cookiemonster26 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I don't know about other women, although I'm sure they get these types of guys were they make it so obvious they just want to sleep with you. They don't try to get to know you at all, or even ask how you are doing, they just go straight into talking about "things they want to do to you" or about "how sexy you are" Now my question is, how come whenever I nicely tell these men I am not looking fld a casual hookup they get all angry and defensive? Especially when it's so obvious they just want to hook up.
me85 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Because those types of guys are slime. Stay away from them at all costs. 4
Arieswoman Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 ....because they are childish, nasty, stupid and totally lacking in interpersonal skills. Walk away and keep walking. 1
Toodaloo Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Because they are thinking with their penis and not their brain... The penis is not the most rational body part. Don't take it to heart. Very few men are like that but you do tend to get a run of them sometimes. Chin up chook. I know its hard to believe sometimes but most men are sane, rational human beings who know how to behave. 1
Emilia Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Now my question is, how come whenever I nicely tell these men I am not looking fld a casual hookup they get all angry and defensive? Especially when it's so obvious they just want to hook up. They are young and don't take rejection well. They are probably competing with their mates on how many women they can pull or some other stupid thing. 1
Redhead14 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 It's an ego thing. Plain and simple. It's immature and a sign of the disrespectful/misogynistic view of women they have. 5
Tayken Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 They are young and don't take rejection well. They are probably competing with their mates on how many women they can pull or some other stupid thing. Now Now...don't for a second think there aren't some older geezers doing exactly the same thing. Oh, there are some women doing just this
Author cookiemonster26 Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 Its quite annoying. Like when a guy doesn't even ask about you and only talks about how beautiful you are and makes sexual comments, its obvious they just want sex. Then when you tell them you aren't looking for that they go crazy trying to defend themselves, turn the tables on you, say "how could you think I just wanted a hookup" etc etc I definitely meet ALOT of jerks. I think I need suggestions on where to meet decent guy (because free online dating sites has too many jerks)
longjohn Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I don't know about other women, although I'm sure they get these types of guys were they make it so obvious they just want to sleep with you. They don't try to get to know you at all, or even ask how you are doing, they just go straight into talking about "things they want to do to you" or about "how sexy you are" Now my question is, how come whenever I nicely tell these men I am not looking fld a casual hookup they get all angry and defensive? Especially when it's so obvious they just want to hook up. Don't waste your time on those boys. There are plenty of men out there that actually want to get to know a lady vs treating her like a lump of meat.
mammasita Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Be thankful they make it obvious, some are snakes and don't show their true colors until after they've slithered into your life. Consider it a gift, open it and move on. 1
Redhead14 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Its quite annoying. Like when a guy doesn't even ask about you and only talks about how beautiful you are and makes sexual comments, its obvious they just want sex. Then when you tell them you aren't looking for that they go crazy trying to defend themselves, turn the tables on you, say "how could you think I just wanted a hookup" etc etc I definitely meet ALOT of jerks. I think I need suggestions on where to meet decent guy (because free online dating sites has too many jerks) This is why you don't say "I don't want a hook up or an ONS or whatever". You say, "I've enjoyed your company or the time we've spent, but I don't think we are a good match" or something similar which says I'm not interested and clearly. Don't say, I hope to see you again as fluff or anything either.
slizl Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Because it has worked for them in the past so they stuck with it.
carhill Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 why do guys get so angry when...I nicely tell these men I am not looking fld a casual hookup? 1. Emotions speaking without the benefit of intellect or 2. It works
Author cookiemonster26 Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 This is why you don't say "I don't want a hook up or an ONS or whatever". You say, "I've enjoyed your company or the time we've spent, but I don't think we are a good match" or something similar which says I'm not interested and clearly. Don't say, I hope to see you again as fluff or anything either. This is a great way to say it! Any suggestion on what to say to a guy you just met (not on a dating site but on a soccer team) who starts making sexual remarks that make you feel uncomfortable?
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