Bokchee Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I started to talk with a girl on facebook, After couple of days, she told me that she is sad because she broke up with her boyfriend for really stupid reason. I didn't know what to say or do, i gave her advice what to do and so on. I started to like this girl a lot, and i told her. But after that she returned to her boyfriend. And told me that she is sorry, but maybe things can work between us after or in time She also told me that i have chance with her and so on. Then, after couple days or maybe 2-3 weeks, they broke up again. I told her that this guy is not for her, to continue with life, and of course i told her to go out with me. She agreed, but 3 days before we go to date, her boyfriend told her that he will come home. She told me that, and wanted to go with him to talk, to clear things up between each other. If she break up with him, then we can go on date, and can see each other. But that never happen, she again returned to him.Now, i feel don't know how. I am not sure why she get back to her ex, and in the same time is telling me that i have chance with her. She told me she is very glad that she with him again....So, i stopped talking to her, she wrote me yesterday, if i am mad or something. Dunno what to do, i like this girl very much.
Haerts Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I think it's obvious here that: 1. She likes him. He likes her. Their story didn't end yet, even though they're clearly incompatible, else they wouldn't break up so much like that. They're still in that phase that they want to try everything they can to see if they can work together. If one of them didn't like the other, it surely would be over for good by now - if they keep returning, it means there's something left to try. 2. She may like you, but she's into him. I think it's stupid that she's saying that you may have a shot with her, when she's emotionally involved with someone else. If she wanted to be with you, she would've done that already. My advice? Make yourself available for other girls, distance yourself from her and live your life. Why would you want to wait on someone who's not over their past/current relationship yet? (even if it's broken)... she's not available. Go out there and try to meet someone who is. It's the best thing you can do. 2
ctorres626 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I get it you really like her, but it is unfair to you to just wait in the wings for her until she decides to break it off completely with this guy she does not mesh well with. She cannot see that and needs time to fully detach herself from this guy. You can still be there for her as a friend, but do yourself a favor and go out and meet women, keep yourself occupied and don't act like she is affecting you! In time if everything works out then she will realize that she either missed an opportunity or sees how happy you are living with your life that she will want to join you and something further can happen. 1
d0nnivain Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 It doesn't matter that you like her. She likes him / the drama of their on & off again disaster. It's almost foreplay for them. She has poor communications skills, is indecisive & and immature. Find another girl. She's using you for attention when she's mad at her real BF. It doesn't matter how dysfunctional her relationship with him is. She's not leaving him for you. More importantly learn this lesson now: if a girl gets relationship advice from you about another man she will never date you because you are her friend; she talks to you about the same stuff she discusses with her BFFs which is emasculating.
Maleficent Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Do yourself a favour and don't be there the next time she breaks up with that other guy.
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