warrenorabbits Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 My officemate is pretty, funny ... blah blah blah, you know the drill. I feel like we finish each other's sentences and have a real spark. I want to tell her how I feel but I'm hesitant for obvious reasons. Our workplace not only allows relationships but has something of a tradition of relationships forming between coworkers. I feel like I can we honest with one another so I could always just be candid and promise not to bring it up again if she says no. There's one other thing -- I admit that I have a real jealousy problem. Even though I know it's not logical, I get uncomfortable any time I see a girlfriend of mine with another guy. I'm working through it in therapy, but I know it could be a problem, especially in such tight quarters in a 75-25 male-female workplace. But it already sort of is a problem because I have to see her every day and worry that I'm going to lose my chance if I don't act. What would you do in my situation? (Please don't be offended if I argue with you; I haven't decided what I'm going to do and I feel more confident in whichever choice if I've argued the points/counterpoints.)
CoolCat771 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 My officemate is pretty, funny ... blah blah blah, you know the drill. I feel like we finish each other's sentences and have a real spark. I want to tell her how I feel but I'm hesitant for obvious reasons. Our workplace not only allows relationships but has something of a tradition of relationships forming between coworkers. I feel like I can we honest with one another so I could always just be candid and promise not to bring it up again if she says no. There's one other thing -- I admit that I have a real jealousy problem. Even though I know it's not logical, I get uncomfortable any time I see a girlfriend of mine with another guy. I'm working through it in therapy, but I know it could be a problem, especially in such tight quarters in a 75-25 male-female workplace. But it already sort of is a problem because I have to see her every day and worry that I'm going to lose my chance if I don't act. What would you do in my situation? (Please don't be offended if I argue with you; I haven't decided what I'm going to do and I feel more confident in whichever choice if I've argued the points/counterpoints.) Get her phone number. Start texting her a bit. Take the temperature. If it's warm on the phone and warmer at work, suggest something small. One thing I can tell you bro, is that you never can tell with these women what they want from you. She could also being trying to make someone else in the company jealous since it is 75-25 male/female. Tread carefully. Get her number first.
Author warrenorabbits Posted October 16, 2014 Author Posted October 16, 2014 Get her phone number. Start texting her a bit. Take the temperature. If it's warm on the phone and warmer at work, suggest something small. One thing I can tell you bro, is that you never can tell with these women what they want from you. She could also being trying to make someone else in the company jealous since it is 75-25 male/female. Tread carefully. Get her number first. Already done. Actually, I'm now starting to feel a bit hesitant. We have some real sparks at work but I'm getting a somewhat tepid response otherwise. I just don't want to rush into something without really wanting it. At the same time, it's hard to walk away when I feel like we're so similar.
CarrieT Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Ask her on a PROPER date; dinner, best behavior, get to know her outside of work and put your best foot forward. You aren't rushing a relationship - it is just dinner.
CoolCat771 Posted October 16, 2014 Posted October 16, 2014 Already done. Actually, I'm now starting to feel a bit hesitant. We have some real sparks at work but I'm getting a somewhat tepid response otherwise. I just don't want to rush into something without really wanting it. At the same time, it's hard to walk away when I feel like we're so similar. Hmm.. tepid outside of work? Tread lightly. That's a little dangerous. You can try finding an excuse to call her
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