Tayken Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 (edited) I like the part where CR makes fun of people that finishes each others sentences Those that have mentioned that investing in cars doesn't make sense, are right because nothing depreciates faster than a car that just left the dealership lot. I have only had 1 person 2 decades ago bring up the type of car that I drive during a date. The car was a 2 door sport-ish Peugeot (French Car), and funny enough they didn't have a car, so you can imagine the look on my face when I heard them critic my car. Edited October 15, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Link to post Share on other sites
pteromom Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 This guy could have lost his job in 2008, was homeless and slowly built up his life back up and is progressing... but he's 49, has a beat up car, and rents an apartment. A woman could have lost 100 pounds, and is slowly getting into shape... is she dateable then? Everyone has their "things" that are dealbreakers, and unless you have a huge list of them that exclude most everyone, it doesn't make you shallow. Like "looking for a woman who is in reasonably good shape" isn't shallow, but "looking for a woman with perfect boobs, perfect tummy, and basically physically perfect" starts taking it in that direction. "Looking for a guy who is at a reasonable place in his career/success path in his life" isn't shallow, but "looking for a rich man to be my sugar daddy" starts taking it in that direction. Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Jesus Christ. This is why dating in 2014 is terrible. We're judging a mans entire lifestyle based on his car. His CAR. Not his looks. Not his personality. Not his career. Not his hobbies. Not his family. Not his friends. Not his education... His car..... No wonder I don't feel like getting out there. Its not just a 2014 thing. Women have been using the guy's car as part of their evaluating the worthiness of a guy on date 1 for a long time. Not all women do it, but lots do. They treat it an extension of his style. Link to post Share on other sites
Phoe Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Haha EVERY guy I've been with has had God awful cars, except for one. First boyfriends car was old andridiculous, but it functioned. Next boyfriend never had a car, I drove him everywhere. Next one had a normal car, but he hated it. Idk haha. Now my boyfriend has had multiple cars break down on him since we got together 10 months ago. He had to borrow my truck for a while until he got another one, but I foresee this one breaking down soon as well. I just want him to get one that functions!! Lol 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dj572 Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Just because the guy drives a rusted car doesn't mean he is broke. I am 40 and I drove a rusted truck for 5 years. It ran great had great heat and A\C and was in excellent mechanical condition. I loved that truck and I took some crap for it at work but it was paid for and I was happy with it. My house is paid for and I could go buy a new truck or car but I don't want to spend the money. The lowest mileage vehicle I own has 180, 000 miles on it. I have other things I would rather spend my money on. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Mackinac Bridge Accident in 1989 I sure hope no girl judges dating a boy based on a crap car, otherwise when my son gets his lisence and inherits the ole jeep, he'll never get a date!!! I figure as long as you can pick up and drop off (safely) your date, then it doesn't matter if the car is a gremlin or a patchworked metal framed yugo... so long as we're not crossing the Mackinac Bridge: Cmon.....where is your sense of adventure??? TFY 1 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted October 15, 2014 Share Posted October 15, 2014 Someone way back when posted "Even my 17 yo nephew drives a better car than that." I'm willing to bet his parents pay/paid for it too. Now, I don't live my life entirely by awesome quotes and beautiful poetry but one of the best novels ever written and movies ever created springs to mind and suits this topic perfectly. I believe in Fight Club Wisdom: "The things you own, end up owning you." "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything." "Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy **** we don't need. We're the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War's a spiritual war... our Great Depression is our lives. We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won't. And we're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off." "You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your ****ing khakis. You're the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world." 7 Link to post Share on other sites
fortyninethousand322 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 I am not talking about just being an old car, I am talking about a car that is covered in rust holes and you can hear coming from a mile away. I met this man over coffee and when he got there I had a shock when he drove in this old car eaten all over by rust holes. He has been insisting on seeing me again but ....... Does it run? Does it get him from point A to point B? Does he keep it clean and neat? I don't know, it seems like a small issue in the grand scheme of things. But maybe I'm wrong, maybe having a nice car is a really big deal. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 I am not talking about just being an old car, I am talking about a car that is covered in rust holes and you can hear coming from a mile away. I met this man over coffee and when he got there I had a shock when he drove in this old car eaten all over by rust holes. He has been insisting on seeing me again but ....... The guy im with now doesn't even drive so yeah it wouldn't bother me I don't judge people on those kind of things..he can ride a bus for all I care long as hes a good quality person thats all that matters.. Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 but how's his stereo system?? Link to post Share on other sites
