Gloria25 Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Unless one of these women has tried to solicit money or valuables in exchange for sex, I'd think twice about calling them prostitutes. People have many, many reasons for what they do. THANK YOU.... I am late 30's, never been married, no kids (never even preggo), and MY MOM LIVES WITH ME. So, I guess I'm a prostitute too? Also, I don't advertise what I do for a living cuz I do work with the public and even though I always prefer to keep what I do for a living concealed, I eventually tell a guy once I get to know him for sure. I mean, a lady I work with got followed home by someone who was upset that she didn't approve something for him. I've also had people threaten me and my job - so no, I'm not gonna advertise where I work at to anyone w/o getting to know them well. I also don't bring guys home like I used to cuz Mom's there. At least when my brother was here (and he lived near by), I could just drop her off there. For the last year or so I haven't had that luxury. Plus, my family stays by me when they come into the country. So, already next year I'm gearing up for having family there. So, I just feel awkward about brining a guy over with mum or family there. Like two years ago, I can't remember why, but I couldn't shove my mom off by my brothers, so my FWB spent the night and it was awkward. About being uber sexy on a first date...Um, I dress sexy on a first date, but not like the boots and red dress chick you described...and, even if it gets sexy, I think she was a little overboard. But still, I've heard stories about OLD and FB chicks that appear to be looking for money. While they may not be prostitutes per se, they are looking for one guy to pay their rent, one guy to pay their light bill, and one to give them $20.00 now and then. I think the only way you know for sure is spending time with them, putting on protection, and watching your wallet. I mean, a guy started a thread here where only after two weeks, a chick was hitting him up for money. Cuz, again, I eventually end up taking the guy to my place and/or telling him were I work...but, it comes with time and me getting to know if that's something I wanna disclose to him. 2
Author Jules Dash Posted October 18, 2014 Author Posted October 18, 2014 THANK YOU.... I am late 30's, never been married, no kids (never even preggo), and MY MOM LIVES WITH ME. So, I guess I'm a prostitute too? No, Gloria, you can never be a prostitute. :-) Now you bring up some things that are related to why she was so suspicious. She was really insisted on finding out the exact place where I worked but when I asked her, she conveniently worked from home for her own business with no name nor did she advertise for it. How can she be taxed on a business like this? It sounds like prostitution. The place we met up at was moderately busy and she was standing next to me and just confidently showing off her body in that tight red dress and sticking her behind out in an enticing manner. This place was well lit and was basically made out of windows. Either way, I am going to find out for sure next week. I am curious and I want to settle this with the skeptics. She has accepted another meet up with me next week. 1
Natsu21 Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 OLD is a mixed bag of crazy. I'd rather just meet people. Or...better yet... hire a prostitute. 1
FitChick Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Maybe she wanted to know where you worked to figure out if you made a lot of money. She might be looking for a job as your mistress. The reason she told you about the expensive car and trips is because this is what men have probably given her in the past and she will expect similar.
Natsu21 Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 THANK YOU.... I am late 30's, never been married, no kids (never even preggo), and MY MOM LIVES WITH ME. So, I guess I'm a prostitute too? Also, I don't advertise what I do for a living cuz I do work with the public and even though I always prefer to keep what I do for a living concealed, I eventually tell a guy once I get to know him for sure. I mean, a lady I work with got followed home by someone who was upset that she didn't approve something for him. I've also had people threaten me and my job - so no, I'm not gonna advertise where I work at to anyone w/o getting to know them well. I also don't bring guys home like I used to cuz Mom's there. At least when my brother was here (and he lived near by), I could just drop her off there. For the last year or so I haven't had that luxury. Plus, my family stays by me when they come into the country. So, already next year I'm gearing up for having family there. So, I just feel awkward about brining a guy over with mum or family there. Like two years ago, I can't remember why, but I couldn't shove my mom off by my brothers, so my FWB spent the night and it was awkward. About being uber sexy on a first date...Um, I dress sexy on a first date, but not like the boots and red dress chick you described...and, even if it gets sexy, I think she was a little overboard. But still, I've heard stories about OLD and FB chicks that appear to be looking for money. While they may not be prostitutes per se, they are looking for one guy to pay their rent, one guy to pay their light bill, and one to give them $20.00 now and then. I think the only way you know for sure is spending time with them, putting on protection, and watching your wallet. I mean, a guy started a thread here where only after two weeks, a chick was hitting him up for money. Cuz, again, I eventually end up taking the guy to my place and/or telling him were I work...but, it comes with time and me getting to know if that's something I wanna disclose to him. A thing I did was that I get to know girls on OLD. Once I get them comfortable enough to talk to me, I drop a bomb on them... I tell them I don't have any money...let me tell you how many girls who were previously flirting, telling me that I'm interesting and wanting to meet me suddenly flocked out. I made a profile where I was a rich guy and the chicks kept HITTING me up for cash. Truth is lots of women on OLD are looking for guys to pay their way. Seeing a prostitute on there isn't the least bit surprising.
