Would you date someone with a really bad car?

October 15, 2014

You don't drive your phone around. You don't pick up dates with it. You don't park it in front of people's house.

October 15, 2014

You don't drive your phone around. You don't pick up dates with it. You don't park it in front of people's house.

Clearly his car matters to you. Even if we don't think it should matter, it's an issue for you. Since you have drawn certain conclusions about the man based upon what he drives, don't date him any more. What's so hard about that?

October 15, 2014

Sorry I didn't read the whole thread.

Do you like the guy?

If you do then do date #2.

Was he a gent?
Was he talkative? Funny?

My dream man would own an old style VW Beetle or Camper.

Maybe his car is just his means of transport and not a passion.
You will find out later whether care for his car translates to lack of care in other areas of his life.

Does he live in a studio?
Sorry! Had to ask! Ignore that!

lol you funny girl.

His idea of a second date was a movie at his place. I got my lesson, the answer was no.

And no, nothing in him really captured my attention. He was not talkative and he hide his sense of humor if he had one.

October 15, 2014

Don't men take pride in what they ride? Doesn't that say he's completely broke to be driving this? At 49 yo do I want to be picked up at home in such a car?

This is interesting.

I used to be much more consumed in what I drove. Had a Land Rover, loved it, etc. but then it got older and had to have work done on it all the time. And the gas mileage was awful.

After awhile, I was like 'screw it'. Cars are the biggest money pits out there. If you are bringing in $200k+/yr, fine...the cost is sort of nominal. But at normal salaries, once you factor in payments, repairs/maint and insurance, you end up spending too much of your salary on them. And you end up spending more on something that is losing value by the day. Then you sit back and do some basic calculations and then you slap yourself on the forehead.

My current car is fine (08 Corolla). It's paid off, got it really cheap, gets great gas mileage. But it's now got some damage to the body that I refuse to fix, and, well....it's a Corolla. Not going to impress many women with it. But I don't care. It's a piece of crap car. When I need to get some place, I get in it and go. That's all I care about.

I already wasted 10s of thousands of dollars on cars. Over it. Maybe he's just over it. Maybe he wants to spend his money on sonething worthwhile.

October 15, 2014

His idea of a second date was a movie at his place.

And no, nothing in him really captured my attention. He was not talkative and he hide his sense of humor if he had one.

Those are all very valid reasons to not date him.

Dumping him solely because of what he drives makes you come off as materialistic & shallow. Based on the culmination of all your posts you don't seem like either, except in this thread.

October 15, 2014

lol you funny girl.

His idea of a second date was a movie at his place. I got my lesson, the answer was no.

And no, nothing in him really captured my attention. He was not talkative and he hide his sense of humor if he had one.

I wonder why you bothered with this thread then. Sounds like your mind was made up.

What I'm "on about" is simple. If someone shows up in a heap o'$hite car what does that tell you about the driver. From my own personal experience it tells me the driver is likely broke/bankrupt or hasn't/isn't taking financial responsibility for themselves. I hate to be like that but I'll also not date women that lives at home.

I don't care much for cars in general but guess what I care enough to ensure it runs well, it's clean and maintained. In my mind and I know we're all different here in how we view things. To me the vehicle is a reflection upon the driver and if they don't care about the car do they care about themselves or will they care about me and my things?

Ok so you had a bad experience with someone who had a dodgy looking car, and now you judge people on their cars and whether they're living at home etc. Fine. But you're wrong.

Everyone's different and if they drive a beat up car it might suggest they are broke or in financial trouble but you're taking another leap in assumption thinking they are also irresponsible.

Ultimately it depends if you like the person and you're willing to give it a chance.

October 15, 2014

lol you funny girl.

His idea of a second date was a movie at his place. I got my lesson, the answer was no.

And no, nothing in him really captured my attention. He was not talkative and he hide his sense of humor if he had one.

So...and you know this..

Don't even question it....NEXT!

October 15, 2014

No, I wouldn't date him.

This goes far beyond simply driving an older car, which is fine. This guy's car is full of rust, is loud, and has a big crack in the windshield. I would not be compatible with a man who can't do any better than this by age 39.