HappyLove Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 I don't get this physical appearance/overweight argument. What has basic physical attraction got to do with someone's chosen method of transport? The point is that EVERYONE has standards and not wanting to date someone with a dangerous busted beat up ride is a standard and shouldn't be judged. Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 (edited) The point is that EVERYONE has standards and not wanting to date someone with a dangerous busted beat up ride is a standard and shouldn't be judged. You are right. We all have standards. But Happy, if your standards are wanting a guy who drives a nice car, has nice things…then that really is being superficial. That's all we're getting at. The OP could miss out on someone incredible with standards like that. Possibly even the love of her life. Say the date had gone well and they clicked…I think she would still have a problem with what he drove and ended up passing him up simply because of something he owned. Which it's not like it's a rape van or anything. And you do realize that you're asking us not to judge a person who is judging someone, right? Edited October 16, 2014 by me85 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted October 16, 2014 Author Share Posted October 16, 2014 But Happy, if your standards are wanting a guy who drives a nice car, has nice things…then that really is being superficial. That's all we're getting at. Are we still talking about me? Because this thread is about a man driving a rusted and noisy tin-can that should be off the road , not about me wanting a man with a nice car and nice things. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 Are we still talking about me? Because this thread is about a man driving a rusted and noisy tin-can that should be off the road , not about me wanting a man with a nice car and nice things. TITLE: Would you date someone with a really bad car? " I am not talking about just being an old car, I am talking about a car that is covered in rust holes and you can hear coming from a mile away. I met this man over coffee and when he got there I had a shock when he drove in this old car eaten all over by rust holes. He has been insisting on seeing me again but ....... " With all due respect Gaeta, you are trying to back paddle at this point. So tell me how it's not about you wanting to date a man with a nice car and nice things again…come on now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TigerLilly78 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 Just an idea here OP but maybe the car was a hand me down from a family member and had meaning to him? eh that said tho one would think he would fix it up but maybe hes been to busy...if its a older car might be a possibility.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted October 16, 2014 Author Share Posted October 16, 2014 With all due respect Gaeta, you are trying to back paddle at this point. So tell me how it's not about you wanting to date a man with a nice car and nice things again…come on now. Count how many times I said in this thread I don't care if he drives a Buick 1974, or a Lada 1985 and now I am going to add I don't care if he drives a freakin Camero 1971 ! as long as it's maintained. Nice things like what now?? Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 Count how many times I said in this thread I don't care if he drives a Buick 1974, or a Lada 1985 and now I am going to add I don't care if he drives a freakin Camero 1971 ! as long as it's maintained. Nice things like what now?? Are you reading your own words?? If it still runs then wouldn't that mean that he does in fact keep it maintained? But just not to your standards... Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 (edited) Surely he had to impress you enough in some way when talking to him for you to even to consider meeting up with him in the first place, but then you saw what car he drove…game over for you. Right? Or?? I mean, initially he had to spark your interest to meet up, yes? Or do you just randomly meet up with guys you haven't even established some sort of interest with prior to meeting…? "Oh this guy added me on tinder, let me immediately ask him (or he immediately asked me) to meet up without even talking about anything else first." Very doubtful that's what happened. Edited October 16, 2014 by me85 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted October 16, 2014 Author Share Posted October 16, 2014 Are you reading your own words?? If it still runs then wouldn't that mean that he does in fact keep it maintained? But just not to your standards... Ok lets conclude it that way. To me, to my standards, if a car has 6'' radius rust holes all around, a side to side cracked windshield, a gone suspension, it is scrap. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
HereAndThenGone Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 I'm don't even have the desire to read through all these posts but I don't think there's anything wrong with OPs question, here. I think there's a lot of people here with accusatory remarks because they're angry at their Ex SO or whoever at the moment. Having worked hard for what I have, as a single mom, full time job, school, volunteer etc. I definitely have standards. And I don't feel there is anything wrong with having them. I've created a quality of life for myself and I want someone else that cares to have that same quality of life. The cleanliness of someone's car may elude to their other personality traits. Not always, but they may. Deal breaker? Maybe not. But there's nothing wrong with you assessing what you want in your life, imo. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 (edited) And as someone who has worked hard all my life, I would hate for someone to judge me solely on the vehicle I drive. No one is mad at anyone as you say. Just thrown by the OP's harsh judgement on someone specifically for what they drive. Do we think she's a bad person? No. Just think her standards may be a bit superficial. Try practicing the shoe on the other foot. Edited October 16, 2014 by me85 4 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 There's gotta be something you would be embarrassed by a partner showcasing in public me. Even if it's not an old rust bucket. For me it would be if the woman was super liberal. So I have a hard time telling Gaeta she's wrong for having her own standards. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
me85 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 All I'm saying is my standards are based on the person. Not the vehicle they drive. She asked for opinions & I've given mine. So I'll be on my way now. Lol Round of applause given by the OP I'm sure. Haha Peace love and chicken grease OP. Link to post Share on other sites
NJ123 Posted October 16, 2014 Share Posted October 16, 2014 Would you date this guy? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted October 16, 2014 Author Share Posted October 16, 2014 Peace love and chicken grease OP. See you in the next thread poster 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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