Lovebite Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I know what it means generally, but does it means that the guy views me as a one night stand? A hit and quit it? Nothing special? Not dating material? I really hope it doesn't come off as conceited when I say this, I am just repeating what I heard from guys and they said I am "hot" and they seem to find me sexually attractive because you can just tell. They are always quick to hope into bed with me and it seems that every guy I come in contact with wants to have sex with me right away. When I talk to guys it's very sexual on their part, I can't explain it, but I talk normally to them, and they all seem like dogs in heat or something? When a guy finds me sexually attractive does it mean I am not wife material? Like I am only good for sex in their eyes? I am not quick to hop in bed with anyone, but it upsets me that a guy always seems to want to hop into bed with me than to get to know me I wonder how a woman gives off that vibe or why guys think that about me? If you are desired sexually does that mean it is just strictly sexual? Please comment! Thanks!!
CoolCat771 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I know what it means generally, but does it means that the guy views me as a one night stand? A hit and quit it? Nothing special? Not dating material? I really hope it doesn't come off as conceited when I say this, I am just repeating what I heard from guys and they said I am "hot" and they seem to find me sexually attractive because you can just tell. They are always quick to hope into bed with me and it seems that every guy I come in contact with wants to have sex with me right away. When I talk to guys it's very sexual on their part, I can't explain it, but I talk normally to them, and they all seem like dogs in heat or something? When a guy finds me sexually attractive does it mean I am not wife material? Like I am only good for sex in their eyes? I am not quick to hop in bed with anyone, but it upsets me that a guy always seems to want to hop into bed with me than to get to know me I wonder how a woman gives off that vibe or why guys think that about me? If you are desired sexually does that mean it is just strictly sexual? Please comment! Thanks!! It's your own fault for sleeping with men so easily. They can sense it from you. No offense. Are you sure that you don't present yourself this way?
Author Lovebite Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 It's your own fault for sleeping with men so easily. They can sense it from you. No offense. Are you sure that you don't present yourself this way? To be honest I am a virgin. Really I am. It's embarrassing to reveal, so I literally don't have sex with anyone.
dynamicboy Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I know what it means generally, but does it means that the guy views me as a one night stand? A hit and quit it? Nothing special? Not dating material? I really hope it doesn't come off as conceited when I say this, I am just repeating what I heard from guys and they said I am "hot" and they seem to find me sexually attractive because you can just tell. They are always quick to hope into bed with me and it seems that every guy I come in contact with wants to have sex with me right away. When I talk to guys it's very sexual on their part, I can't explain it, but I talk normally to them, and they all seem like dogs in heat or something? When a guy finds me sexually attractive does it mean I am not wife material? Like I am only good for sex in their eyes? I am not quick to hop in bed with anyone, but it upsets me that a guy always seems to want to hop into bed with me than to get to know me I wonder how a woman gives off that vibe or why guys think that about me? If you are desired sexually does that mean it is just strictly sexual? Please comment! Thanks!! One thing does not exclude the other One woman can be sexually attractive and be wife material at the same time. Actually this is everyman's dream. Every man (I myself) wants his wife to be sexually attractive. But this does not mean that at looking and meeting a sexually attractive woman we instantly want to marry her or make her our girlfriend. Do keep in mind that having a girlfriend (not to mention a wife) entails a deep knowledge of that woman as a human being and that alone takes time. The first thing we notice is: looks, physical attraction You are doing great in that department Now, some men will want to dig deeper to find about you while some other guys wont be interested in digging deeper inside your soul. Such is life Sooner or later there will be a man that is interested in your heart and soul Be patient, it takes time 1
CoolCat771 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 To be honest I am a virgin. Really I am. It's embarrassing to reveal, so I literally don't have sex with anyone. Don't be embarrassed. Don't listen to peer pressure. Sexual promiscuity is a double edged sword. You're basically what every decent guy wants as well. You're like platinum babe. Don't give it up to some scumbag. Pick the right guy. I'll tell you, if I could find a virgin right now that's as pretty as you, I'd wait for her and I'd marry her. Real talk. It's that rare. How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I just want to see if there is such a thing as a virgin over 20 3
