slizl Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 No, surprisingly, I am intellectual and like to talk about things people don't talk about! I hold very thought-provoking, informative, conversations, and actually people get bored of me a lot haha, because I can go on and on about "The Fibonacci Sequence". Well you have a right to your opinion, but honestly, I think how the way you said it was rude, but it's ok. Calling BS on this one. I doubt you talking about the fibonacci sequence turns into sex talk. Sex talk from guys is only allowed if you allow it. Sorry, I don't tell a girl what I want to do to her when I first meet her if she is an intellectual. PS, you are young, "people get bored of you" AKA nothing to talk about, and you may or may not be dumb, so I guess at bare minimum i am 2/3.
stillcold Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 In an ideal world, you'd be correct. However, in this world as it is, a man needs to know how to pleasure his woman. lol No one is denying that a man needs to know how to pleasure his woman. On the same note, a man does not need to go and have multiple sexual partners to go about accomplishing this though that obviously helps. When there are two virgins, it is understood that the experience will come by experimenting with each other; any virgin that expects sexual perfection from his/her virgin partner is quite frankly delusional. The fun and perfection of it obviously comes with experimenting with each other
umirano Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Read my other post bro. What other post. You were the first poster to respond to OP. Nowhere in the OP she gives you a reason to assume she does sleep around. Your first post does not correspond to the information given. I've checked out a few other threads OP started. You're right in the sense that she contributes to that behavior shown by men around her. But not by sleeping around. A lot of her social activities revolve around who sells/buys weed from whom and whether she passed out too early to react to what are basically booty calls by peers. You're not dating. Those peers aren't dating material themselves, OP, can't you see that? OP, I think you have no clue what you want (in a potential mate) nor do you have any qualified mates around. You love the attention (the "how can he do that???" thread speaks volumes about that) and you have no understanding of how you appear to males around you. I'm sure you're damn hot (without much active contribution on your behalf) and drive a lot of men around you crazy. But you don't do much to correct the wrong impression that sex is what is most important to you. You just behave that way because it evokes a social response that you like. Sweet and/or flirty conversation on your behalf (text/or face to face) DO have an effect, especially if you're crazy hot. I don't think you understand the full extent of this. In fact, a lot of attractive girls don't understand that. That's why LS is overflowing with threads like "She was all flirty, but ..." (by guys) and "Why do all guys only want sex" (by girls). It's a positive feedback problem basically. In any way, this is coming from an honest guy who has experience with a girl like that. I may be wrong, but if I am it's not to insult you. This is seriously my "best effort" advice that I can give. I hope you take it the right way. I wish you all the best.
singsparkles Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I know what it means generally, but does it means that the guy views me as a one night stand? A hit and quit it? Nothing special? Not dating material? I really hope it doesn't come off as conceited when I say this, I am just repeating what I heard from guys and they said I am "hot" and they seem to find me sexually attractive because you can just tell. They are always quick to hope into bed with me and it seems that every guy I come in contact with wants to have sex with me right away. When I talk to guys it's very sexual on their part, I can't explain it, but I talk normally to them, and they all seem like dogs in heat or something? When a guy finds me sexually attractive does it mean I am not wife material? Like I am only good for sex in their eyes? I am not quick to hop in bed with anyone, but it upsets me that a guy always seems to want to hop into bed with me than to get to know me I wonder how a woman gives off that vibe or why guys think that about me? If you are desired sexually does that mean it is just strictly sexual? Please comment! Thanks!! Unfortunately, no. I've gone through the same thing... guys see me and they are attracted, but then , well, me, myself, I have a problem of not opening up and being who I truly am with people especially guys I can't trust so all they notice are my looks. You just have to change the type of men you're dating and you won't have to worry about these things... A douche bag is going to like you for your looks. An amazing man will like you for your looks AND who you are... and they will take the time to get to know you. Hugs! xxx
Tayken Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I'm assuming you are young, dumb and can't hold a conversation so it turns to sex talk. This comment is sort of generalizing and insulting to all young people. You and I know there are tons of adults who do just this....OLD anyone? I have heard from a number of women, what some men consider breaking the ice..sex talk and pic of their junk. I have been on the flip side of this with some women sending me boob shots, pic of their backsides, and comments like.."do you want to hit this or what"?
