strongarm Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 I have read all the post trying to find something which could help me with this, that failed. I am with a woman now who I love so much, earlier in our relationship she cheated with her ex-husband. I saw the rule of no contact which is suppose to work, but that can't work for me because they have two children together. How do I deal with his presence after what has happened? It is driving me insane. He still tries to get her back, she's been faithful to me since then (I think) but he still tries. What do I do? We are constantly fighting about this. Link to post Share on other sites
brunoheart Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 Very difficult He is always going to be in the picture, that is for sure.To my mind if she cheated on you once with him, she can do it again-whats to stop her! Do you make more money than him?If thats the case then from a financial point of view she might not. All I can say is that you are faced with two choices 1.Leave her and the chaos behind and find someone you can trust. 2.Stay and put up with the indecision, worry, constant intrusion into your space. As no matter what she tells you, the doubts will always be there. Link to post Share on other sites
alicia24 Posted March 10, 2005 Share Posted March 10, 2005 I feel really bad for you. This just happened to me a little while ago. This guy I was dating was still sleeping with his baby's momma behind my back. The baby momma was actually the one who told me because he was telling her we werent together and she saw us and figured out what was going on. Anyway, i left him and never looked back. It hurt and I cried and I really loved him, but it was the best thing to do. Even if we did try to work it out like he wanted, I knew that I could never trust him again and I knew I could never let go of the situation because they have a child together and she would understandably always be in the picture. Leave now. Its the best thing I ever did for myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author strongarm Posted March 11, 2005 Author Share Posted March 11, 2005 I do love her so much and it's hard for me to just walk away. I know it's probably the best thing to do but she keeps swearing to me she will never hurt me again (oh yea she cheated with him 3 times) the last one hurt more because we were more serious then. Yes I make more money than he does, he pretty much doesn't support his children and could care less if he does or not. His idea of being a dad is playing with them when they visit and giving them no financial support just all play. She says she loves me more than anything and honestly I've had no reason to think she's still having sex with him. But yes him being around is driving me insane. I have no kids of my own. Does your advice still stand? Link to post Share on other sites
alicia24 Posted March 11, 2005 Share Posted March 11, 2005 I say you still get ou now. If she cheated when you were "more serious" than she has no respect for you, herself or you relationship. She sucks. I should hook her up with my cheating ex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author strongarm Posted March 12, 2005 Author Share Posted March 12, 2005 Thank you, your advice helped a lot and although you are right about hooking her up with your ex, somehow those kind of people never end up with each other. Link to post Share on other sites
brunoheart Posted March 15, 2005 Share Posted March 15, 2005 Let us know how you get on.Best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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