Andy_K Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Sex kind of trumps everything else. If a girl is hot, that is going to be the number 1 thing I notice about her. It doesn't mean I'm not interested in her as a person, or see her only as good for sex, but the desire for sex is still stronger than the desire to get to know her. The reality is that if you're that attractive, most guys will still want to sleep with you as soon as they can. It's just the slightly more savvy ones will hide that for a while first. You can't really tell what a guy is after if you let him control all your interactions, decide what conversations you have or where you go. If you want to find out what someone is about, you have to be actively interested in them. Ask them about things that would define their character. What do they believe in? What motivates them? What makes them happy? Only when you actually get a feel for how someone thinks will you really understand their intentions. 5
Redhead14 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Sex kind of trumps everything else. If a girl is hot, that is going to be the number 1 thing I notice about her. It doesn't mean I'm not interested in her as a person, or see her only as good for sex, but the desire for sex is still stronger than the desire to get to know her. The reality is that if you're that attractive, most guys will still want to sleep with you as soon as they can. It's just the slightly more savvy ones will hide that for a while first. You can't really tell what a guy is after if you let him control all your interactions, decide what conversations you have or where you go. If you want to find out what someone is about, you have to be actively interested in them. Ask them about things that would define their character. What do they believe in? What motivates them? What makes them happy? Only when you actually get a feel for how someone thinks will you really understand their intentions. Maybe the hard truth is that sexual attraction is the first motivator for both men and women. After all, when you first "see" someone, it's about, hey, he's/she's pretty cute, great legs, nice ass, great hair, etc. And, even if they are really hot and you start talking to them, you will get turned off if they can't carry on a conversation or do something gross, whatever In some cases, it's maybe at that point the decision is to just try to sleep with them and nothing else and just because of sexual attraction and because there isn't a connection beyond that. It's hard to know for sure. 1
Tayken Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Sex kind of trumps everything else. Really....this must be where I went wrong then. Now tell me, are we talking in terms of a future partner and mother of your kids, or just for a quick shag?
umirano Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 It's your own fault for sleeping with men so easily. They can sense it from you. No offense. Are you sure that you don't present yourself this way? CoolCat, not cool at all. How the hell have you concluded from her post that she sleeps around? 1
umirano Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 OP, I think my ex was like you. She was actually decent, hardly wore revealing clothes. But her eyes, movements and other things about her appearance just gave a lot of people that vibe. She'd get cat calls and gamy remarks a lot. You need to become aware of it (which you are by now) and use it wisely. Wait till a guy appears that appreciates your sexiness and your intelligence or sense of humor or the other inner qualities you have. There's no shame in nexting a dozen guys that just want to bed you if you don't want to be bedded just like that. No shame in wanting a partner that also values your personality either. 2
d0nnivain Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 If everything men say to you is sexual in nature you need to reframe how you talk to them. Men rarely say offensive things to me because my words & actions tell them such language would be unacceptable. Flirting in one thing. Having men be too familiar too soon or worse, crass, is a problem but it's one you have to shut down. 2
slizl Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I'm assuming you are young, dumb and can't hold a conversation so it turns to sex talk. 1
HereAndThenGone Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I'm assuming you are young, dumb and can't hold a conversation so it turns to sex talk. Rude and unjustified. 2
CoolCat771 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 CoolCat, not cool at all. How the hell have you concluded from her post that she sleeps around? Read my other post bro.
CoolCat771 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I'm assuming you are young, dumb and can't hold a conversation so it turns to sex talk. What a straight up loser 1
Author Lovebite Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 Thank you everyone! For you advice and support <3 It might be how the way I carry myself, I am not sure. @Coolcat I am 22 years old. And yeah people are going to make horrible assumptions about me, but whatever. Thanks!
