Armegoggon Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Serious question, what would you do? My friend, she's 19 and went on a date with a Badoo member. She told me they had a good talk. However, at the end of her date, her date admitted that he was actually 24 when he claimed to be 19 on the site.
mightycpa Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Well, I guess give him a few points for owning up to the truth on meeting #1.
Author Armegoggon Posted October 17, 2014 Author Posted October 17, 2014 Well, I guess give him a few points for owning up to the truth on meeting #1. He also stated that his reason was because he wanted to date girls who were barely out of their teenage years.
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 He also stated that his reason was because he wanted to date girls who were barely out of their teenage years. Now that's slightly creepy... Wait.... no, it's really creepy. 4
mightycpa Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 "barely out of their teenage years" means 20 and 21. I'm still going to award credit points. It would be creepy at my age. At 24, there is something to be said for rejecting 19 year olds.
warrenorabbits Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 I'd seriously question whether to go on a second date. It would be a red flag. 1
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 "barely out of their teenage years" means 20 and 21. I'm still going to award credit points. It would be creepy at my age. At 24, there is something to be said for rejecting 19 year olds. It's not weird if you say like early twenties but to say OUTLOUD "barely out of their teenage years" lol especially he wants that so bad to the point of lying. It's weird.
mightycpa Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 "barely out of their teenage years" might just be an inept and inarticulate way of saying "no longer teenagers" He's already admitted: 1) he didn't got University, he had to go to College 2) his neighborhood isn't ideal 3) he didn't tell the truth I don't think he's a bad guy. He may be a little unusual, but he's not afraid of telling the truth. He probably just wants to own up to where he's at. I've heard of a lot worse. We can agree to disagree. It's just not that bad to me.
Author Armegoggon Posted October 17, 2014 Author Posted October 17, 2014 Uhm you guys are you sure you're staying on topic? Are you sure that whatever you're posting is not about me and that it's about my friend?
Ruby Slippers Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Immediate disqualification. Someone who twists the truth for his own ends is not someone I want anything to do with. 3
WhatIsLove2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 "barely out of their teenage years" might just be an inept and inarticulate way of saying "no longer teenagers" He's already admitted: 1) he didn't got University, he had to go to College 2) his neighborhood isn't ideal 3) he didn't tell the truth I don't think he's a bad guy. He may be a little unusual, but he's not afraid of telling the truth. He probably just wants to own up to where he's at. I've heard of a lot worse. We can agree to disagree. It's just not that bad to me. BOLDED: those things are about the OP But yea, we can agree the guy is unusual.
Author Armegoggon Posted October 17, 2014 Author Posted October 17, 2014 BOLDED: those things are about the OP But yea, we can agree the guy is unusual. No surprise LoveShack is still full of off-topicers
mightycpa Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Uhm you guys are you sure you're staying on topic? Are you sure that whatever you're posting is not about me and that it's about my friend? ...No surprise LoveShack is still full of off-topicers Read between the lines, It's All About Me: WIL2014 is clearly saying to steer clear. MYTCPA is clearly saying that it's not a big deal. The discussions are not off topic. Strictly speaking, you're off topic. I think it is generally accepted that LS is for people to come here and get help with their dating complications, at least in this forum. You don't have a dating complication. You're wondering what your friend should do. It is not all that unbelievable that someone posts out of the norm (3rd party) and we lose sight of that. It really isn't even important to the question posed. What difference does it make whether you wrote about you, your friend, or your grandmother? You don't need any help. What's more, you barely said two words about your friend. We don't know anything about her, and we know a lot more about they guy she saw. So we are discussing what is important - the situation that was posed. The parties involved are irrelevant to the question, given that we know next to nothing about them. We are delving into the problem from two different perspectives. Should we talk about your friend? Give us something to talk about! Should we talk about you? Ditto. 1
IronZ Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 He also stated that his reason was because he wanted to date girls who were barely out of their teenage years. tell your friend to run very fast. 1
HereNorThere Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Lol, I was gonna say RUN!!! but it looks like someone beat me to it. Trust me, it takes a special kind of messed up to blatantly lie like that. Red flags everywhere!!
