schawla Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 hey guys ok im going to try keep this as short as possible basically after 9 months of dating my bf, which was a really good relo he would tell me everyday how much he appreciates, needs and loves me etc really affectionate, he broke up with me out of no where. i was the first girl he's ever liked and had a relationship with right and so obviously this was his first experience in a relo. He learnt that he was quite possessive in a relationship which i didn't mind. He had trust issues before he met me even before we said " i love you" to each other, he was emphasizing what a big deal it is for him to say these words to someone and how he's never let anyone into his mind or thoughts and it scares him how much i know about him. So during the relo on the rare occasion ide see weird signs like one time he was drunk and just broke down crying in my arms saying " don't ever leave me i need u so much " etc for no reason (and hes never cried before ever except when someone close in his family died). I promised him ide never leave him, i did everything in my power to make him happy. On a friday night we were together, we spent the night together all night he was kissing me telling me how in love he is with me etc. The next morning after i went home he broke up with me saying that " being in a relationship has brought out emotions in me i didnt know i had and they have become too raw and therefore his other issues effect him more because hes become weak and vulnerable as a person. i care too much what you do my mind is consumed by our relationship im constantly thinking and worrying about u and ive come to the conclusion that i cannot be in a relationship. i need to be alone and fix myself i dont want a relationship " and other things around the same lines. is this true can a guy really feel this way in a first relationship? he called me the next day and said nothing on the phone and was just crying his eyes out saying he wishes he didnt have to do this. we saw each other a week later to return each others stuff and we both just cried our eyes out. he didnt want me to ask him to change his mind so i didnt. its now been almost 3 weeks no contact and im constantly thinking and analysing why he broke up with me because i feel like if he really loved me he wouldve stayed. im so in love with him and im finding it really difficult to think of anything besides him. i just dont understand how he can go without speaking to me after everything weve been through together.
Boomshine Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 hey guys ok im going to try keep this as short as possible basically after 9 months of dating my bf, which was a really good relo he would tell me everyday how much he appreciates, needs and loves me etc really affectionate, he broke up with me out of no where. i was the first girl he's ever liked and had a relationship with right and so obviously this was his first experience in a relo. He learnt that he was quite possessive in a relationship which i didn't mind. He had trust issues before he met me even before we said " i love you" to each other, he was emphasizing what a big deal it is for him to say these words to someone and how he's never let anyone into his mind or thoughts and it scares him how much i know about him. So during the relo on the rare occasion ide see weird signs like one time he was drunk and just broke down crying in my arms saying " don't ever leave me i need u so much " etc for no reason (and hes never cried before ever except when someone close in his family died). I promised him ide never leave him, i did everything in my power to make him happy. On a friday night we were together, we spent the night together all night he was kissing me telling me how in love he is with me etc. The next morning after i went home he broke up with me saying that " being in a relationship has brought out emotions in me i didnt know i had and they have become too raw and therefore his other issues effect him more because hes become weak and vulnerable as a person. i care too much what you do my mind is consumed by our relationship im constantly thinking and worrying about u and ive come to the conclusion that i cannot be in a relationship. i need to be alone and fix myself i dont want a relationship " and other things around the same lines. is this true can a guy really feel this way in a first relationship? he called me the next day and said nothing on the phone and was just crying his eyes out saying he wishes he didnt have to do this. we saw each other a week later to return each others stuff and we both just cried our eyes out. he didnt want me to ask him to change his mind so i didnt. its now been almost 3 weeks no contact and im constantly thinking and analysing why he broke up with me because i feel like if he really loved me he wouldve stayed. im so in love with him and im finding it really difficult to think of anything besides him. i just dont understand how he can go without speaking to me after everything weve been through together. He's scared, and he's not willing to embrace it. Some mixture of movies, tv, music, and how his childhood was has got him locked in some stupid mentality that "dudes can't have emotions". He's gonna have to put his big boy pants on and grow up someday. So here's the SUPER SIMPLE method to get him coming back around: LEAVE HIM ALONE. When you disappear off of the radar ENTIRELY, he's forced to live with his consequences. And when he realizes what those consequences mean (namely, no more you), he's gonna come running back with his tail between his legs, sayin some stupid s**t like "Baby, I was so wrong, I missed you, take me back, blah blah blah." No Contact. Do it. Seriously. Do it until he's crawling on his knees begging to have you back. Don't get all weak in the knees when he messages you saying "Hey sup?" Wait for him to be saying like what I said before. It'll happen. Guaranteed. I'll bet the house on it. Just go complete radio silence, and see how things turn up over time. It'll be rough for you, but he'll be back. Just keep telling yourself that any time you feel like you want to text or call him. "He'll be back." Go live your life, enjoy your time, and do what you can to make yourself even more awesome than you already are. 2
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