amytct Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 I'm getting the silent treatment again! This is so frustrating, particularly when you haven't had a fight and have no idea what is going on. I've sent him four messages since Monday and he hasn't answered one. Do I send him something again, asking what is going on or just forget him all together?
Lonestar Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 No, don't contact him again. You've made enough contact and now it's time to back off or he'll view you as the stalker type, and you'll lose your dignity. If he wants to talk to you, he'll call, but I would suggest giving him the silent treatment for awhile before responding. Let him know how it feels.
Illusion24 Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 Leave him alone..he'll wonder why you're not chasing him like you usually do...if he's mad at you or upset and he's not man enough to tell you or talk about it..it's very immature in his part and you should consider if you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't communicate with you ...it's frustrating when you don't know why they're mad and you can't fix either cause he's not answering you back...just lay off and see if he comes around
Author amytct Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 I should say that we rarely speak on the phone, the majority of our contact is through e-mail, which also is particularly frustrating. E-mail is a great communication tool, but for me there's no fun in sending something and then waiting and waiting for a response. I'd rather talk on the phone. We have a lot of problems. I don't feel like I'm a priority in his life at all and that he only wants to do things with me when he wants to go somewhere he wouldn't feel comfortable going alone (movies, dinner) and then only when it's a convenient time for him. I have been having problems with my e-mail, so I sent out a test message to him and a few friends asking them to respond to the message. Everyone answered but him, so it's not e-mail, he's simply ignoring me. I know this sounds weird, but if he contacted me and said it was over, while I'd be upset, at least I'd know what the heck is going on and it would give some amount of comfort. Instead, I sit here wondering what happened and second-guessing everything I've said and done. We didn't get together this weekend because of a death in his family. He told me there may be funeral services, but that he would let me know what was going on. I e-mailed him back and told him I understood that he needed to be with his family, so not to worry about making plans with me. I logged into chat Tuesday morning and saw that he had messaged me, but it was long after I had gone to bed Monday night, so we missed each other. Since then, nothing. I don't know what's going to happen now.
laRubiaBonita Posted March 10, 2005 Posted March 10, 2005 pick up the phone and call. maybe i do not know enough of the story, but if you want to talk or if you want answers, call.
smile95 Posted March 12, 2005 Posted March 12, 2005 are we dating the same man!!!!! I just read your post and my boyfirend has ignored me for 3 weeks now!!!! I have no idea why and I called him for 2 weeks and nothing! SO I stopped. Usually he calls after I stop since he thinks I found someone else.This is kinda freaking me out since your story is 100% mine!!!! He always puts everything above me and never has time for me. I am never a priority. I text him for the last time on Sunday saying I was done(but he was prob laughing since i have said that before). I have decided to move on. If he cannot have a conv with me then I do not want to be with him. He has done this before. We are better off w/out them.
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