BarnsOutis Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 (edited) Edit: Sorry about the extra "a" in exactly...I made an oops. I was at a small church event for college students (a dozen of us at most) and I wasn't feeling terribly well so I wasn't talking very much, not that I do normally anyways. But there was this girl sitting next to me, who I kept seeing turn towards me in my peripheral vision, as if she wanted to speak. I never did talk to her though, I didn't even offer a personal introduction. As it came time to leave, she was in need of a ride so she asked the priest who could give her a ride. He pointed to my mother who was there and also my ride for the evening, so she asked her (apparently). I still hadn't introduced myself personally but we knew each others names because of the "group introduction". She followed me, very closely, out to the car and we all got into the car along with my best friend and proceeded to drop her off. I never talked to her in the car, though my friend did some and when we all said good night, she got quiet and stuttered some when I said good night. I am terrible at reading people most of the time, I really haven't given much though about until just know and I am just giving observations I made. I just want to know the behavior I witnessed. Edited October 17, 2014 by BarnsOutis spelling correction.
cerridwen Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Truthfully, you seem to have come off as unfriendly. So her stammering when you said goodbye could be down to uncomfortability. Why did you avoid talking to her?
Author BarnsOutis Posted October 17, 2014 Author Posted October 17, 2014 I didn't mean to, I was just feeling ill.
cerridwen Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 I didn't mean to, I was just feeling ill. Ah, right. Sorry. I missed that detail. Well, yes, unfortunately it still did come off as a chilly reception. Unless you were obviously feverish and out-of-sorts, she likely mistook it for coldness. I hope you're feeling better, btw.
CarrieT Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 So, the next time you see her, you go up to her and re-introduce yourself saying something like, "I was getting pretty sick the last time we met and I'm afraid I wasn't very hospitable. It is a pleasure to meet you..." And offer your hand to shake with a warm smile. 3
Author BarnsOutis Posted October 17, 2014 Author Posted October 17, 2014 Thanks, unfortunately I'm not though. =/ That isn't good.. Is there any way to remedy this in your opinion? Oh and I was do that to everyone that night, I in a speak only when spoken to mood.
Author BarnsOutis Posted October 17, 2014 Author Posted October 17, 2014 So, the next time you see her, you go up to her and re-introduce yourself saying something like, "I was getting pretty sick the last time we met and I'm afraid I wasn't very hospitable. It is a pleasure to meet you..." And offer your hand to shake with a warm smile. Thanks, I'll try that! . I only get to see her one a month though.
cerridwen Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Thanks, unfortunately I'm not though. =/ That isn't good.. Is there any way to remedy this in your opinion? Oh and I was do that to everyone that night, I in a speak only when spoken to mood. You probably missed Carrie's post above. I second her suggestion. This shouldn't be hard to fix. Don't worry! In fact, it's created the perfect opportunity for one-on-one interaction. Make sure to look especially nice next time you meet. 2
Author BarnsOutis Posted October 17, 2014 Author Posted October 17, 2014 Sounds good, I will try my best =). In you're opinions though, was she interested?
cerridwen Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Sounds good, I will try my best =). In you're opinions though, was she interested? I'm not sure about interested but she sounds open to engaging. You mentioned her turned at an angle to talk...at the very least she sounds friendly. It will be up to you to return that friendliness now, and perhaps parlay it into a date. 1
preraph Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Didn't go well, but it's not a lost cause. Now you have every reason to walk up to her at the next church function and speak to her. You can mention just in a casual way, not in a big apologetic way, that you felt bad that day or you'd have been more talkative. Now you have every excuse to talk to her all you want. So do it. You can even offer her a ride home again -- or you can call her before the next function and ask her if she needs a ride to it. The priest has made this very easy for you and you should put an extra buck in the collection plate for it.
Author BarnsOutis Posted October 17, 2014 Author Posted October 17, 2014 Didn't go well, but it's not a lost cause. Now you have every reason to walk up to her at the next church function and speak to her. You can mention just in a casual way, not in a big apologetic way, that you felt bad that day or you'd have been more talkative. Now you have every excuse to talk to her all you want. So do it. You can even offer her a ride home again -- or you can call her before the next function and ask her if she needs a ride to it. The priest has made this very easy for you and you should put an extra buck in the collection plate for it. Hahah, thanks for the advice! The not being apologetic part maybe difficult for me (any further help with that?).
BetrayedH Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Hahah, thanks for the advice! The not being apologetic part maybe difficult for me (any further help with that?). Just memorize Carrie's quote. Smart woman, that one. 1
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