Mascara Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 It annoyed the hell out of me. It's like someone saying "you don't have the right to decide you don't want to be with someone over the age of x or under the age of y". People that lie about their age always use the excuse of "well I look younger" or "I behave younger". It's got nothing to do with those things. It's to do with the fact that I wanted someone within 8 years of my age because of the same popular social history, growing up within the same era, shared references. I relate to people on that level. I like being at a similar life stage as my partner. And that means if you're under 35 or in your 50s.... I wasn't interested and I don't care how mature you are in outlook / still pass for 40. And I didn't appreciate people contacting me who decided they knew better. 2
Gaeta Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Happened to me more than once to be lied about their age. Turned out they all were lying about something else too. 3
singsparkles Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Serious question, what would you do? My friend, she's 19 and went on a date with a Badoo member. She told me they had a good talk. However, at the end of her date, her date admitted that he was actually 24 when he claimed to be 19 on the site. Oh gosh... if it was a one year age gap lie, then that's one thing... but 5 years? Too much. Everyone should just be themselves. People will find out eventually.
Fondue Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 If someone I met lied about their age and told me the truth later (regardless if it was OLD or in person), I would no longer see them again. If something so basic as their age is something they choose to be dishonest about, what else would they hide/lie about in the future? It's just not a good way to "start" anything. 1
Michelle ma Belle Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 If someone I met lied about their age and told me the truth later (regardless if it was OLD or in person), I would no longer see them again. If something so basic as their age is something they choose to be dishonest about, what else would they hide/lie about in the future? It's just not a good way to "start" anything. Exactly! Took the words right out of my mouth. Honesty is always the best policy...at least it is if you dare date me
Maleficent Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 "barely out of their teenage years" means 20 and 21. I'm still going to award credit points. It would be creepy at my age. At 24, there is something to be said for rejecting 19 year olds. Yeah but a 20-21 year-old girl would have no problem dating a 24 year old guy and would most likely reject the 19 year old... Me thinks he is looking to date 16/17/18 year olds...
d0nnivain Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 When an adult (over 20 & in this case 24) lies so they can date teenagers, there is a problem. It's not even a legality thing but maturity comes into play. Why can't the 24 date more mature women? what's wrong with him? Even if at 24 he said he preferred to date 19, I could respect the honesty even though I don't completely understand the motivation beyond she's hot. If a 34 year old wrote that they were 29, I would be less harsh / judgmental in my opinion because that lie is motivated by our youth worshiping society & a fear of growing old not a desire to manipulate somebody younger. 1
Author Armegoggon Posted October 17, 2014 Author Posted October 17, 2014 Read between the lines, It's All About Me: WIL2014 is clearly saying to steer clear. MYTCPA is clearly saying that it's not a big deal. The discussions are not off topic. Strictly speaking, you're off topic. I think it is generally accepted that LS is for people to come here and get help with their dating complications, at least in this forum. You don't have a dating complication. You're wondering what your friend should do. It is not all that unbelievable that someone posts out of the norm (3rd party) and we lose sight of that. It really isn't even important to the question posed. What difference does it make whether you wrote about you, your friend, or your grandmother? You don't need any help. What's more, you barely said two words about your friend. We don't know anything about her, and we know a lot more about they guy she saw. So we are discussing what is important - the situation that was posed. The parties involved are irrelevant to the question, given that we know next to nothing about them. We are delving into the problem from two different perspectives. Should we talk about your friend? Give us something to talk about! Should we talk about you? Ditto. Yeah you're right, if it wasn't obvious you got addicted to drugs.
fortyninethousand322 Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Depends on how big the lie. 19 and 24 isn't a big enough difference for me to care. I've once had a profile where I lied and said I was 35 when I was only 24.
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