duuuuuude Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Long evening date ends; I felt it went great with plenty of conversation at an overall fun concert. I'm dropping her off at her place and on the ride there she's telling me what a great time she had, how she can't wait to see me again, what else we can meet up for etc. After getting home myself I decide it's late and I'll just send her a message in the AM just to recap I had a great time with her and if she has anything in mind for next the date. One week later? No response still. It's completely understandable if it didn't go as well for her as it did for me, but why hype it up so much at the end? Sigh, oh well, onto the next I guess.
daizy Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 She could've simply had a change of heart after thinking it over, or realized she has too much on her plate. There's been times I had fun but second guessed/changed my mind after even though I was enjoying myself in the moment. It does suck though.
Georgia2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 OP guys do this to me all the time. It just part of the dating world and it does suck. But we have to through the bad to get to The One. 1
Author duuuuuude Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 OP guys do this to me all the time. It just part of the dating world and it does suck. But we have to through the bad to get to The One. Sorry, reading my thread title I can see where I err'd Should be titled "Ugh, why do people have to pretend a date went great?" 1
gaius Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 So what would you have preferred? Uncomfortable silence? Her telling you she didn't have a great time after you told her you did? Or maybe even gone full honest and told you how she can't wait to get home so she doesn't have to interact with you anymore? Just be grateful she was nice enough to spare you the upfront humiliation.
Tayken Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Sorry, reading my thread title I can see where I err'd Should be titled "Ugh, why do people have to pretend a date went great?" It's the diplomatic way of being polite, especially if you are giving her a ride. I mean just think how awkward the ride back will be if she laid it on you right there that the date was rubbish. Dates are tricky, and people change their mid all the time. Luckily I have NOT been on the receiving end of this yet...touch wood (yes touch wood).
Tik Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Cop the feeling and charge it to experience man. It just means when you do meet new chick 2.0 you're going to be that much better at all this.
Jules Dash Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 She was just being polite. You have to let people down easy most of the time.
Arieswoman Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Ugh, why do women have to pretend a date went great? For the same reason guys pretend a date went great and then never call - who knows?
somedude81 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 So what would you have preferred? Uncomfortable silence? Her telling you she didn't have a great time after you told her you did? Or maybe even gone full honest and told you how she can't wait to get home so she doesn't have to interact with you anymore? Just be grateful she was nice enough to spare you the upfront humiliation. How about she continued to talk about what ever conversation topic was being discussed? Instead of talking about how great a time she had and how she can't wait to see him again. If I had no intention of ever seeing a girl again, I absolutely would not tell her that I'm excited about seeing her again next week. I'd wouldn't try to mislead her at all and instead talk about something else. 3
Redhead14 Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 How about she continued to talk about what ever conversation topic was being discussed? Instead of talking about how great a time she had and how she can't wait to see him again. If I had no intention of ever seeing a girl again, I absolutely would not tell her that I'm excited about seeing her again next week. I'd wouldn't try to mislead her at all and instead talk about something else. Dealing with these situations is a matter of experience and maturity. You should always let the other person know that you are not interested in another date. You can be honest without being hurtful. Not only that, if the other person is hurt by it, then they are bringing too much hope and/or expectation to the date. However, he or she may have, at the time, actually been interested in another date, but after going home and some time has passed, has done some re-evaluation and reflection. This happens, oftentimes, if the man doesn't ask for another date and waits too long to set one up. If she says she wants to see him again and he wants to see her, he should set up the next date at the end of the current date or tell her he will call her the next day to set something up and do that. Men do it too. They say they had a great time but really didn't. If nothing is set up after the first date, each party should go home and not think about it anymore. If they had a great time, it's just another nice night out. If they didn't, so be it.
HereNorThere Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 That's called the slow fade and if you date long enough, you'll eventually have to pull it on someone else. Be thankful when it happens because it could be much, much worse. I once had a girl who totally misrepresented herself physically (myspace angles, instagram filters, etc.) but I was a gentleman during the date, kept my cool, but I'm sure she could tell the glaring difference in our appearances. Long story short, she texted me insults for a week, wrote nasty things about me on twitter, etc. I'd much rather be slow faded than assaulted.
Gaeta Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 So a few minutes ago I was exchanging on text with my daughter when this silly picture came up. My daughter started laughing and said.. wth!! I text you this silly picture days ago and now it's popping up !!! Text is not reliable. Call her. If she does not answer then leave a message. You have nothing to lose.
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