CoolCat771 Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 What other post. You were the first poster to respond to OP. Nowhere in the OP she gives you a reason to assume she does sleep around. Your first post does not correspond to the information given. I've checked out a few other threads OP started. You're right in the sense that she contributes to that behavior shown by men around her. But not by sleeping around. A lot of her social activities revolve around who sells/buys weed from whom and whether she passed out too early to react to what are basically booty calls by peers. You're not dating. Those peers aren't dating material themselves, OP, can't you see that? OP, I think you have no clue what you want (in a potential mate) nor do you have any qualified mates around. You love the attention (the "how can he do that???" thread speaks volumes about that) and you have no understanding of how you appear to males around you. I'm sure you're damn hot (without much active contribution on your behalf) and drive a lot of men around you crazy. But you don't do much to correct the wrong impression that sex is what is most important to you. You just behave that way because it evokes a social response that you like. Sweet and/or flirty conversation on your behalf (text/or face to face) DO have an effect, especially if you're crazy hot. I don't think you understand the full extent of this. In fact, a lot of attractive girls don't understand that. That's why LS is overflowing with threads like "She was all flirty, but ..." (by guys) and "Why do all guys only want sex" (by girls). It's a positive feedback problem basically. In any way, this is coming from an honest guy who has experience with a girl like that. I may be wrong, but if I am it's not to insult you. This is seriously my "best effort" advice that I can give. I hope you take it the right way. I wish you all the best. My subsequent post. Smart ass. You're trying too hard to be intelligent.
CoolCat771 Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 No one is denying that a man needs to know how to pleasure his woman. On the same note, a man does not need to go and have multiple sexual partners to go about accomplishing this though that obviously helps. When there are two virgins, it is understood that the experience will come by experimenting with each other; any virgin that expects sexual perfection from his/her virgin partner is quite frankly delusional. The fun and perfection of it obviously comes with experimenting with each other That's idealism. She'll measure you compared to her friend's stories. Practice makes perfect. You don't need too many, just one or two to practice with.
umirano Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 My subsequent post. Smart ass. You're trying too hard to be intelligent. Whatever sweetheart.
Andy_K Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 If you were a guy you could, possibly, be embarrassed. Where are the girls like you in my city? "The Fibonacci Sequence"?? That is awesome. Lady, you're the type of woman a man would go to war for. I can't agree enough with CoolCat here. Very attractive girls who are into that sort of thing are as rare as hen's teeth, the right sort of guy would chew his own arm off for a chance to get to know you 2
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 (edited) No, surprisingly, I am intellectual and like to talk about things people don't talk about! I hold very thought-provoking, informative, conversations, and actually people get bored of me a lot haha, because I can go on and on about "The Fibonacci Sequence". Well you have a right to your opinion, but honestly, I think how the way you said it was rude, but it's ok. No, this is rude: were you out sick the day your class covered punctuation? I wouldn't usually think much of extraneous commas and quotation marks, but they undercut your argument about how intellectual you are. There's no need to try so hard. Just say you think you're smart. (I apologize, but that kind of pretense is a pet peeve.) I looked through your past threads and they are all asking for feedback about whether an obvious jerk is indeed a jerk. There's nothing about going on a date with a nice guy or having a good time with someone who's genuinely interested. Here's my question for you: why do you pursue men who don't make an effort to pursue you? Why do you have so much difficulty discerning interest and indifference? Edited October 16, 2014 by chimpanA-2-chimpanZ 1
umirano Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 No, surprisingly, I am intellectual and like to talk about things people don't talk about! I hold very thought-provoking, informative, conversations, and actually people get bored of me a lot haha, because I can go on and on about "The Fibonacci Sequence". Well you have a right to your opinion, but honestly, I think how the way you said it was rude, but it's ok. How do you mean you can "go on and on" about the Fibonacci sequence? The mathematical concept is fairly simple. And then there's the fact that a few biological phenomena model it. I doubt many people who didn't take a course in discrete mathematics will be able to converse about it for more than five minutes. Probably all of the guys you posted about in your other threads don't even know what the Fibonacci sequence is. Maybe you should just require them to give you a correct definition of it and next those who don't know. That should improve your dating results quickly or completely move your dating activity out of your current target demographics. 1
Phoe Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 If everything men say to you is sexual in nature you need to reframe how you talk to them. Men rarely say offensive things to me because my words & actions tell them such language would be unacceptable. Flirting in one thing. Having men be too familiar too soon or worse, crass, is a problem but it's one you have to shut down. I agree with this. OP, I'm just like donnivain, where men don't talk crudely to me either. I think men can tell that it won't do any good. It may not be so much that you are being "sexual", I do believe that you would prefer to have intellectual conversations, but perhaps your body language is doing something. Perhaps you are projecting an "openness", perhaps men are sensing that you will tolerate these remarks, so they figure they will try their luck (and end up losing, of course) Cool cat, I do find it a bit amusing that you went basically from accusing her of being a common slut, to saying you'd go to war for her, in a matter of minutes. A bit quick to jump to such extremes, in both directions. 2
singsparkles Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Cool cat, I do find it a bit amusing that you went basically from accusing her of being a common slut, to saying you'd go to war for her, in a matter of minutes. A bit quick to jump to such extremes, in both directions. .......... Yeah. I totally agree that it's odd he went from calling her a slut to wanting to go to war for her. Men are dogs and as stupid as dogs.
