tiarakitty Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Hi guys I'm just wondering - Is it O.K for me to say my first love is my second ex instead of my first ex? My first relationship with my first ex was 3 years (from 15 to 17 years old) while my second relationship with my 2nd ex is only 2 years (17 years old to 20 years old). When I'm with my 1st ex - I feel like I'm the one wearing pants (like the guy in the r/s) and there isn't much connection between us. I stayed with him because he was facing difficulties from his family's separation and thought the best I could do was to be there for him. He treated me very well but after the break up.. i felt relieved after dumping him But when I'm with my 2nd ex - I felt like a girl in the relationship. We had more connections. After the break up, I was devastated - I was dumped because he felt like he's too young and wants to explore. I never felt so heartbroken.. I thought that is my first deepest cut I asked my friends that… if it's weird to say that my 2nd ex is my first love and most of them disagreed and said my first boyfriend is supposed to be my first love because it was a very long term relationship after all…. So what do you guys think?
d0nnivain Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I had plenty of BFs but didn't meet my 1st love until my 20s. You can date somebody especially when you are younger and not love them.
tikay00 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Agree with the above post. When I started dating in my 20's (still in my 20's), I knew myself more, and knew what I wanted, and what was expected from me, and her. Can it be true love, if you haven't even found yourself, and evolved into an adult? Edit: On second thought, I think it can. Love is love, regardless of the stage you're at in your life. If you feel the love, then you feel the love. I think it's called puppy love.
mrty Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 No not at all. Its very likely you'll meet others you may feel more for, so your first true love may be 4th 5th 6th relationship. Take care.
Jet Lag Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I asked my friends that… if it's weird to say that my 2nd ex is my first love and most of them disagreed and said my first boyfriend is supposed to be my first love because it was a very long term relationship after all…. So what do you guys think? Hey, I'm 47, was with someone for over 20 years but I still feel like the guy I just broke up with was my first love. He was my best friend, I loved just spending time with him, felt a real closeness just sitting on the couch with him, etc etc etc So, what you say doesn't surprise me at all. It sucks though...when those relationships don't work! Big time!
leavesonautumn Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 I find it tough to say that my ex from high school was my first love. He was my first everything and I had strong feelings for him but I was so immature and there were a lot of issues in the relationship. I wasn't even really sure what was happening and we didn't have a plan to stay together forever. I'd say my 3rd boyfriend was my first love.
singsparkles Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Hi guys I'm just wondering - Is it O.K for me to say my first love is my second ex instead of my first ex? My first relationship with my first ex was 3 years (from 15 to 17 years old) while my second relationship with my 2nd ex is only 2 years (17 years old to 20 years old). When I'm with my 1st ex - I feel like I'm the one wearing pants (like the guy in the r/s) and there isn't much connection between us. I stayed with him because he was facing difficulties from his family's separation and thought the best I could do was to be there for him. He treated me very well but after the break up.. i felt relieved after dumping him But when I'm with my 2nd ex - I felt like a girl in the relationship. We had more connections. After the break up, I was devastated - I was dumped because he felt like he's too young and wants to explore. I never felt so heartbroken.. I thought that is my first deepest cut I asked my friends that… if it's weird to say that my 2nd ex is my first love and most of them disagreed and said my first boyfriend is supposed to be my first love because it was a very long term relationship after all…. So what do you guys think? Your first love can be anywhere from your 1st boyfriend to your 25th boyfriend. I think you will know when you're in true love and you will feel it... Sometimes people don't meet their true love until they've dated a million people and they're in their 30s/40s, while others meet their first love at 18. You never, ever know... but you will definitely feel it in your soul and know when you love someone.
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