CoolCat771 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Thank you everyone! For you advice and support <3 It might be how the way I carry myself, I am not sure. @Coolcat I am 22 years old. And yeah people are going to make horrible assumptions about me, but whatever. Thanks! Like I said, you're like top quality 11/10. Forget those people; they're brainwashed if they judge you for it. 1
Author Lovebite Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 I'm assuming you are young, dumb and can't hold a conversation so it turns to sex talk. No, surprisingly, I am intellectual and like to talk about things people don't talk about! I hold very thought-provoking, informative, conversations, and actually people get bored of me a lot haha, because I can go on and on about "The Fibonacci Sequence". Well you have a right to your opinion, but honestly, I think how the way you said it was rude, but it's ok.
Author Lovebite Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 Like I said, you're like top quality 11/10. Forget those people; they're brainwashed if they judge you for it. Thank you CoolCat I really am embarrassed about it though, no matter what. haha. But I appreciate your understanding
Redhead14 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I know what it means generally, but does it means that the guy views me as a one night stand? A hit and quit it? Nothing special? Not dating material? I really hope it doesn't come off as conceited when I say this, I am just repeating what I heard from guys and they said I am "hot" and they seem to find me sexually attractive because you can just tell. They are always quick to hope into bed with me and it seems that every guy I come in contact with wants to have sex with me right away. When I talk to guys it's very sexual on their part, I can't explain it, but I talk normally to them, and they all seem like dogs in heat or something? When a guy finds me sexually attractive does it mean I am not wife material? Like I am only good for sex in their eyes? I am not quick to hop in bed with anyone, but it upsets me that a guy always seems to want to hop into bed with me than to get to know me I wonder how a woman gives off that vibe or why guys think that about me? If you are desired sexually does that mean it is just strictly sexual? Please comment! Thanks!! It's OK if they find you sexually attractive. It's what they "see" after they've spent some time with you that counts. There will be men who come at you because they want sex, but when/if they find out who you are, they will back off of that and either say, she's not gonna put out and so I'm not interested or they will say "hey, she's pretty cool, I don't just want to sleep with her, I wanna know more 1
CoolCat771 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Thank you CoolCat I really am embarrassed about it though, no matter what. haha. But I appreciate your understanding If you were a guy you could, possibly, be embarrassed. Where are the girls like you in my city? "The Fibonacci Sequence"?? That is awesome. Lady, you're the type of woman a man would go to war for. 1
stillcold Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 To be honest I am a virgin. Really I am. It's embarrassing to reveal, so I literally don't have sex with anyone. That's nothing embarrassing at all... in fact, as a 22 year old virgin male myself who has chosen to wait, I would be ecstatic to find a woman like you! I don't know if you intend to stay a virgin but if you do, make sure you find a partner who is a virgin himself as dating a non-virgin would pretty much render your choice to be a virgin pointless since the whole point of being one is to share an intimate act ONLY between two people. Nonetheless, you say guys only want to have sex with you, so let me ask you this question: how do you dress?
CoolCat771 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 That's nothing embarrassing at all... in fact, as a 22 year old virgin male myself who has chosen to wait, I would be ecstatic to find a woman like you! I don't know if you intend to stay a virgin but if you do, make sure you find a partner who is a virgin himself as dating a non-virgin would pretty much render your choice to be a virgin pointless since the whole point of being one is to share an intimate act ONLY between two people. Nonetheless, you say guys only want to have sex with you, so let me ask you this question: how do you dress? In an ideal world, you'd be correct. However, in this world as it is, a man needs to know how to pleasure his woman. lol
SmartDude Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Hmm, I encountered a 20 something female virgin once. She had a different thing going on than you, or maybe its the same problem who knows. Guys would talk to her all the time and she had this aura of sex. it didn't make sense to me at the time. Basically the girl needed to get laid! The sexual repression was so bad, it was starting to leak out. Hungry males could sense it.
BluEyeL Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I noticed that I had that happened when I was gave off a vibe of not being confident when I first started dating. Later on, I had a 180 degree, they're afraid to ask.
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