NiCoLe20 Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 ok guys i need some advice... My boyfriend "rich" and I have been together for about 2 months now. everything is still kinda new, and we are still getting to know one another. He's a great guy- very caring, sweet, polite, and respectful. Im not the type thats into materialistic things but he takes me out to eat, and he's sent me flowers to work. Now, he recently quit his job so right now he's tight with money. He's getting his liscense back in a couple days but he has no car. He drives his brothers when he needs to go somewhere. He just signed up for school which he will be attending in fall, so thats good!! Overall he's a great guy, but the no job, no car thing bothers me. Ive had maybe 2 guys in my life that actually had their own car and drove, but it does bother me I'll admit. He will eventually geta car soon so I guess I gotta wait around to find out... Now... I go tanning and I ran into this guy on the way there.He asked my friend "kelly" for my #. He told her I was cute, and he wanted to chill one time. This guy is a cutie! so this new guy "rob" has been texting me saying he would like to chill and this n that. ok... "rob" called me today and asked to take me out to dinner. in the back of my mind, im thinking i should say no, because I have a boyfriend. The other half of me is saying, well never settle for less, and this guy could be even better, just give it a shot. what should i do? i want to risk it and see what happens to be honest. I just feel really bad b/c my new b/f "rich" is really really into me. He's told me before that he wants us to last forever, and he can picture marrying me in the future. At the same time, I'm figuring, if i got out to eat with this new guy, im going to tell him off the bat that i dont want to lead him on, but im kind of seeing somone. if anything, ill gain a friend through this... "rob" and i were talking today on the phone, and he has a pretty good job, and has a car, and sounds really sweet. believe me guys im not all about $$ when it comes to guys, but if i have a job, and if i have a car- i would like my man to have the same. thats all im really saying here. i dont want to be with a bum basically.. i want someone who has goals and can achieve them and stuff like that. so what do you think i should do? go for it or not? i could be missing out on something with this guy, but then again it'll crush my b/f... whats a girl to do lol
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 I think you should give it a whirl!!!! Meet new people. Who knows,"rob" could be the one you marry! And you will never know unless you see him. What "rich" don't know, wont hurt him. Plus its only been 2 months. Guys not having a car or license or job bugs me too. Especially if you have a car and your basically his chauffeur! Go out to eat with rob and see how things go. People meet new people and break up everyday. Nothing new. What can you lose?
EC Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 lol .... Oh girl..being cute is so hard.... DO you love this bf of yours??? My rule is if its been less than three months, you don't love him, then don't settle and move on. Your young and you don't have a ring on your finger. Like they say though the grass isn't always greener on the other side. This ROB guy might be all good on the outside but can be a complete jerk. And RICH you have been with for 2 months and everything is fine and he's cool except for the job thing. Is he looking for jobs though? Some people might not like what I'm about to say but In my opinion you won't know unless you go out on a date with this new guy. I say go out with him feel him out and if you like it then take the leap and don't settle. If it doesn't work out hey at least you won't have any regrets.
iceisles Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 I don't see any harm going on the date as long as it remains casual. Dating is so hard, and you never know when your next date may be the person of your dreams. Definitely let us know what you decide.
Author NiCoLe20 Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 thanks for the advice! i think im going to give it a shot.. ive been thinking about it all day lol. my b/f cant find out though... from the beginning of our relationship, i told him that every friday will be a girls nite out for me, and a guys nite out for him, then we can hang out on saturdays. this gives me some freedom in a way to do things w/ my girls instead of him being right there. so i think i will go out to eat fri nite before i go out w/ my friends, or early sat nite before i see him who knows! ill keep u guys posted on what happens this weekend !!!
fundamental Posted March 11, 2005 Posted March 11, 2005 If I was Rich.... I'd definitely make sure I'd fine someone to possibly replace you. What I am trying to say is that it is your decision to make... you would be upset if you found out he was seeing someone behind your back. So, just becareful about things because no matter how much you will try to keep the new guy "Rob" a secret, Rich will eventually find out. Unless....you are one of those slick girls!!!! LOL... go out with the guy and see what happens...maybe he is better for you than your current guy.
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