Swimmer916 Posted October 14, 2014 Posted October 14, 2014 My ex gf of 4 years broke up with me right when we graduated college (about 5 months ago). I broke up with her once sophomore year. Our relationship became shaky and although she was an absolutely amazing girl, we didn't match well in the long run. What really kills me is that I've always had somewhat low self-esteem about my physical appearance. She was such a beautiful girl that it was an amazing ego boost for me. I would always think to myself "Wow how did I manage to get a girl this beautiful". I know there is a lot more to looks and thats why we ultimately broke up (We didn't share a similar sense of humor, she was to worried about what others though, very much an introvert whereas I was a lot more outgoing). I've since been living in a city close to her for work (the plan was to eventually live together). I made a lot of new friends at work, been doing well at my job, etc but I still can't get over her. She made me feel like twice the person I am. I've tried to talk to a few girls but when I do I always compare them to her. Always. I hate it. I just feel like my ex was way out of my league and I'll never find someone as amazing as her. She has a new BF now and she's moved on. I just gotta pick myself up and stop making comparisons...its just so hard
brazilian Posted October 15, 2014 Posted October 15, 2014 How old are you guys? The problem with being good-looking is that you have too many options and it takes you much longer to learn what really matters. I once broke up with a guy because I was out of his league. Took me about 6 very long and sad years to learn that he had everything I should be looking for. But you cant show her she has to learn for herself. And you certainly will not sit and wait. It is about time you realize that you have to evolve to the point where you feel twice the man that you are because you are truly loved by a good, caring, honest, loyal person, and not by a pretty girl. The best way to improve your own self-esteem is to start valuing in other people those you think are your own best qualities. So if you are not super hot, be the best man you can be and start looking for someone with the same qualities. It will pass. You will love again. And hopefully for the right reasons this time.
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