constantinem Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Hello can someone help me with this problem ! I met mt high-school sweet heart after 30 years on facebook we became friend again she is married 23 years 4 daughters 21 , 19, 14, 7 she claims she does not love him got married for wrong reasons has cheated on him went through depressions apparently trusts me more then anyone we finally met after 7 months after texting to each other everyday many times throughout the day and found myself falling in love with her again so friendship turned into a relationship i found it wrong tried walking away 3 times and her crying and begging me to stay stole my heart even more she claims she is with him only for the kids and if she leaves him she will hurt her kids and they will never talk to her again so one day i did this evil thing i drove to her house and left a letter to her husband that if he went to a bar on a certain day he would catch his wife cheating so he came caught her she cried in tears that she got caught he said nothing but left hurt i guess so she could not figure out how she got caught feeling guilty i told her i was the one who did it she cried and asking why and i told her so she forgave me surprisingly and said she does not want to lose me but lost trust in me so she went home talked to her husband told him the only reason there together is the kids i love her but hate sharing her and i do not think she will leave him soon enough but i do not like this situation do i stay and be patient or leave her and if she loves me truly she will follow ?
CarrieT Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 First off, PLEASE use punctuation and capitalization! Reading a wall of text with no breaks is really difficult and you will garner more responses with fully-composed sentences. That said, if you spend time on the Infidelity forum, you will see that she is feeding you all the classic Cheater lies (did it for the wrong reasons, in it for the children, just be patient, etc...) You said as much that you don't think she will leave him and that is Truth. Also, if she will cheat On You, she will cheat With You. I believe you are simply riding the wave of emotions that are 30-some years old and in your mind, living a fantasy of what a life with her would be like when reality will be cold, harsh, and painful. Move on, block her, and don't look back. 1
littleblackheart Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 She may very well have genuine feelings for you but if she loved you truly (as I understand it to work), she would be exclusive with you, especially after 7 months. You feel guilty, you know it's wrong, she cries all the time... - that doesn't really sound like a happy relationship. Like the previous poster said, walk away now, don't look back and cut all ties. Also, spare a thought for her husband of 30 years, who has been cheated on more than once - it could be you next.
kjohn Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 The reality is that she is a cheater. Is that the kind of person you really want to be with? Don't you think you deserve better than somebody who will cheat on her husband and lie to her children? Somebody who is so selfish that she will manipulate two men (you and her husband) so that she can get what she wants while both of these men suffer in agony? She has the security blanket of her marriage (which probably comes with financial stability), but she is bored so you are giving her the thrill she needs. She doesn't want to leave her husband, she just wants to have a little fun from time to time and she is using you to get it. Selfish, horrible, heartless cheater. That's all she is. Stop romanticizing it. Run away from that woman as fast as you can.
Toodaloo Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 This is emotional blackmail to keep you seeing her and her not have to anything in return. RUN!
spanz1 Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 so you cheated with her, then you left a note for hubby? why, to forever piss her off about you? A shred of conscience left in you? pretty cold, man
HereNorThere Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 I think it actually seems like you make a good couple. Best wishes to your relationship. Sometimes two people are just a good fit, ya know.
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