October 15, 2014

I prefer men who have clapped out old rust buckets.

It means they're not aesthetically obsessed enough to care when I slob around in my dressing gown and hair rollers spilling cheese down my chin.

October 15, 2014

pretty much sums it all up

Thanks. There goes my evening going on a Chris Rock bender.

Also, silly car people. Especially those who drive automatics. You can hardly call it driving it all. A to B, that is all it is.

October 15, 2014

Gaeta,

To answer your question, yes I would.

I am a female. I do not care about material things. Madonna wasn't speaking for all of us. I drive a 1998 dodge neon. OLD CAR. And the paint has slowly and slightly started to chip away. 5 years ago (or better) someone crashed into me and caused minor damage to my driver side. The insurance company asked if I wanted them to repair it or did I just want them to give me a check. After always having to take care of myself and working retail at the time, living on my own and providing for myself, I decided to just take the check. After all, I wasn't hurt and the damage wasn't that bad.

I needed that money more than I need to have a 'not so bad dent' on my car fixed. So, I chose to never get it repaired. My car is so old that that would just be silly. It did in fact start to rust, but still. I've always kept up with the basic maintenance of having a car. Oil changes, tires rotated and checked, repairing/replaced what needs to be repaired/replaced under the hood, keeping it street legal, buying a new compressor so that I had AC. But rode around without AC for years. Then I was introduced to a guy who is a mechanic and just happens to have 2 neons of his own and is called "neon mike" lol because he knows everything about them and can do anything to them. But hey, I myself know enough about cars. I check my oil/fluids/tires, replace bulbs and fuses and add my own fluids as needed...etc.

Yes, my car being white you can see the damage to my driver side and the rust very well but hey...it's paid for and is super nice on the inside (I mean, judging by the inside you would think that it was only 10 years old not 16 going on 17.) There are minor issues I have with it (like my stupid ac belt squealing when I first turn on the ac and my stupid brakes squealing when I first get going) but those are minor issues. I just haven't had the time off of work to take it to the guy who works on my car (who now conveniently works at the place I have my oil changed.) Yes, it can be a little embarrassing but not so much so that I feel like a loser for driving it...even though people have made me that way in the past. Now, I don't give a damn what anyone thinks about me. Especially if they don't even know me or my situation. I can only do so much financially on my own. I feel like if someone cares so much about what I drive then hey, they can cough up the money to buy me something better. Otherwise, they can kiss my @$$.

I dated someone extremely good looking & dreamy and from a rich family. He also went to one of the top 20 universities in the country. He drove a BMW and owned a $300,000 home. And he was the same age as me. (20's) Yes he was materialistic and all about status but fortunately he did not judge me for what I drove, where I lived or how much money I made. And has told me time and time again how no one else had ever loved him or made him feel loved more than I did/do.

I step out of what people call a "POS" looking like a GD model. And I don't have to spend a lot on my clothes either. It's called TJ MAXX and MARSHALL'S. I know how to save. I know how to bargin and budget.

I have my priorities in line, you see. Because I make sure my rent, bills, groceries and all other important living expenses are taken care of first. Always.

I'm sorry but people such as yourself who judge a person so hastily and harshly by what they drive does not say good things about your character. So what he's 39/49/59 yo. It is your opinion that he should be more established at such an age. That is your opinion, not a fact.

Fact is, you are just not interested in dating someone who does not share the same outlooks as you. Which is perfectly fine. BUT I honestly think you started this thread in guilty conscience. Either that, or you're just bored...Either way, you started it becuase you wanted to talk about someone....in a negative way. You wanted to judge them and see if complete strangers on the internet would agree with you. Because why else would someone want to even have a discussion about such a thing as whether someone is good enough to date even though they drive s POS? I for one am glad the majority of people on here are in disagreement with you.

October 15, 2014

These 2 sum up LS in 2 sketches:

October 15, 2014

The OP doesn't want to admit it, but she's coming across as really shallow. Others here seem to agree.

October 15, 2014

Gaeta,

To answer your question, yes I would.

