Taviah Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 We had a fight the other week about him being bored with the relationship. I suggested a break to find ourselves and do our own thing for awhile, but he begged to stay together because he still loves me despite being bored. I thought that by him choosing to not breakup means he wants to make things work. But ever since after that fight, he's been acting distant. He would cut our conversations short, the excuse being that he is getting ready for work soon, going to sleep, going out, or driving so he cant talk. He would avoid texting me unless it's at a time where he KNOWS I'm in class or at work, so I won't be able to text back. I don't know if I should bring this up with him because the last time I said anything, he said that it's a turn off to him that I'm so concerned about our relationship. Should I give him his space and let him come to me when he's ready to talk? When he does come around, should I let him know how upset I am by how he treated me or should I take the higher road and just be loving and open? Or should I just let this guy go completely?
Gloria25 Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Why did you suggest taking a break if he already told you what's going on (which is boredom in the RL).... I heard this on my podcast a while back and it makes sense, which is sorta 'how can you work on RL if you take a break?' He told you what is wrong (the boredom) I believe you two should be "coming together" to see how "what is boring about the RL" and coming up with a plan to fix it. That's RLs, that's marriage, that's life. How in the world can you two stay together when things come up, the solution is to take a break?
Author Taviah Posted October 16, 2014 Author Posted October 16, 2014 You're right. A break is not a great way to fix problems in a relationship; it's just something that came to my mind because I was hurt when he said he is bored. We already got past that, and agreed to stay together instead and work at reconnecting with each other. I just don't get why he would suggest that then turn around and be distant all of a sudden.
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