Why would this guy text me his feelings instead of saying it to my face?

[collegestudent1]

I'm a college student and today at school, I saw a guy sitting alone and I sat with him and talked to him. We were talking for a half hour and we exchanged numbers. After I left he texted me saying, "Hey you are super hot". I said thanks. Then he said, "Are you single because I want to take you out". I said, "No Im not sorry". I said that because I just don't think he's my type and I have no interest in dating him. Why couldn't he say this is person and decided to get me instead he texted me this? What does this mean?

[mammasita]

It means he's shy.

[Redhead14]

I'm a college student and today at school, I saw a guy sitting alone and I sat with him and talked to him. We were talking for a half hour and we exchanged numbers. After I left he texted me saying, "Hey you are super hot". I said thanks. Then he said, "Are you single because I want to take you out". I said, "No Im not sorry". I said that because I just don't think he's my type and I have no interest in dating him. Why couldn't he say this is person and decided to get me instead he texted me this? What does this mean?

 

He should have at least called. But, why did you give him your number if you had no interest? That doesn't make sense to me. YOu should have said, I've enjoyed talking with you, but I don't see the need for exchanging numbers or some other honest, direct response.

[NJ123]

He should have at least called. But, why did you give him your number if you had no interest? That doesn't make sense to me. YOu should have said, I've enjoyed talking with you, but I don't see the need for exchanging numbers or some other honest, direct response.

 

Because she probably didn't want to be rude. Seems girls usually always give out their numbers even if they have no interest since it's easier that way than to possibly have an awkward moment.

[Redhead14]

Because she probably didn't want to be rude. Seems girls usually always give out their numbers even if they have no interest since it's easier that way than to possibly have an awkward moment.

 

Why would anyone feel awkward about being honest and upfront? Especially, since you sat on a bench next to someone randomly and spoke for half and hour. I wouldn't give my number to a virtual stranger. If I spent an hour or more in conversation and had some kind of connection, I might. YOu don't have to be rude to decline giving your number.

[d0nnivain]

It means he's a college boy. Risking distance rejection via text was easier on his ego then direct rejection & having to look in your face as you shot him down.

[NJ123]

Why would anyone feel awkward about being honest and upfront? Especially, since you sat on a bench next to someone randomly and spoke for half and hour. I wouldn't give my number to a virtual stranger. If I spent an hour or more in conversation and had some kind of connection, I might. YOu don't have to be rude to decline giving your number.

 

I mean what is the girl supposed to say. "Sorry, I don't want to give you my number since I have no interest." A lot of girls want to avoid the awkwardness of having to say something like that so they just give it.

[ComingInHot]

Collegestudent1 wrote, "We were talking for a half hour and we exchanged numbers."

 

I would have been surprised that you didn't exchange numbers if you let the conversation go on 30 + minutes. To me that would be a sign of possible interest from the opposite sex.

I've been out of the game a loooong time but I recall ending the communications before I felt that there was interest and would expect that vis-a-versa.

 

I think for being a young man, he played it well for himself AND didn't it save You the comfortableness of having to let him down to his face?

[Brooke02]

So you'd rather of said " your not single" to his face?

That would've been awkward. The texting was better.

[Gloria25]

So you'd rather of said " your not single" to his face?

That would've been awkward. The texting was better.

 

Agreed ^^.

 

I text a lot, the only time I want to speak to someone in person is if I have something important to say.

 

He probably perceived you weren't that into him, hence the text.

 

But still, since you two already talked for like 30 min, I don't see what was wrong with him asking you out via text...

[mightycpa]

You gave him a signal of interest. He responded in kind. Why did he do it in text?

 

For the same reason you gave him your number without warning him that a) you're not single and b) you're not interested.

 

It seems like you'd be perfect for each other.