arpana Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Hi there, I went on a date this week, that was just perfect. We went to a restaurant and were talking all night for some 3 hours. In fact it was 10 minutes before we began to eat are meals. The waitress actually came up and asked if the food was OK. I drove my date home, she was talking the whole time and we were having fun. i walked her to her door, and said goodbye. We didn't hug or kiss (to be honest I didn't try, I am 51 and rather old school. She is same age as me). When I got home I txt to say what a lovely evening I had with her. She replied: Thank you. It was lovely evening with good company. Lets do something different next time. Today I msg her to see if she would like to spend some time together this weekend, at the coast or go for walk (she likes these things). The text back was: Hi, I have a busy weekend ahead. Thank you for the invite, but very little free time at the moment. Hope you have a good weekend I will txt you when I have a bit of free time. Take care. What is your take on this. It feels like she has cooled, but I may be overthinking things. I trait of mine I hate. Thank you.
ThisisIt606 Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 hmm, well I'm 26 (female) and I personally wouldn't send this text if I liked a guy I went on a date with. However I have received the "take care" text from a guy who was 36 and assumed it was a bush off. However he was still very much into me and later explained he honestly just wanted me to have a nice night and take care of myself. She seems to be wanting to leave it in her court/take control for now as she said she will text you. It may be best to give her some space (the weekend) if you don't hear back from her by the beginning of next week you could try sending a casual text that you hope she had a nice weekend/ if things have settled down a bit would you get interested in doing X on x day?
mightycpa Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 "take care" is just another way to say "bye" for some people. I wouldn't read too much into it. I also wouldn't expect a text until Tuesday at the earliest. You know, at 51, people have a lot of things to do. There are kids, and plans to do activities made long ago with friends. Planned weekends, etc. She might even have a couple of dates already lined up. She might even be getting some plastic surgery you'll enjoy when it heals. You just don't know, but it is very safe to assume that she's actually busy. Tom Petty said that the waiting is the hardest part. You should find something to do this weekend. 2
GemmaUK Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 I'm mid forties and I don;t drop my life if I have met a man once. Sounds like she has plans and will let you know when she is free (to me).
IronZ Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 How old is she? That kind of text from a 20-something would be bad news lol but if she's an older lady she might mean exactly what she said. She will text you when she has free time.
slizl Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Either way, do not text her before she texts you first!
Dontfindme Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 I say "take care" to everyone - close friends, coworkers, people I live with. The "take care" is not a big deal. But let her message you. As someone mentioned above, seems like she wants to take the lead in reaching out/planning something.
Author arpana Posted October 18, 2014 Author Posted October 18, 2014 Thanks for the advice. I am far too delicate a male for this You are quite right that I am probably overthinking this. This is a lady I have known since school on and off through my life (no romance or time out together. Just bumping in to each other every so often). We have both never married and I think we have both got used to our independence. So I guess nothing is really gonna happen quickly.
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