daizy Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 Although I do attract different types, I noticed lately it's guys who are super extroverted/sexual/player or pretend to be. I dated a nice guy for four years, things didn't work and now this is what I attract. I feel like the other guys who are actually looking for relationships aren't open enough to tell me (they're indirect and tell my friends instead). I'll admit dating for so long and finally being single I've been craving more excitement and fun, but I'm learning that I crave deeper connections with people and those kind of short relationships don't satisfy me. I don't think it's the way I act. I often get told I look innocent, and seem reserved/closed off. I'm outgoing to an extent. I'm pretty confident about my looks, I'm not super hot or anything but I get a reasonable amount of compliments and attention. I'm nice, but I still hold my ground and don't let people walk over me. So I don't know. I thought being the way I am, I'd attract proper guys/men lol. Maybe it's my age and the guys around my age? I'm 22. What can I do differently to attract the nicer guys?
Woggle Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 oN a subconscious level you might be attracted to them.
Author daizy Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 oN a subconscious level you might be attracted to them. Well I am. They're charming and fun most of the time, but I know they aren't the real deal however they're the only ones approaching me :/ I used to be told I'm intimidating. I know some of the quieter guys have said that. I don't do anything to be intimidating though...
HereAndThenGone Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 I get the "you're intimidating" comments here and there too. I don't know what it is that gives off that vibe. I'm nice to everyone. Even friends. When I finally start being friends with a girl, I've gotten the, "when I first met you, I thought you'd be a b*tch" comments too. I don't know what I'm doing but I'm a nice person. I'm a little reserved, maybe I'm not "smiley" enough? I don't know. Anyways, ya. Same boat. If you figure out the answer, please let me know.
Author daizy Posted October 15, 2014 Author Posted October 15, 2014 I get the "you're intimidating" comments here and there too. I don't know what it is that gives off that vibe. I'm nice to everyone. Even friends. When I finally start being friends with a girl, I've gotten the, "when I first met you, I thought you'd be a b*tch" comments too. I don't know what I'm doing but I'm a nice person. I'm a little reserved, maybe I'm not "smiley" enough? I don't know. Anyways, ya. Same boat. If you figure out the answer, please let me know. Yeah maybe, I don't even have a resting bitch face. I just don't smile when I don't need to. Do you act really assertive and confident? I feel like that comes into play too.
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