admit that I am stalling in case I do hear from someone else. I have to say that I am disappointed in American men after only a month of being online with Match. "The odds are good but the goods are odd." I had better luck with Brits. Early days yet.
d0nnivain Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 You don't meet out of town people -- except pros -- on the internet You meet people on vacation by saying hello to whoever is next to you at the bar, on the beach etc. 1
michellew Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 You don't meet out of town people -- except pros -- on the internet You meet people on vacation by saying hello to whoever is next to you at the bar, on the beach etc. The men I met online weren't pros; they were just confident and went for it. Confidence is always key, in person and online.
d0nnivain Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Michelle You are a woman. If a woman posts on OLD & says I'm going to be in xyz town for a week it makes sense that men would reach out. If a man messages a woman on OLD & says hey I'm gonna be in your town on vacation, most women aren't going to respond because it appears that he only wants a ONS or they have no interest in an LDR. If a man posts that he will be in some town for a week, the only people who respond are most likely going to be prostitutes. See the casual encounters section of Craigslist. If you want to meet people on vacation do it the old fashioned way by talking to the people you encounter in your travels. 1
michellew Posted October 19, 2014 Posted October 19, 2014 Michelle You are a woman. If a woman posts on OLD & says I'm going to be in xyz town for a week it makes sense that men would reach out. If a man messages a woman on OLD & says hey I'm gonna be in your town on vacation, most women aren't going to respond because it appears that he only wants a ONS or they have no interest in an LDR. If a man posts that he will be in some town for a week, the only people who respond are most likely going to be prostitutes. See the casual encounters section of Craigslist. If you want to meet people on vacation do it the old fashioned way by talking to the people you encounter in your travels. Please don't speak on behalf of women by saying that they won't respond online because they assume the guy is only out for a ONS or they have no interest in a LDR. The exact same assumption can be made during a face to face encounter with someone from out of town--their situation is still the same, but the platform in which they met someone is different. As stated earlier if you read correctly, I have met men online that were in town for a few days and I am definitely not a prostitute, nor are others I know who have done the same. I simply said 'why not' to an enjoyable evening out. Bottom line is, both OLD and getting out there can both lead to meeting women while on vacation. People have had success both ways.
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