falxmanolo Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Hey guys! I am actually have a ****e day, images of the conversations I've had with my ex keep popping up and it hurts me! Dammit! It's been a year and the horrible stuff he's said still hurt me! I was just thinking... what can I do to make it hurt less? I have more clarity now, I hurt because I feel STUPID for dating him. I don't hurt because I miss him! I'm trying to see if we can find humour in this trying to make it hurt less! My ex broke up with me through a a Facebook message which goes along the lines of something like this (he's a wannabe banker) "Dear XXX You have many terrific qualities but I've been increasingly unhappy with our relationship and hence I've decided to take the ultimate step of breaking up with you. I am aware of the fact that you lack maturity as you are still quite young and immature to handle romantic and emotional rejection, which is also why we are incompatible. I additionally wish to sever contact with you. Good luck with your life, I hope you find peace and happiness." Honestly, how effed up is that? I cannot believe I convinced myself for about 9 months that something was fundamentally wrong with me. Sure, I wasn't fantastic enough for him clearly but I was not the person that sent that message to my girlfriend of two years abruptly one lovely day! Reading that made me laugh, for how shallow those words are.. how easily people we love think it's alright to name-call us as "emotionally immature" and how easily we convince ourselves that THEIR perception of us is greater than our perception of us! Let's not deal with this kind of fertilised bull crap anymore! Stop idolising your exes and see them for what they are and in my case.. find the humour, laugh it off! If you have lovely thoughts, they will shine through you and attract the most positive things in the world! Don't let anybody define you 2
me85 Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Exactly. I found soooo much humor in my BU. I had to. My ex sent a long "it's over, I'm moving on" msg thru FB as well. 2 or 3 weeks later begging me to get back together with him. SMH
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Hey guys! I am actually have a ****e day, images of the conversations I've had with my ex keep popping up and it hurts me! Dammit! It's been a year and the horrible stuff he's said still hurt me! I was just thinking... what can I do to make it hurt less? I have more clarity now, I hurt because I feel STUPID for dating him. I don't hurt because I miss him! I'm trying to see if we can find humour in this trying to make it hurt less! My ex broke up with me through a a Facebook message which goes along the lines of something like this (he's a wannabe banker) "Dear XXX You have many terrific qualities but I've been increasingly unhappy with our relationship and hence I've decided to take the ultimate step of breaking up with you. I am aware of the fact that you lack maturity as you are still quite young and immature to handle romantic and emotional rejection, which is also why we are incompatible. I additionally wish to sever contact with you. Good luck with your life, I hope you find peace and happiness." Honestly, how effed up is that? I cannot believe I convinced myself for about 9 months that something was fundamentally wrong with me. Sure, I wasn't fantastic enough for him clearly but I was not the person that sent that message to my girlfriend of two years abruptly one lovely day! Reading that made me laugh, for how shallow those words are.. how easily people we love think it's alright to name-call us as "emotionally immature" and how easily we convince ourselves that THEIR perception of us is greater than our perception of us! Let's not deal with this kind of fertilised bull crap anymore! Stop idolising your exes and see them for what they are and in my case.. find the humour, laugh it off! If you have lovely thoughts, they will shine through you and attract the most positive things in the world! Don't let anybody define you Sounds like you should stay away from bankers. heheheheheee!! Good thing you did not withdraw on a line of crapola credit from him as well. take it from me, never let anyone convince you you're anything less than who you are. The best thing for you is let it all go and never allow it to return as a new platinum line of credit from another banker. hehehehehehee!!! At least you have proper mind to see the light from the past.
Seraque Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 Hey guys! I am actually have a ****e day, images of the conversations I've had with my ex keep popping up and it hurts me! Dammit! It's been a year and the horrible stuff he's said still hurt me! I was just thinking... what can I do to make it hurt less? I have more clarity now, I hurt because I feel STUPID for dating him. I don't hurt because I miss him! I'm trying to see if we can find humour in this trying to make it hurt less! My ex broke up with me through a a Facebook message which goes along the lines of something like this (he's a wannabe banker) "Dear XXX You have many terrific qualities but I've been increasingly unhappy with our relationship and hence I've decided to take the ultimate step of breaking up with you. I am aware of the fact that you lack maturity as you are still quite young and immature to handle romantic and emotional rejection, which is also why we are incompatible. I additionally wish to sever contact with you. Good luck with your life, I hope you find peace and happiness." Honestly, how effed up is that? I cannot believe I convinced myself for about 9 months that something was fundamentally wrong with me. Sure, I wasn't fantastic enough for him clearly but I was not the person that sent that message to my girlfriend of two years abruptly one lovely day! Reading that made me laugh, for how shallow those words are.. how easily people we love think it's alright to name-call us as "emotionally immature" and how easily we convince ourselves that THEIR perception of us is greater than our perception of us! Let's not deal with this kind of fertilised bull crap anymore! Stop idolising your exes and see them for what they are and in my case.. find the humour, laugh it off! If you have lovely thoughts, they will shine through you and attract the most positive things in the world! Don't let anybody define you Love your attitude! I wish we all are able to get to this point. Yes, it's important to find humor, and some anger as well IMO. In my case it's so funny how much he thinks he is a great guy when in reality he is an a** and admitted too in some occasions. Talk about being confused.
Jewels7 Posted October 20, 2014 Posted October 20, 2014 After I moved out of the house I shared with my ex I told him he could throw awaywhatever I left behind. I also told him I would take care of a mutual bill we had and I went NC. I blocked him from FB, where he decided to make another account to message me. He told me he kept my stuff for long enough and what did I want him to do with it, as well as asked me if I needed any paperwork for the pets we had (he kept the dogs, I took the cats), and he told me I needed to answer or he "would be forced to get a police escort to my house to get the answer to those questions". It's really not funny because he was trying to intimidate me... but it is funny at the same time. I don't think the police do that? Lol. Also I got a message from a made up person on FB asking me what happened between us. When I wouldn't give this person the information he claimed it was his cousin. Actually I'm pretty sure it was him since it sounded just like him. It's so crazy that it's almost laughable.
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