MK4 Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Okay so trying to make this as short as possible as I'm sure no one wants to read my life story: - At 20, I meet Mac, friends of a friend of my brother, at a party, we exchange numbers on a whim. didn't think anything of it till we started texting - literally I've never clicked with anyone more, exchanged thousands of texts. Not my usual type actually very sweet guy but less.. I tend to always go for the loud, kind of man about town type. Mac's pretty quiet but really funny, grounded, a country boy, we just click really well! But he lived over 130 miles away and despite plenty of hints on both sides he never made an actual move. - At 21, I move to Italy for a year, I got into a relationship, that wasn't very good, I left when he became violent but only after leaving did I realise just how long I'd been unhappy with him. - Home for just under a month when I run into Mac, pretty unexpected, he suggested grabbing lunch and catching up, one thing lead to another we ended up spending the whole day together. He makes me feel really happy and good about myself when i'm with him, same as he did ever time a new text popped up on my phone, which is a way I hadn't felt for a while. To cut a long story short we slept together. I cant say I regretted it, it was what it was, I enjoyed myself, but 3 weeks later I find out im pregnant! - Skipping out loads of irrelevance really, I decided to keep the baby, Toby couldn't of been better, came to all the scans, he was really excited to be a dad and we agreed to raise our son together as friends, really good friends. So now, I'm 23, almost 24, Mac is 25, we have a gorgeous one year old little boy and life isn't half bad! Mac's really involved he tends to comes down on a Friday night and stays till Sunday evening most weeks really and once a month or so me and Duke will go up and stay with him. More when Duke was little to give me a break from doing night feeds and what have you. This means we spend a lot of time together, most of my free time to be honest, we'll go out places like the zoo or the beach with Duke, equally like we'll watch tele together in the evening, he'll cook us breakfast in the morning. Thing is the more time I spend with him the more, I like him, I feel like we're almost in a relationship without being if that makes sense. We both haven't dated anyone else, he even will share my bed when he stays at mine. I still haven't ever met anyone I click with like I do him, and i'd trust him with my life. Sometimes I think maybe I should just go for this, go for the happy little family I always wanted for my kids.......but I worry too - we have such a good friendship now, everything is so amicable and I worry that starting a relationship wouldn't be fair too our son - its taking a risk, particularly as we never even dated prior to Duke being born.. my parents had been together years and still divorced and it was messy and horrible and they still can't be in the same room.. I just don't know..
Shepp Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 You could put it the other way - Is it fair to your son not to try? Sure you might fail, just like any other couple with a kid might fail, and if you do then your son doesn't have it any different from any other kid of a separated/divorced couple. Yeah sure at the moment he gets to go with his mum and dad to the zoo but is that really worth so much that its not worth trying so he could come home to his mum and dad every day? Besides is the way things are really sustainable anyway? What about when one of you meets someone else.. 1
Author MK4 Posted October 17, 2014 Author Posted October 17, 2014 True, but I've never dated this guy prior. I think I've fallen for him but if it didn't work our little boys stuck right in the middle, we have really great co-parenting relationship and I feel like maybe its selfish to risk that. I'm so confused....who is Toby? Oh ****, there goes my using false names policy! Oh well, I doubt he'll come looking for threads about himself, I hope!
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