HereNorThere Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 So the moral of the thread is.. Always stop by the ATM before going on an OLD date. You know, just in case you have to pay for more than dinner. 2
Author Jules Dash Posted October 18, 2014 Author Posted October 18, 2014 So the moral of the thread is.. Always stop by the ATM before going on an OLD date. You know, just in case you have to pay for more than dinner. Hilarious.
Author Jules Dash Posted October 18, 2014 Author Posted October 18, 2014 Update: Okay, so she sent me her FB info so I can see that she is "legit." The FB page has some of the same photos from her eHarmony page. I then Googled her and... found information on an attorney who looks just like her. Now I am not the type of guy who is afraid to admit it when he is wrong. If I was wrong, I will definitely have no problem saying so but I will hold my final assessment until we meet up next week. I am a professional who moves in professional circles and I know it is unusual for a woman of her status and beauty to come on so strong like this so soon. I have had women be very direct with me on the OLD sites before but this was just unusual. Again, I will update next week after the date happens, if it happens. She went out of town this weekend but just sent me a text wishing me a great day.
SmartDude Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Woman who are afflicted with Love & Sex addiction can also come on very strong.
Author Jules Dash Posted October 24, 2014 Author Posted October 24, 2014 Well here is my update: After reading the different posts here, I began to consider a different perspective on the woman who I believe was a prostitute. I contacted her the following day and apologized for dismissing her so easily and I asked her to give things another chance and allow me to make it up to her. She was really cool about and easily looked past the situation. Although she went out of town the following day after our first date, she texted me often throughout her weekend trip. She even texted me immediately after her plane landed to inform me she had arrived back to our home airport. There were a lot of flirtatious texts over the next couple of days and a couple of exchanges of sexy photos. We planned to go out tonight and I began to wonder if she would flake on me because her replies became short and she even ignored a couple of my texts yesterday. She did not flake and we met up tonight for dinner. We had a blast. We had a great dinner with great conversation. The chemistry was wonderful. She told me more about herself, her job, and her family along with a good deal of personal things. She even told me that she just thought I "wasn't that into her." During dinner she had asked me out on 3 additional dates, two for this weekend. I was flattered. It was a lot but how could I resist a beautiful, extremely charming woman asking me out on more dates? While we were finishing up on our dinner, she asked me if I wanted to check out this unique lounge a couple of blocks away. I gladly agreed. We went to the lounge and the staff were turning everyone away until a later time but she knew the owner of the place so they let us in while they turned everyone else away. She said she hated to drop his name but I was glad she did because it was raining and I just wanted to be on the inside. It was a great lounge. One of the best I had ever visited and I have been to many. We sat and talked. I learned she was recently in a relationship that ended. I thought that maybe her recent breakup may explain her aggressiveness with me. Rebound behavior can cause you to want to move faster than usual in attempt to get your mind and your heart away from your ex as much as possible. This may be the case with her but I thought just to enjoy myself, her and the moment. I know I have great things going for me and she gave me good compliments. We were having a blast. There was a lot of sexual tension between us. We kissed a lot, hugged a lot, held hands and grind against each other throughout the night. She asked the hostess to take a picture of us. At one point we made a silly bet related to trivia. She bet "herself' against a sentimental ring I have owned for 20 years. We were both wrong so I didn't win her and I kept my ring. We both had to work in the morning so we decided to finally leave the lounge. We held hands as we walked back to our cars. We have two more dates this weekend. So I think I was blinded by the recent scandal with the other woman I met online. As I stated earlier in this thread, I was dating someone who didn't even tell me their real name and background info until after we had sex. I think that influenced my view of the woman I went out with tonight the first time I met her. She definitely is no prostitute. I really appreciated the mature, non-confrontational and insightful feedback I got here in this thread that made me give this woman a second look. This does not have to turn into anything special but whatever it may turn into, I had a great, memorable night with this woman and that is a huge part of what dating is all about.
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