I am a female. I do not care about material things. Madonna wasn't speaking for all of us. I drive a 1998 dodge neon. OLD CAR. And the paint has slowly and slightly started to chip away. 5 years ago (or better) someone crashed into me and caused minor damage to my driver side. The insurance company asked if I wanted them to repair it or did I just want them to give me a check. After always having to take care of myself and working retail at the time, living on my own and providing for myself, I decided to just take the check. After all, I wasn't hurt and the damage wasn't that bad.

I needed that money more than I need to have a 'not so bad dent' on my car fixed. So, I chose to never get it repaired. My car is so old that that would just be silly. It did in fact start to rust, but still. I've always kept up with the basic maintenance of having a car. Oil changes, tires rotated and checked, repairing/replaced what needs to be repaired/replaced under the hood, keeping it street legal, buying a new compressor so that I had AC. But rode around without AC for years. Then I was introduced to a guy who is a mechanic and just happens to have 2 neons of his own and is called "neon mike" lol because he knows everything about them and can do anything to them. But hey, I myself know enough about cars. I check my oil/fluids/tires, replace bulbs and fuses and add my own fluids as needed...etc.

Yes, my car being white you can see the damage to my driver side and the rust very well but hey...it's paid for and is super nice on the inside (I mean, judging by the inside you would think that it was only 10 years old not 16 going on 17.) There are minor issues I have with it (like my stupid ac belt squealing when I first turn on the ac and my stupid brakes squealing when I first get going) but those are minor issues. I just haven't had the time off of work to take it to the guy who works on my car (who now conveniently works at the place I have my oil changed.) Yes, it can be a little embarrassing but not so much so that I feel like a loser for driving it...even though people have made me that way in the past. Now, I don't give a damn what anyone thinks about me. Especially if they don't even know me or my situation. I can only do so much financially on my own. I feel like if someone cares so much about what I drive then hey, they can cough up the money to buy me something better. Otherwise, they can kiss my @$$.

I dated someone extremely good looking & dreamy and from a rich family. He also went to one of the top 20 universities in the country. He drove a BMW and owned a $300,000 home. And he was the same age as me. (20's) Yes he was materialistic and all about status but fortunately he did not judge me for what I drove, where I lived or how much money I made. And has told me time and time again how no one else had ever loved him or made him feel loved more than I did/do.

I step out of what people call a "POS" looking like a GD model. And I don't have to spend a lot on my clothes either. It's called TJ MAXX and MARSHALL'S. I know how to save. I know how to bargin and budget.

I have my priorities in line, you see. Because I make sure my rent, bills, groceries and all other important living expenses are taken care of first. Always.

I'm sorry but people such as yourself who judge a person so hastily and harshly by what they drive does not say good things about your character. So what he's 39/49/59 yo. It is your opinion that he should be more established at such an age. That is your opinion, not a fact.

Fact is, you are just not interested in dating someone who does not share the same outlooks as you. Which is perfectly fine. BUT I honestly think you started this thread in guilty conscience. Either that, or you're just bored...Either way, you started it becuase you wanted to talk about someone....in a negative way. You wanted to judge them and see if complete strangers on the internet would agree with you. Because why else would someone want to even have a discussion about such a thing as whether someone is good enough to date even though they drive s POS? I for one am glad the majority of people on here are in disagreement with you.

That was a good kick in the teeth and you did it with a lot of class. I'm speechless, doesn't happen often.

October 15, 2014

No, I wouldn't date him.

This goes far beyond simply driving an older car, which is fine. This guy's car is full of rust, is loud, and has a big crack in the windshield. I would not be compatible with a man who can't do any better than this by age 39.

Pretty much. I managed to buy a better old used car with money I saved from my grad student stipend in my early 20s. If someone's 39 and driving around in a loud, rusty car with a giant crack in the windshield, no thanks. Out here, you'd never pass inspection with a car like that AND you'd get pulled over and ticketed.

October 15, 2014

EVERYONE has standards. The same people complaining because you don't want to date a broke dude would themselves NEVER date someone who's fat. Everyone has standards, don't judge.

October 15, 2014

EVERYONE has standards. The same people complaining because you don't want to date a broke dude would themselves NEVER date someone who's fat. Everyone has standards, don't judge.