singsparkles Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Hello How are you doing today? My Name is Miss Marylyn.i am interested in you for serious long term relationship.Please i will like you to email me back in my email ( [email protected] ) so that i can send you my photos and tell you more about myself i am waiting to get a reply from you.. Regards miss Marylyn Wow, this board is becoming an over the top thing now. LOL.
stillcold Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 That's idealism. She'll measure you compared to her friend's stories. Practice makes perfect. You don't need too many, just one or two to practice with. any virgin that expects sexual perfection from his/her VIRGIN partner is quite frankly delusional That's not idealism, that's being realistic.
stillcold Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 .......... Yeah. I totally agree that it's odd he went from calling her a slut to wanting to go to war for her. Men are dogs and as stupid as dogs. Not all men are dogs, just most; and I say this as a man by the way. But you women aren't any better either, so don't ride your high horse so mightily There's plenty of bad and little good in both genders. 1
BeholdtheMan Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Society finds you sexually attractive, you poor thing...
umirano Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 (edited) Cool cat, I do find it a bit amusing that you went basically from accusing her of being a common slut, to saying you'd go to war for her, in a matter of minutes. A bit quick to jump to such extremes, in both directions. Spot on! Men are dogs and as stupid as dogs. Excuse me?! Edited October 17, 2014 by umirano quoting
Kamila Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 "Guys find me "sexually attractive" Does that mean I am not dating material?" It means that they think you are only good for having sex and nothing more. Until you prove them otherwise of course. See this as a test, a lesson to refine your dating techniques. All men that don't want to see past your sexiness, flush them down the toilet, next them... You are still young and you don't have to give those men any more attention. Block them and show them you are a woman of value. And for all the men bashing sexiness in a woman: It's not because you're sexy or dress sexy that you're a slut. It's a woman's right to dress sexy and feel good in her body. If men wrongly assume that she'll sleep with them, then too bad for them...
Emilia Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Laughing at the women that blame you for this for being 'too sexual' OP. Sisters will always tell you to keep it more modest even if you are not doing anything wrong. It's because you are young and not assertive enough yet. Older women tell guys where to shove it, so the men know they get away with more around younger ones, that's why some prefer your age group too. You don't pull them up like older women do. Just make sure you keep your distance and only talk to the nicer ones, ignore the lewd guys. You will learn how to handle them with experience, watch what the older women do. 1
Dork Vader Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 This is a fairly complex topic IMO. You're going to get attention for what you advertise to men. If you dress overly sexual, men will be overly sexual with you. It's no different then a man flaunting his money and complaining of gold diggers. You get attention for what you advertise. You can be sexy, attractive and still get positive attention, you just have too know where to draw the line in the sand. There are other things that can land you in what I call the fling zone. Let's say I met you and you seem to be a partier, yet attractive. You're not someone I'm going to want to take home to introduce to my family. Let's say I'm interested and like everything about you.. Then add you as a friend on social media and see you have tons of bikini pictures or other wise sexual pictures... That is a turn off for LTR material in my book. Every guy is different but we all have things that will land you in the male version of the friend zone. Really think about what you as a person advertise to men. That is the key and keep in mind most if not all of your actions are part of that advertisement.
singsparkles Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Not all men are dogs, just most; and I say this as a man by the way. But you women aren't any better either, so don't ride your high horse so mightily There's plenty of bad and little good in both genders. stillcold, You are extremely right. Women can be just as bad. People in general can be dogs, unfortunately. But I know there's plenty of good out there too!
singsparkles Posted October 17, 2014 Posted October 17, 2014 Spot on! Excuse me?! I was just pointing out some men are dogs, but women can be too... just people in general! Nothing personal... as there are plenty of amazing people out there too!
Phoe Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 Laughing at the women that blame you for this for being 'too sexual' OP. Sisters will always tell you to keep it more modest even if you are not doing anything wrong. Huh. I didn't see any women accusing her of being too sexual. Not a single one. Can't see a single instance of a woman telling her to be more modest. I saw a small handful of MEN jumping to conclusions of her being sexual, but no women.
intricate Posted October 18, 2014 Posted October 18, 2014 This thread just oozes misogyny, it's incredible.
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