Yes, but the one thing is something materialistic while the other isn't. And who even said this guy is completely broke? Maybe he just drives a piece of **** car to save money for other things like living expenses, etc.

Edited October 15, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
removed poke at OP

October 15, 2014

I don't think I would want to be with someone who judged me based on what kind of car I drive. Obviously, that person isn't the right one for me either way.

October 15, 2014

I wish we lived in a world where everyone (regardless of race, age, skin color, sex, religion, ethnic group, country of origin, etc) can afford healthy food, a safe home and healthcare and education and culture. A world where cars are barely needed and seldom used.

In such a world we will be able focus on what truly is important.

Until that day arrives (if ever) we usually judge and filter out people based on looks or style or other shallow standards.

I do agree with cleanliness and health as those are usually within reasonable reach (unless you are a homeless)

I do agree with safety concerns because it is unreasonable to ride a vehicle that can kill you or cause you serious injury.

So I don't blame Gaeta for dumping this guy or having repulsive feelings towards him or his car or both.

I don't blame Gaeta for feeling some sort of embarrassement that such a piece of junk is parked at her front door so neighbours would wonder whose is that clunker?

We live in a very tough world, dehumanising more and more

We live in a brutal but sophisticated jungle with strict unwritten laws

So don't blame Gaeta, I understand her and can't judge her if she dumps this guy.

I would add, for reflection purpose, that great, amazing people such as Van Gogh or Beethoven (and a lot more like them) wore crappy clothes full of holes and lived in hellholes from time to time, not being able to sort their personal financial situation, living out of charity or help from friends or relatives from time to time.

Now, by no means Im suggesting Gaeta just met the next Van Gogh or the next Beethoven and she must accept him as he is.

But Im suggesting that we can do a little more, a little better tan previous people have done before us.

In short, give people a chance, you don't know how people develop once you treat them like humans instead as treating them as objects.

Just give people a chance, not a big chance, but a little chance....

October 15, 2014

EVERYONE has standards. The same people complaining because you don't want to date a broke dude would themselves NEVER date someone who's fat. Everyone has standards, don't judge.

I will judge because I know judging someone by the car they drive is idiotic.

i.e. "I'd NEVER bang him because.... well because he drives a honda civic and my last boyfriend had a BMW" - puts on channel sunglasses and walk off with Chihuahua under arm.

Someone who is fat is physically unattractive - absolutely not the same thing.

October 15, 2014

I will judge because I know judging someone by the car they drive is idiotic.

i.e. "I'd NEVER bang him because.... well because he drives a honda civic and my last boyfriend had a BMW" - puts on channel sunglasses and walk off with Chihuahua under arm.

Someone who is fat is physically unattractive - absolutely not the same thing.

Physically unattractive? To who, you? Just like a rusty old car is unattractive! Don't judge!

October 15, 2014

Physically unattractive? To who, you? Just like a rusty old car is unattractive! Don't judge!

I think it's because the one thing is materialistic while the other isn't.

October 15, 2014

Physically unattractive? To who, you? Just like a rusty old car is unattractive! Don't judge!

The differnce here though is you aren't going to have a relationship or sexual relations with a rusty old car.

October 15, 2014

The differnce here though is you aren't going to have a relationship or sexual relations with a rusty old car.

So it's ok to judge a person by their looks and physical features they possibly can't change but not ok to judge a rusty old car?! Judging a person because of their looks is way worse IMO.

October 15, 2014

I don't think I would want to be with someone who judged me based on what kind of car I drive. Obviously, that person isn't the right one for me either way.

Likewise. Until recently I drove a smashed up, dented, rusting, dirty, old banger. No door linings, most of the switches bust, hole in the floor under my left foot, torn seats, deadbolts and padlocks replacing the broken key barrels on the doors.

Loved the thing, never wanted to part with it. A wagon gets me from A to B, that's its job, the faster and noisier it gets me there the better, I don't give a crap how beat up it is. The woman for me is the woman who doesn't give a crap that my wagon is a piece of crap, because I am not a materialistic fella and it would make for a very bad match. I'd rather save any spare bunce for my nieces futures that drop it on some decent wheels.

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